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Slightly suspicious, surprisingly sweet.
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Slightly suspicious, surprisingly sweet.

“I mean, if you’re into feet pics whatever?”

I’m not going to lie I thought the same thing at first but something I saw today presented a unique perspective.

Asking for feet pics with socks or shoes, is a good way to make sure your sub got out of bed and got dressed. I’ll admit I love the ingenuity of it.

What’s some things that you ask of your sub that might sound odd on the surface but actually serve a purpose? Likewise subs, what’s some unique methods a Dom(me) has used to help motivate and care for you?

u/Aggravating_Bid8995 — 17 hours ago
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39 [M>F] #Houston, Tx Full body/Erotic massage

Looking for a woman (25+) to build a little comfort and familiarity with for an ongoing biweekly massage session. Ideally we can ease into it with a full body massage and understand erotic massages can come after the first session. I can host or travel and have a massage table, mood lighting and we can pick out a music you like. Preferably this would be on weekends.

I do expect someone that is capable in expressing boundaries and limits as well as expectations, I want this to be enjoyable for us both but if you cannot communicate clearly then I’m uninterested in moving forward. Otherwise I’m very relaxed and humorous and look forward to hearing from you.

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u/Aggravating_Bid8995 — 6 days ago
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The Mirror Task

Good morning from Texas! Welcome all dom(me)s, subs, and switches alike! I want to share the mirror task with you today.

Subs: this is simple, find you a mirror in a private space where you can play the following audio while looking at yourself.

https://voca.ro/1lKi1cHhEXc9

Doms: that said you are welcome to add this to your repertoire and also welcome to add your own version if you like. Say something positive and impacting that they need to hear while looking at themself. No obligations or expectations but the invitation is there.

With that you all enjoy the rest of your day!

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u/Aggravating_Bid8995 — 1 month ago
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Archetypes upon Archetypes? (2.0/Doms)

Alright people, let’s do this one more time.

This started with the idea of whether or not a Dom’s male archetype plays to or against their style of domination. What I’m going to suggest this time is don’t try to fit yourself into just one, let’s pick three that you feel aptly describe your character, then ask yourself how that might compliment or conflict your Dom archetype?

For example, I identify with the Sage, Jester, and care giver male archetypes and my dom archetypes are Daddy Dom/Caregiver with a little Pleasure and Service Dom thrown in for fun. What that means is I value supporting my subs, nurturing their growth and often spotting alternative means to help facilitate it as well as challenge their views and perceptions, but I also take great pride in taking care of their… adult needs. But I’m never above a good joke, crude or otherwise. (My safe word is “deeper”)

That being said, would a Rebel be more likely to be a Primal Dom? Perhaps the Warrior is a natural Brat Tamer? Maybe a Sage is inclined to be an ideal pleasure Dom? All thoughts, viewpoints and objections are welcome.

Now obviously I’ll have to do a separate one for subs and plan to. I also want to get some Domme opinions on where they stand as I do want to be inclusive for female Dommes and male Subs, but I don’t want to shoot from the hip and offend.

P.s. for those unfamiliar, yes, your archetype can change overtime as you age and evolve so don’t feel locked into anything by looking at this.

Credit: pics taken from Pixaby and Unsplash via Meme Maker

u/Aggravating_Bid8995 — 1 month ago
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Archetypes upon archetypes?

While doing a little introspection I realized that my male archetype is the fool/jester. Taking that and acknowledging I’m a daddy/caregiver dom that works together in the sense that one of my biggest ambitions is nurturing and encouraging growth and/or healing. Which makes me wonder, does anyone else know their male/female archetype in relation to their dom/sub archetype? Is there a pattern where they line up, or do they conflict? If you are comfortable sharing yours, how do they match?

For reference:

sub archetypes

dom archetypes

male archetypes

female archetypes

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u/Aggravating_Bid8995 — 1 month ago
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As we spend time interacting with others there can be certain themes that we notice emerge and realize are important to instill in a dynamic that can be generally good for most or in some cases specific to your own. When I say house rules I mean things we gently enforce to a subs benefit or even personal mottos.

Mine include:

We don’t apologize for having needs, whether it’s for space, company, support, or adult needs.

It is ok to let it be about me here.

We don’t disqualify ourselves, better that we speak up and try and be told no, then tell ourselves no on someone’s behalf.

I’m only “too much” to the wrong people.

Someone that loves you will help you be independent, someone that loves themself will make you dependent on them

With that I would love to hear: Doms, what house rules do you stand by? Subs, what house rules do you have or have helped you along the way?

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u/Aggravating_Bid8995 — 2 months ago