u/Any-Flower-4636

It randomly crossed my mind recently that as the whole softmaledom thing is (from what I see at least) pretty centered around the typically yearned after strong yet gentle masculine/soft, submissive feminine dynamic, sometimes even the bodily contrasts, etc.

Obviously this shouldn't necessarily be something you run into problems with, and I really hope everyone feels great about where they stand with the whole idea, but it did get me curious, especially as a guy who really finds myself at home with the whole soft-dom thing.

Trans women, do you feel like you get the same treatment/care/softness that you crave, and do you feel properly included, without just being fetishized?

And on the other end, if we have any trans men, do you feel included, craved, etc?

Maybe this question doesn't make sense at all, I'm not sure. But I'd love to hear your opinions, and who knows, I hope the discussion itself makes some of you feel a bit more seen, if you do have thoughts about it.

So, to start with, I'm usually very much a soft-dom. I love taking care of whoever I'm with, giving safety and pleasure, and sometimes a bit of rougness if needed. And it's usually expected of me too. I'm a 6'3" dude who loves the responsibility of taking the lead, making my partner relax, with a bit of tasteful domming.

But life and stress does exist for me too, and as much as I love taking these things off my partner's shoulder as much as I can, sometimes I do need a bit of a reset.

Now, obviously I'm not in a relationship right now, so getting that reset irl is not really an option, but I'd love to chat with someone who finds the idea fun to switch things up on me a bit, and make my brain turn off for a while.

(and if we click, I might be open to longer term stuff too, let's go with the flow)