r/MarriedButChatting

It’s pouring rain right now… who else could be up sipping coffee?
Let’s just chat
*notabot
Just your average mom, hoping to find someone to vibe with. I love taking about most things..
I just want to keep this short & sweet, ik my inbox will hate me for this 😝
Looks (bc those are important)
Blonde hair, average mom bod but still hwp, beautiful eyes.. the list could go on :)
You: just don’t be boring, or under 30yo
Also *NotABot 😏

Want to see who's out there? Let's do the classic old school post! Post up your:
Age
Sex
Location

I'm not exactly on what I'm looking for yet, but I'm sure we can figure it out together.

I'm a stay at home mom and housewife, which means my days are usually spent cleaning, cooking, and chasing the children. In addition to never sitting down, some of my other hobbies include reading, hiking, bug hunting, and painting. I'm an avid fan of science fiction and science literature, my favorite authors being Dan Simmons, Steve Brusatte, and Fred Saberhagan. I like to stay fit and active, I might be a bit of a health nut.

My dear, sweet husband works away from home most nights which leaves me lacking in company.

As for appearances, I'm 5'10, 160lbs, and I'm told my glasses make me look like a sexy librarian. Pictures can be provided if we click.

Shall we see what we can get up to?

*notabot

32 F4M Muslim USA OR CANADA make me feel something

I don’t want sex and I’m *notabot. I want to feel something like love. Like being obsessed over each other. But of course still love our spouse more. But with you and me, there’s no responsibility, no commitment, no family, no in laws, no kids. Just each other. Let’s be just each others.

I have black wavy hair, soft warm caramel colored skin, and I have a mommy shaped body 😂 I’m a little mentally ill but so fun to talk to on text and sometimes on the phone.

But this will only work if you’re Muslim, I need us to understand and relate to each other. Bonus points if your family is from Bangladesh or Pakistan, but you were born and raised here. 30-45, beard, tall. Think villain/player vibes. Dare I say, a savior complex? Someone who steps in when things get messy, but knows exactly when to use a firm hand and a gentle touch.

Come play with me. I’m waiting for you. Help me filter you out quicker: send me age, current country, ethnicity

Brownie points if you know username and song reference :) 🎵

*notabot

Hi! I’ll give you the run down of me:

🌟 only married for a couple years
🌟 I enjoy the novelty of messaging people online
🌟 I’m big into secret romances
🌟 I want something quite impactful, but happy to see where things organically lead
🌟 I’d describe myself as: caring, funny, goofy, sentimental / deep, romantic, supportive
🌟 I love pokemon & pop punk genre music

Id love to find people on my wavelength!

A few things I usually prefer in a man online:

💓 not sleazy (we can build up to fun chats in time)
💓 humble, not arrogant (if you describe yourself as handsome, easy on the eyes, il get the ick and unlikely to respond lol)
💓 NOT in an open marriage / poly / single / divorced, must be married and looking for a secret girl on the side
💓 this is a tough one but kinda preferably no children but I honestly don’t mind if you have them :)
💓 has some kind of kookiness to them, maybe a rock collection, a crazy story that’s happened to you, a secret talent like juggling, a specific goal / dream I could support you on?

Oh also, I haven’t added my location BUT I am happy to share it when we chat :) I wanted it to be a little surprise.

Drop me a message if you like what you have written! I do not respond to just “hey” or messages that don’t tell me anything about you.

We talk a lot here about bots, ghosting, dry conversations and people disappearing...

But in real human interaction, what actually makes you slowly lose interest in someone or stop replying altogether?

Not talking about obvious stuff like scams or creeps.

I mean normal conversations that just... die.

Was it:
lack of curiosity?
trying too hard?
sexual too fast?
no emotional intelligence?
boring answers?
trauma dumping?
no effort?
too distant?

Or maybe you realized YOU were the one disappearing from people for certain reasons.

I think this is one of those topics where everyone has a completely different experience, and honestly it says a lot about how people connect today.

Curious to read real answers and maybe understand each other a bit better.

And just to keep tradition alive: 42 (M4F) from Brazil. *Notabot

Short Latina with a soft accent, a pretty smile, and just enough attitude to keep things interesting.

Looking for a man who can flirt dangerously well and actually meet eventually.

I want tension, chemistry, late-night messages, and something worth losing sleep over.

I know we both have lives, so don’t expect me here 24/7 — and I’ll respect yours too. But if we’re doing this, let’s make it worth it.

Confident. Masculine. A little trouble.

*notabot :)

I really should be in bed but I felt compelled to make a post before I go. What am I looking for you’re probably wondering. I honestly don’t know any more but maybe it’s you. I am *notabot I swear. I’m a married stay at home mom hoping to find someone worth my time and effort.

I like laughing until my tummy hurts, eating dessert for dinner, learning and trying new things, staying active., cold weather, outside activities and cozy in door hobbies. If I had to describe myself using two words I’d use resplendent and an enigma. Maybe there are better words to describe me but I really like those two. I should really read more so I can discover more fascinating words.

I also like men who are tall (6’ +) , active , in good shape, smart, between the ages 45 and 52, funny, perceptive, knows what he wants and what he is looking for, in the same time zone as me, available evenings and weekends, looking for long term, into a slow burn, romantic but subtle about it, confident, easygoing and has hobbies and interests he enjoys talking about.

Now before you start typing you check all my boxes, listing all yours hobbies, telling me about your missing spark and dead bed room or how I’ve piqued your interest answer this one question. What do you think your biggest red flag is?

Feels like this is all men, a couple women or onlyfans models who want you to sign up. This shit is exhausting

*notabot

Dipping my toes back in to look for a special someone. Typically story - married with kids and in a dead bedroom and roommate scenario. The lack of connection and desire is deafening. 

I love keeping busy - but I love having someone to share it with even more. I value consistent communication -- I'm not looking for just a 9-5p pocket boyfriend -- although I certainly understand that your priorities lie with your family and job. I just hope you're anxious to get to the point where it's time to be with me, too. And please don't be someone who goes to bed at 9p. I'm a night owl and need you around. 

Me: In the central time zone. 5'2" with a curvy mom bod. Intelligent, driven, sarcastic, random and a totally normal mom who no one would suspect this of. 
You: Witty and funny. Can banter and build tension. A masculine leader. Maybe a little clingy? Not a cake eater. Age 40-50, please.

Hoping to hear from you...

*notabot

I work a pretty demanding job (nurse) and see a lot of heavy things, so I’m just looking for some easygoing conversation and people to talk to outside of work.

I’m pretty low maintenance when it comes to chatting—I’m not on my phone all day, so I wi t expect the same from you!! But I like checking in when I can and having something consistent to look forward to.

About me: I’m 5’7, brunette, like staying active when I have the energy, but I also love a good lazy day. I’m into country music, sunshine, and anything that helps me unwind after work.

Mostly just looking to meet people who are easy to talk to, funny, and kind. Age and location don’t really matter as long as the conversation flows.

Hope everyone’s gearing up for a good summer :) I can’t wait to get to know you!

*notabot

I haven’t been on Reddit in ages, and when redownloading the app I didn’t even recall having access to this account (7 years as a redditor is crazy to me!) anyway - as you can tell by my title, I’m 33, married, no kids.. yet and from the PNW. Looking for fun/casual conversations. A bit about myself:

I am a yoga lover / gym goer
Cat mom
Tech worker and a bit nerdy
Sarcastic but funny
Vietnamese with minimal speaking skills ☹️
Will be the first person on the dance floor at a wedding once I get one drink in me 😂

If this sounds fun let’s chat! 21 questions and we can see if this can be a fun friendship. Cheers! *notabot

I am a kind, passionate, soulful person with a lot of depth, and I get the "you do not belong on reddit" much too often in response to both my personality and to the way I look. I want to find someone who also does not feel they belong here and who is healthy enough mentally to not cause any crazy issues for either of us. And I want to find another person who yearns for that same sort of deep emotional/spiritual connection and who has just as much to pour into this.

I love a lot of things about people.. but some of my favorites are people who are witty, down to earth, respectful, empathetic and grounded. I have been royally humbled by life in some ways.. so ideally you'll have faced some hardships too.

I'd hope to connect with someone who finds the same joy in music, creativity, and prioritizing wellness in all its forms. Someone who gives to the world and to other people more than they take. Someone a bit unconventional but not too reckless. *notabot

Hi! I’m 24, married, and just looking to meet new people for casual conversations and genuine connections. Life gets busy and sometimes it’s nice to talk to people outside your usual circle, hear different perspectives, and get to know others without expectations.

Flirty energy is fine, chemistry is cool, but good conversation is what keeps me around. Tell me something unexpected about yourself

*notabot

A marriage poisoned, left you yearning
Has sent you here in hopes of earning
The partner you so desire
Who sits behind this poem cure
With witty charm and clever allure
To stoke your inner fire

A handsome dad, who’s hair still grows
And all his teeth (fuck the bar’s low)
Anticipates with bated breath
He’s had some luck a time or two
Perhaps his next partner could be you
Or is this post and OA death

This lyricist, this nerdy DILF
Seeks to find his counterpart MILF
To brighten each others’ moods
A great sense of humor, a sexy smile
A lust for life goes a country mile
But I’ll also just accept some nudes

Wait, don’t go! Don’t run away yet
The last line was just a vibe check
For a laugh or an eye roll
Let’s keep light, you’re free tonight
DM this poet if the vibe feels right
And we can see where this thing goes

SUMMARY:
Fun, hot, and tall dad, lots of hobbies, and time to give this

You:
Fun and hot mom, with time and effort to give this

*notabot

Edit: damn! 3 minutes up and a downvote 😂😂

Edit 2: fuck AI I don’t need that trash

Edit 3: doubt my skills? Send me a topic, I’ll rhyme it back and continue to rock it

I’m looking for someone to regularly chat with, joke with, and generally have fun together. Like many of us in here, the spark is gone and low effort is the daily routine. I’d like a new and fun dynamic to look forward to each day.

A few things about me, I’m an avid reader, enjoy documentaries, the beach, and am always up for a good adventure. If you’d like to know more, feel free to chat!

*notabot

F4A - 31 F from FL - What do you REALLY even want?

Hey :) *notabot

I never really thought I would post on here. I'm not setting any lofty expectations from this post. I don't like getting my hopes up. I wear my heart on my sleeves, much to my detriment, but I don't know any other way to be. Short term, long term, just a fling - all are fine as long as you're not a jerk and don't want to just sext.

Like most of you (except you bots and phony accounts), Im looking for those butterfly feelings. I love conversation. Getting to know someone. If you're talking to me, I don't take your time for granted. I will respond with a thorough message. I appreciate the same effort. I want to get to know you and vise versa.

I'm not a gamer. I love sports (not so much basketball, sorry!) I'm an outdoor nut. I'm currently working with a personal trainer to achieve my fitness goals. If you say you have a dog, I'll be your best friend just to get dog photos. I believe in kindness. There are too many jerks in the world, I don't want to add to their population. I'm really down to earth and don't judge. Clearly, we are here, and that's frowned upon, but we are also human.

I don't have kids. I don't mind if you do. However, I know it's hard to relate to someone who doesn't. I would prefer someone close to my age, in their 30s, perhaps. Male or Female.

Physically: I am 5'6 with long blonde hair and big blue eyes. Glasses. Curves for miles. Thick thighs with no gap in sight. Gorgeous smile and a dimple in only one cheek.

I'm not sending any pictures or spicy texts until a connection is established. I'm not interested in being your pocket pussy for the night. So respectfully, please don't bother.

Send me a message with the answer to my title :)

Want to see who's out there? Let's do the classic old school post! Post up your:
Age
Sex
Location

Hi. This is my absolute first time posting anything like this. I’m the overfunctioning wife holding it all together, stuck in a platonic relationship with a husband who is like a child. It would be nice to commiserate about this, but I‘m into other things too, not just bagging my husband. I have attempted a few times to include a list but it’s coming across weird. Sciencey stuff? Travel? Funny little things that happen every day? My life is all about outward appearances and it would be nice to be real with someone. Just looking to chat for now. *notabot

*notabot

Gotcha! Okay, I might not model but I am very pretty (modest, clearly), and hopefully funny (did that make you laugh? No?)

I’m equal parts sunniness and sarcasm, a bookwyrm with a hoard of books, I even read them occasionally. I love to write, be barefoot in a mini dress, I am whimsy, and a nerd with a huge heart. And in need of rescuing, please get me out of here.

You are: not younger than me and no more than ten years older, conventionally attractive, not a cake eater, in the EST (ideally) in the U.S., with plenty of time for this. If you can only do 9-5, still talk to past APs, and are not looking to catch feelings then I’m not your girl.

Come get your totally a model today!