u/AdditionalOptimism

I also wanted to say this may start out online, but I have no problem transitioning to something actual, something in real life. It's just that first step being online, I find it's a safer way to meet people, and over such a wide range as well. Lastly I'm looking for a relationship, I don't particularly enjoy the process finding someone, I'm straight up not having fun, bro.

Meeting someone, like a lot of other things, is about timing. You find the right person, in the right place, at the right time and just everything falls into place serendipitously. Only my timing sucks, and I don't know where to look for the perfect person for me. So I'm taking the old approach, let's throw some shit at the wall and let's see what sticks..

I just mean to say if you don't know what you are doing, you are going to have to try a lot of different methods to figure it out. Human connections are so difficult, you take one person, look at all their encounters meeting people, connecting with people, then add all the trauma, the pain, and the uncomfortable situations that occurred because of that, then double it. It's that old adage of how do porcupines fuck? Very carefully.

But the good news is I only have to be successful once (yeah right), so like the many times I've won the lottery (never once) I'm going to sort this all out. So this is less about me, and more about appealing to you, to your sense of humor, to your curiosity, to your hope of finding what you are looking for as well. My main hope for this is that an actual flawed and imperfect individual, with patience, and with the understanding takes a chance.  

So here is my deal: let me lay it out and you can decide it's worth the time investing in getting to know me.

I'm a Dominant, simply that means I like taking control sexually. It doesn't mean to ignore your partner, it doesn't mean to be cruel if you want. Just means I like to take charge when it comes to play. Also not just sexually, I like looking after my partner, making sure she eats, or that she takes her meds, or that she gets enough rest.

I take a supportive, caring approach to how I interact with my partner. It doesn't come from a I know better place either, I just want her to be safe, healthy, and happy. That's it, no ulterior motive or anything, I like to build the foundation with my partner using communication, mutual respect, and by listening to each other. I've found this to be the approach that works for me. 

This doesn't mean exclusion to anything else you can find in a dynamic, you like to be degraded (I suck at it) we can explore that. You like to be hurt, wonderful I like to spank/paddle/bite my submissive. If you need someone who's going to gently guide you, I'm good with that.

I've been a Dominant for a long ass time, I've met and shared dynamics with amazing wonderful people. That means I've have experience, and a great understanding of how things work, and how to engage with people. But I can't do everything 100 percent, you have to be willing to engage, open, and give of yourself, and your time to this dynamic We are creating this together, and if you don't invest of yourself into it then it's going to suck. This isn't magic, it takes effort, energy, and time just like any worthwhile thing.

As for who I'm looking for, I'd like someone who is kind, funny, intelligent, and compassionate. Someone who does have time for engaging throughout the day, and into the evenings as well. I also need someone who's open to voice conversations via an app as well. I can't subsist solely on texting alone.

As for the physical I'm less focused on that, you can be curvy, have a mom bod, be slender, or athletic. It doesn't really matter to me so long as there is a mutual attraction. But so it's clear I'm focused primarily on the mental aspects of who a person is than how in shape she is. 

So that's my spiel, I apologize if this came off more angry than I intended, I'm more than happy to get to know you, and for us to learn about each other. I'm really taking a relaxed, chill approach with this. Not forcing anything, not creating uncomfortable pressure, just allowing us to vibe off each other as we learn about one another, and how and if we fit together as two people and seeing if we can create something wonderful together.

Meeting someone, like a lot of other things, is about timing. You find the right person, in the right place, at the right time and just everything falls into place serendipitously. Only my timing sucks, and I don't know where to look for the perfect person for me. So I'm taking the old approach, let's throw some shit at the wall and let's see what sticks..

I just mean to say if you don't know what you are doing, you are going to have to try a lot of different methods to figure it out. Human connections are so difficult, you take one person, look at all their encounters meeting people, connecting with people, then add all the trauma, the pain, and the uncomfortable situations that occurred because of that, then double it. It's that old adage of how do porcupines fuck? Very carefully.

But the good news is I only have to be successful once (yeah right), so like the many times I've won the lottery (never once) I'm going to sort this all out. So this is less about me, and more about appealing to you, to your sense of humor, to your curiosity, to your hope of finding what you are looking for as well. My main hope for this is that an actual flawed and imperfect individual, with patience, and with the understanding takes a chance.  

So here is my deal: let me lay it out and you can decide it's worth the time investing in getting to know me.

I'm a Dominant, simply that means I like taking control sexually. It doesn't mean to ignore your partner, it doesn't mean to be cruel if you want. Just means I like to take charge when it comes to play. Also not just sexually, I like looking after my partner, making sure she eats, or that she takes her meds, or that she gets enough rest.

I take a supportive, caring approach to how I interact with my partner. It doesn't come from a I know better place either, I just want her to be safe, healthy, and happy. That's it, no ulterior motive or anything, I like to build the foundation with my partner using communication, mutual respect, and by listening to each other. I've found this to be the approach that works for me. 

This doesn't mean exclusion to anything else you can find in a dynamic, you like to be degraded (I suck at it) we can explore that. You like to be hurt, wonderful I like to spank/paddle/bite my submissive. If you need someone who's going to gently guide you, I'm good with that.

I've been a Dominant for a long ass time, I've met and shared dynamics with amazing wonderful people. That means I've have experience, and a great understanding of how things work, and how to engage with people. But I can't do everything 100 percent, you have to be willing to engage, open, and give of yourself, and your time to this dynamic We are creating this together, and if you don't invest of yourself into it then it's going to suck. This isn't magic, it takes effort, energy, and time just like any worthwhile thing.

As for who I'm looking for, I'd like someone who is kind, funny, intelligent, and compassionate. Someone who does have time for engaging throughout the day, and into the evenings as well. I also need someone who's open to voice conversations via an app as well. I can't subsist solely on texting alone.

As for the physical I'm less focused on that, you can be curvy, have a mom bod, be slender, or athletic. It doesn't really matter to me so long as there is a mutual attraction. But so it's clear I'm focused primarily on the mental aspects of who a person is than how in shape she is. 

So that's my spiel, I apologize if this came off more angry than I intended, I'm more than happy to get to know you, and for us to learn about each other. I'm really taking a relaxed, chill approach with this. Not forcing anything, not creating uncomfortable pressure, just allowing us to vibe off each other as we learn about one another, and how and if we fit together as two people and seeing if we can create something wonderful together.

Meeting someone, like a lot of other things, is about timing. You find the right person, in the right place, at the right time and just everything falls into place serendipitously. Only my timing sucks, and I don't know where to look for the perfect person for me. So I'm taking the old approach, let's throw some shit at the wall and let's see what sticks..

I just mean to say if you don't know what you are doing, you are going to have to try a lot of different methods to figure it out. Human connections are so difficult, you take one person, look at all their encounters meeting people, connecting with people, then add all the trauma, the pain, and the uncomfortable situations that occurred because of that, then double it. It's that old adage of how do porcupines fuck? Very carefully.

But the good news is I only have to be successful once (yeah right), so like the many times I've won the lottery (never once) I'm going to sort this all out. So this is less about me, and more about appealing to you, to your sense of humor, to your curiosity, to your hope of finding what you are looking for as well. My main hope for this is that an actual flawed and imperfect individual, with patience, and with the understanding takes a chance.  

So here is my deal: let me lay it out and you can decide it's worth the time investing in getting to know me.

I'm a Dominant, simply that means I like taking control sexually. It doesn't mean to ignore your partner, it doesn't mean to be cruel if you want. Just means I like to take charge when it comes to play. Also not just sexually, I like looking after my partner, making sure she eats, or that she takes her meds, or that she gets enough rest.

I take a supportive, caring approach to how I interact with my partner. It doesn't come from a I know better place either, I just want her to be safe, healthy, and happy. That's it, no ulterior motive or anything, I like to build the foundation with my partner using communication, mutual respect, and by listening to each other. I've found this to be the approach that works for me. 

This doesn't mean exclusion to anything else you can find in a dynamic, you like to be degraded (I suck at it) we can explore that. You like to be hurt, wonderful I like to spank/paddle/bite my submissive. If you need someone who's going to gently guide you, I'm good with that.

I've been a Dominant for a long ass time, I've met and shared dynamics with amazing wonderful people. That means I've have experience, and a great understanding of how things work, and how to engage with people. But I can't do everything 100 percent, you have to be willing to engage, open, and give of yourself, and your time to this dynamic We are creating this together, and if you don't invest of yourself into it then it's going to suck. This isn't magic, it takes effort, energy, and time just like any worthwhile thing.

As for who I'm looking for, I'd like someone who is kind, funny, intelligent, and compassionate. Someone who does have time for engaging throughout the day, and into the evenings as well. I also need someone who's open to voice conversations via an app as well. I can't subsist solely on texting alone.

As for the physical I'm less focused on that, you can be curvy, have a mom bod, be slender, or athletic. It doesn't really matter to me so long as there is a mutual attraction. But so it's clear I'm focused primarily on the mental aspects of who a person is than how in shape she is. 

So that's my spiel, I apologize if this came off more angry than I intended, I'm more than happy to get to know you, and for us to learn about each other. I'm really taking a relaxed, chill approach with this. Not forcing anything, not creating uncomfortable pressure, just allowing us to vibe off each other as we learn about one another, and how and if we fit together as two people and seeing if we can create something wonderful together.