r/MarriedButChatting

Hey you. Gonna try something shorter since the long post yields mostly bullshit as well. Here I go.

About me: dog mom, witty, overeducated, curvy, compassionate, looking for a connection that is genuine, exciting, dare I say loving, and exists in this alternate Reddit universe somewhat removed from real life.

Things I want: a man with high EQ and IQ, who is funny, kind, and also wants a real connection with low stakes. I love body hair, facial hair, and wit. Also curls, coherent writing, and effortless conversation that flows.

If you can make me laugh, I’ll like you. I’ll try to do the same. We can figure out the rest together when we chat.

Please be 35+ unless you look like Kyle Gallner in Strange Darling

*notabot guys

Looking to make a genuine connection!

I'm married, but the intimacy just isn't there anymore. Not looking to change my relationship status, just looking for something real. The kind of connection that has you checking your phone more than usual and laughing to yourself at your desk.

I want to get to know you first, so please don't dive straight into NSFW talk or expect daily sex talk. This is not a one night stand.

Make me laugh, tell me about your day, your stresses and worries, your secrets in our safe space, make me swoon, then you can make me wet. Rinse and repeat.

You know the saying, "I'm here for a good time, not a long time." Well guess what, I'm here for a good long time. I'm just really craving a connection that will bring me back alive, light a fire within me and leave me wanting more.

About me: dark hair, tanned skin, petite, quick to laugh, terrible at hiding when I'm interested. Looking for someone who can throw me around physically and mentally, keep me on my toes, and make me laugh in equal measure.

If you've read this far and you're interested, tell me your age and the current time when you message me, that's how I'll know you actually read this.

Hope to see you soon.

Sincerely,

*notabot

Hey there! I'm a married mom of one living on the East Coast. I've been with my husband for a little over 11 years and things are just slowly fading. I've been going through the daily motions it feels like for the last 3 years so I'm ready for something new and exciting! While I'm not looking to change any situations I'm open to whatever happens.

I'm looking for someone who I can share my day to day with. Random phone calls throughout the day just to see how you're doing or to hear your voice. I want to smile when I see your name pop up on my phone and the same for you. Someone who listens and doesn't judge, someone that can see me for me.

A little about me, I'm 5'3 , a little chunky, I have brown hair and hazel eyes. I have some tattoos and my nose pierced. In my free time I enjoy car rides to just escape the world while jamming out. I love to cook and bake when I have the chance. If I'm not cooking working or hanging out at home I'm on the best playgrounds with my little man.

If you made it this far, I really hope to hear from you! 😊

*notabot

To preface; I am a plus sized black woman. I am curvy and told I’m not fat though quite often but if you don’t like plus size women I’m not for you. I’m cute (5’6, brown skin, dimples). I love to laugh and have fun conversations. I am very sexual once we get there but I ask that you don’t rush that. I am only looking for Black and preferably African American men. Attraction is important for me. If we have chatted before and things didn’t quite get off the ground don’t be afraid to give another holler. I am not trying to meet irl at any point. Oh also *notabot Thank ya. Now on to the post…

Hey handsome!

My story isn’t too interesting or novel. Just another woman who got married to someone who I grew apart from and probably never had the most in common with. Is your story like mine?

Do you miss being seen? Do you miss that little feeling of butterflies in your chest? Do you miss someone noticing how special you really are? I do.

So here I am looking for the little piece to complete my puzzle and maybe I can complete yours?

Married midwest mama who is lookin to chat with someone mildly handsome, takes care of them selfs and knows how to make a woman feel she’s got all your attention. Please be within the ages of 26-36.

I wanna make a connection preferably long term. I’m CST timezone but if you can work with that there is no problems. I’ve been told I’m a vibe, pretty and funny(; I enjoy beach’s, water, concerts and music. For downtime I’m bed rotting and watching tv usually with my 420 bowl. Mama first, but always down to have a good time second.

*notabot

Let’s get to know one another?(:

And now that stupid post shows up in my feed every other time I come here because people ate that shit up for some odd reason. Like yeah fucking surprise, I’m here to get sexual with people, that’s what an affair is. Last thing I want is to talk to someone for days and find out they can’t take my drive or aren’t compatible. I already have disappointingly vanilla sex at home, I don’t need to find that shit here to. So I’m not going to come here white knighting to suck up to everyone trying to score brownie points with women I’ll never talk to most likely. Let’s swap early, let’s talk, let’s flirt, and if the spark is there let’s turn that shit into wildfire of sexual energy. Nothing says we can’t be sexual early and long term. Some affairs are nothing but sex and that’s ok.

*notabot

Want to see who's out there? Let's do the classic old school post! Post up your:
Age
Sex
Location

Married and in a dead bedroom looking for someone to get to know. Tall, attractive, attentive, affectionate, discreet, white married guy looking for a chat partner. Let’s connect and see where it goes.

*notabot

Not looking to change anyones situation. Let’s give each other what we’re lacking. Age and race are unimportant.

Okay, so i’m picky and forget i have a phone. if you’ve spoken with me recently or felt i ghosted you, my deepest condolences. i genuinely spend most of my time reading or on tiktok, sometimes i forget i have reddit. sometimes i say “im going to stop coming here”. then here i am running right back like a dog to a steak.

I realize i never make my intentions clear enough. so im going to try that now.

I am submissive by nature. i will yes sir the fuck out of someone. i’ve come to realize the things i want are almost unachievable. But i try anyway because i know it’s out there for me. So, someone out there will appreciate my yes sirs. I like a dominant man who isn’t afraid to be soft. don’t make it your entire personality, be funny. have a sense of humor.

Age range :30-42. i enjoy my older men.
Location: Within the same state as me at least. I would like to go offline at some point.
Body type: Not super picky but take care of yourself, that’s all i ask. health is important.

Me: *notabot and average mom body. dyed red hair cause i’m a faker. minimal tattoos but i have them. 8 of them and counting. big horror movie fan. dark romance fan. i’ll be asleep about 2.5 seconds after posting this cause i suck at everything except making you beautiful men blush and wonder how many times i was dropped as an infant.

Let’s talk about why the world sucks and how i’m poorly learning how to invest in stocks, okay? cool. meet you in the requests.

I'm alone, I just had my shower and feeling hornier than usual and really damn good in my body while my husband is fast asleep. Otc hubby is so boring so I thought why not have tun with strangers on Reddit and maybe show off.., I'm in a flirty and turned on headspace and ready to have fun and enjoy the moment instead of holding back, as far you're gonna obey me as your mistress.
Tell me your age, where you're from and what're you up to and don't forget to like the post so I know you're serious..

*notabot

About me…
Hello everyone- My names Moody (or Meg), 33 year old bbw (big beautiful gal) living out on the west coast. I am of course married and not looking to change my situation or yours! I’m simply looking to fill the voids and make a connection with someone that I could do the same for. I have no kids, and relatively have a lot of time to chat and connect besides when I work evenings(I work second shifts ew!!).

I tend to be somewhat of a nightowl so people who enjoy the late nights or perhaps work later would be best to be able to connect in that sense.

I’m a gamer(pc) and on disc regularly, as well as being into a variety of other little things and quirks. Come learn me!

Boundaries..
Because I am married I will not be exchanging any photos or videos. Sorry, it’s a boundary I won’t cross. It that’s a hard line for you, then I understand and wish you luck on your searches! Sincerely our minds could do better than any pictures anyways. We will never meet up. I’m open to all sorts of timezones of folks.

So what do I look like?
I stand about 5’5” and weight about 215lbs. I am somewhat active and been on a health journey for a little bit now. I have brown eyes and dark hair that’s wavy and goes to the middle of my back, my skin is lightly tanned and dotted with freckles over my shoulders, chest, and face. I’ve got a handful up top and bottom haha.

What do I want? Besides you of course! ;)
Preferably to connect with an older married man that has the time to build an emotional, mental, and sexually romantic connection. Someone who has a dominant energy and is more than happy taking the lead or lightening to load of my day. I also just want a good friend! Someone who can chit chat outside of when things get flirty, we can talk about all sorts of things whether it be world news, tv shows, nerd hobbies, regular hobbies, etc.

One liners will be ignored… Also don’t message me if you arent able to be up late dancing in the dark with me~

*notabot
Yucky..

Soooo it’s Tuesday, I feel like Tuesday’s are filler days. They don’t really have much of a purpose to the week. Only thing that would make Tuesday special is tacos haha
Anywho,
\*notabot
Things about me:
420 friendly
Cat lady
Mentally unstable
EST
Aries
Married since 2020
Currently

First of all of course I'm *notabot

does anyone really want that obsession again?! That's what I want. That all day craving for another person. Like water in the desert feeling.

A little about me to paint a picture. I'm 27, go to the gym daily so im in shape, have my own job and life, ride motorcycles in my spare time (yes I can wheelie), lightskin (think caramel), long and thick curly hair, I'm also 5'8 and 170. If you give me a chance I am high on the attractive scale. Try me

I want to flirt, bully, and make each other smile and laugh on the phone. Talk about everything from our days to our secrets and everything in between. I'm open minded so if any of this sounds like what you're looking for reach out.
Looking forward to hearing from you. Nothing to lose but everything to gain

P.S. I don’t have an age range requirement or anything. Just have a personality and know how to have a conversation is all I ask.

I’m a steady, down‑to‑earth woman who enjoys early morning walks, keeping a simple home, and spending time with my kids and close friends. I value kindness, emotional maturity, and people who show up consistently. I’m looking for someone who enjoys a quiet life, good conversation, shared routines, and genuine connection. If you’re thoughtful, dependable, and appreciate a woman who knows her worth, say hello.

*notabot

My previous posts have been full of details and desires and apparently entirely too many words (so I'm told)…. But also sadness, frustration, and hopelessness because I fear that I may never again have what I’m looking for. For the most part, I’ve come to terms with that… but in the off chance that my person is still out there, I’m still here. My little spark is flickering, but alive. *notabot

I’m just a normal person. The cute, curvy wife and mom next door with a career, a life, and all of the things that come with the package deal of being an adult. I am happily married, but he and I aren’t entirely sexually compatible. So I come here to find an escape and the stimulation that eludes me. The right mind, personality, and conversation can be incredibly intoxicating and addictive. But here’s the thing - I don’t generally want to talk about hobbies, pets, favorite foods, etc. I want deep, intelligent, seductive, and sexually charged conversations. I need someone who is at least my age (though I tend to be drawn to older), masculine, intelligent, conventionally attractive, charming, dominant to his core, and can stimulate my body by way of my mind. Talk to me in that lovely dichotomy that is sweet, hedonistic, dripping with pleasure and desire… and whisper to me all of the filthy things that will leave me breathless, blushed, and coming comply undone for you. Give me your fantasies, your filth, your deepest and darkest desires and I’ll bloom for you like the beautiful, dirty flower that I am.

I’m not here for exclusively vanilla or casual conversations. My preference is to dive in head first to see if we have chemistry and if we are compatible first. Your ability to capture my curiosity and stoke my desire will drive my interest in who you are as a person. I'm a little backwards like that. I am not a fan of 50 silly questions or mundane small talk. I wanted to keep this short, so I realize there is a lack of certain details. If you are curious for more, I encourage you to check out my profile to read more about me. A sexy voice note from a sexy voice will definitely move you to the front of the line (yes, you could send one in your initial message to me if you really wanted to...there are ways). I look forward to hearing from you.

After months of extensive market research, and some self-reflection, The Summer Wifey Collection has officially returned.

This season we're proud to reintroduce our Asian Edition.

Our flagship model is a 29F, standing at a travel-friendly 5'4". Finished in a golden summer tan with brown hair, brown eyes, fresh monthly gel manicures, and factory-installed gold jewelry.

Despite the compact design, this model comes equipped with thick thighs for structural integrity, an upgraded rear suspension, premium sarcasm, and an unfortunately contagious laugh.

Runs primarily on iced coffee, memes, and emotional validation.

Manufacturer recommends meaningful conversations for full product experience.

Previous users have reported unexpected side effects including:

Knowing the weather in New York, sending songs at 11:30 PM, smiling every time your phone lights up, and suddenly feeling like it's 95° during certain conversations.

Product Philosophy

This model was never designed for just talking or just flirting.

The best experience lives somewhere in the middle.

Elite banter. Playlists. Exploring fantasies. Talking about absolutely everything and absolutely nothing. Getting lost in our own little world for a while: time permitting.

Some conversations will make you laugh.

Some might make the room feel suspiciously warmer.

Either way, the goal is simple:

To make real life just a little more fun before we both log off and get back to it.

Minimum Operating Requirements

Recommended for users 30-45 years old with emotional intelligence, healthy communication skills, and a fully developed frontal lobe.

Marriage and affairs experience preferred. Applicants with older children are encouraged. Toddler owners are kindly asked to reapply after surviving that phase.

Must have a full life outside of this program. Careers, hobbies, friendships, and family always take priority.

Occasional in-person quality assurance inspections may occur if schedules, geography, and common sense align.

Strict No Social Media Policy.

No Facebook. No Instagram. No TikTok. No LinkedIn.

Discretion isn't a bonus feature. It's the operating system.

Please respect work, family time, vacations, anniversaries, and the understanding that we both log off and return to our real lives.

Applicants requiring constant reassurance, immediate replies, or 24/7 access may not be compatible with this model.

Inventory is limited.

Warranty becomes void after:

"Good morning, beautiful."

Thank you for choosing MarriedButChatting. *notabot

We wish you a suspiciously enjoyable summer.😉

"I admire her ability to stick to her guns" - That one** guy who sent a dick pic then got blocked because I stipulated 'unsolicited genitals will be blocked'

"She's so funny, a total riot" - A much too young redditor blatantly trying to get around my 'I prefer older men' line.

"She's totally empathetic and friendly and *notabot and nothing bad should ever happen to her“ - Some dude who likely got caught because why else would he ghost, right? RIGHT?

Married. No kidz. Pet rich. [Insert all those usual other disclaimers here].

Seeking an Australia/NZ based friend - male, older (than me), conversational, consistent, cute, capable of playing the long game.

You can look however you look, attraction is a funny thing. I'm judging you on your conversation first anyway.

DM only, no comments. Younger, low effort, and unsuitable attempts may not get a reply.

Play your elder millennial card by giving me your ASL.

Bonus points if you remember your MSN messenger username.

**there have been more than one.

Hello all!

*notabot

I’m a 36 year old twice-published author (two different genres and pen names) living on the East Coast of the US. My day job is doing anything my 1 year old female English Cream Golden Retriever wants (usually belly rubs or opening the door for the 7973947th time 😒) and attempting to get the voices in my head to do something that I can write about so I can avoid the mountain of dishes and laundry that somehow appear despite there only being two people in the household.

Like you, I’m married. I don’t want to bash my spouse or yours, we’re here and that’s enough information for me! I absolutely understand having responsibilities and that silences and time between messages is expected but if there will be a long silence all I ask is for a heads up if possible ☺️

A little about me:

*I’m a bigger girl. Plus size. BBW. Whatever you want to call it. I’m actively losing weight - help encourage me to keep going? I’ve lost over 70 pounds in the last year. My dog is a terrible yoga partner and she doesn’t like walks yet so indoor dance parties, reliving my high school color guard days with the flag I got on fb marketplace for $20 and my recumbent bike it is!

*I read nearly constantly. I am guaranteed to have at least one audiobook, one ebook and one physical book going at the same time so I can bounce around depending on mood and situation. (yay undiagnosed ADHD 🙄 - working on getting it diagnosed)

*I sing in a community choir that I’ve been part of since 2011 and I drive 90 minutes one way each week for rehearsals because they’re like family to me and I’m on the board of directors now as the Librarian and the Secretary.

*I love to cook and bake. I love cooking shows on tv and I don’t think I’ve ever done a recipe exactly as written yet - and I don’t plan to! I love being creative in the kitchen, in my office and sometimes in the bedroom 😏

*I love spending time with my family, my dog and my friends - best if I can see all of them at the same time!

*No kids for me. I found out at 20 it would take a lot of money and medical intervention for a *maybe* and I came to terms with that. I don’t hate kids, I just can’t have them and at this stage in my life… my dog is enough chaos to deal with! I grew up with cats and this is my first dog and she’s 98% good but that 2%… 🤦‍♀️😒

Who I’m looking for:

*Someone 30 or older

*Intelligence (college degree not required - I don’t have one!)

*Married or otherwise attached

*Kids or no kids, I’m not picky

*Has/had or at least is an animal lover.

*Has hobbies/personal interests

I’m hoping for a long-term best friend with flirty benefits when time/inclination allow. - Emphasis on Friend -. I have a higher drive than my spouse but it’s taken a hit since I started on antidepressants. I’d like to eventually move to telegram because Reddit chat/notifications aren’t the best.

If you like what you’ve read send me a message with who your fictional bestie would be and why.

**MAGA NEED NOT APPLY**

{low effort or copy/pasted messages will be ignored}

Want to see who's out there? Let's do the classic old school post! Post up your:
Age
Sex
Location

I’m 31F from Chicago have made similar post on here but didn’t get the good conversations yearn for ,I’m saying again to try my luck again.I’m here for a mix chitchat and deeper conversation whether its life,random thoughts, interest or something a little more flirtatious banter.

I’m saying it again like I said on my last post the I’m not here to change anyone situations just here to express myself here,I value kindness and respect because it develop effortless connection.

Lastly \*notabot, I often get criticized but my last post connect with people and I appreciated that I hope I get what I desire this time.