u/Admirable-Rip-8521

Men, how annoying/frustrating is it when you go down on your partner and she takes a long time to orgasm. I'm talking like 30-45 minutes. Do you still enjoy doing it? Or does it become exhausting? What is going through your mind? Also if your partner has to finish herself off at the very end how does that make you feel? Is it hot to watch it? Or does it make you feel inadequate like you couldn't get the job done?

I can only cum from direct clitoral stimulation. When a partner tries to do this for me, it can take a long time for me to cum. When I do it myself or use a vibrator on my clit, I cum in about 5 minutes.

I've hesitated to use vibrators regularly because I'm worried I won't be able to cum without one. However I'm thinking maybe I should just lean into it and use one all the time, even when I'm with a partner.

My question is, how would you feel if your partner asked you to use a vibrator on her clit during foreplay or sex? Would it make you feel like she things you aren't capable? Like you've been replaced with a machine? Or would be be ok with it?

I'm 50F and just got out of a long marriage where the past 10 years there was no sex whatsoever. Since being single I have loved re-finding my sexuality but I'm worried maybe I'm going too far.

In the past two months I've had intercourse (with a condom) with two different men and I've given oral to 5 different men. Most of these have been one time hook-ups. I'm fielding a ton of requests from the online dating apps and meeting up with men of all ages. I'm scheduled to meet up with a guy next week who I've never met in person at an hourly hotel for sex which has been a fantasy of mine. Today I've been sexting with a 31yo and we're scheduled to meet up this afternoon and I'll probably hook up with him too. I'm masturbating to orgasm like 4-5 times a day.

It also doesn't help that my doctor prescribed me Wellbutrin for depression and one of the side effects is increased libido. I mean I'm not complaining. I just feel so horny all the time.

I'm having so much fun and I'm a sex positive person. So I don't think any of this is "bad" per se. But also this is new for me and I'm wondering if I'm doing too much too soon? Do I just go with this until I get sick of it or it stops being fun?

I'm 50F and just got out of a long marriage where the past 10 years there was no sex whatsoever. Since being single I have loved re-finding my sexuality but I'm worried maybe I'm going too far.

In the past two months I've had intercourse (with a condom) with two different men and I've given oral to 5 different men. Most of these have been one time hook-ups. I'm fielding a ton of requests from the online dating apps and meeting up with men of all ages. I'm scheduled to meet up with a guy next week who I've never met in person at an hourly hotel for sex which has been a fantasy of mine. Today I've been sexting with a 31yo and we're scheduled to meet up this afternoon and I'll probably hook up with him too. I'm masturbating to orgasm like 4-5 times a day.

It also doesn't help that my doctor prescribed me Wellbutrin for depression and one of the side effects is increased libido. I mean I'm not complaining. I just feel so horny all the time.

I'm having so much fun and I'm a sex positive person. So I don't think any of this is "bad" per se. But also this is new for me and I'm wondering if I'm doing too much too soon? Do I just go with this until I get sick of it or it stops being fun?