u/Awkward-Exchange-950

I usually post in SWO, but wanted to post here to reach more people.

I hate DATY. I hate it more unprotected. It upsets my ph and causes me pain for weeks while my body tries to regulate out its ph balance.

I was really worried about my financial security if I put that boundary up. DATY is all about the male ego and I worried taking it away would result in zero bookings. I was letting my own anxiety stop me from the life I actually wanted.

I got into therapy at the beginning of this year after being discarded by my ex partner and treated in the most heartless and soulless way. We've worked on boundaries primarily. I will say most of this change has happened directly due to me and therapy has been more of a sounding board/guide. It has helped though.

I realized how much shit I let slide in my last relationship with an absolute drama queen man child who never actually cared about me and I channeled that energy into setting firmer boundaries with clients.

I just kind of snapped and was like "you know what? I'm done with ALL of this."

So I've gone hard-core on the boundary. I may lose a few clients, but the response from the actual GOOD clients I have has been positive and respectful. I've elected to limit my client list and am focusing on picking clients I actually want. Not just ones I force myself to put up with.

Life is too short to be consistently treated poorly and put up with shit you absolutely hate.

I just wanted to say I feel SO MUCH better. For the first time in my life I have stopped accepting less than I deserve. I have severed relationships that were no longer serving me. I've been hitting the gym HARD and staying consistent, along with kickboxing and other various fitness pursuits. I feel so free and am working on better myself and feel much more powerful.

I am also planning on wedding dress themed photoshoot where I'm burning a lot of shit (just for my personal life) as I am done with dating in my personal life, am tired of their fragile egos and insecurities. I am done giving more than my partner. A symbol of self reliance and resiliency, if you will. I always wanted wedding photos and have realized I can literally just do a photoshoot in a wedding dress my damn self and call it a day.

(I do recognize this is coming from a place of privilege and that not everyone is able to implement this the same way)