Totally disappointed in honeybunch grinder + bullet vibe combo while pegging
So I've been fantasizing about being able to orgasm also while pegging my SO, or at least to get some physical pleasure from it. So I made a post to Reddit about it and got recommended these Bananapants grinders, especially the Honeybunch. I also searched for a powerful bullet vibe that would fit in it. So I ordered the We vibe Tango with the Honeybunch.
Well I tried the combo while pegging. I was feeling really sensitive, and had received some oral prior that that almost made me cum. I purposefully put the harness on loose, so I could drag the part where the dildo rests as low as possible to be near my clit. We are using the Strap-on-me curious harness btw. Then I shoved the grinder with the vibe against the base of the dildo. Well it wasn't much pleasure, it just mostly hurt me. It pushed against my pubic bone right on top of my clit. I had to push the vibe part away from my body, so that it would have a better angle and not hurt that much. Well that felt awkward and distracting pushing it while at the same time thrusting... It just... didn't feel that much, or enough. Maybe the grinder was too high for my anatomy, even if the dildo was as low as possible... Previously when I had tried it solo, it would feel better if I could have the grinder lower and push it a bit from under towards up more like... Eventually I got frustrated and just shoved the grinder away and just focused on my partner's pleasure.
I was just so sad after this and disappointed. I was so looking forward to this, as I had heard good things about this combo. I just wasted 100e...
I wouldn't say I am a woman who has it the easiest time to orgasm, but then again I do orgasm usually 1-2 times in regular sex usually from piv+good quality vibrator or 69. It almost never happens that I don't come at all. It would be so hot to be able to also orgasm while pegging, as I find it mentally really sexy...
I dunno what my options are now. Accept this or just invest a lot more money again to new harness + Strap-on-me multi orgasm double + sleeve for it.... That would cost a lot again... But I've heard praise about the SOM multi. But then there is the problem that if that combo doesn't feel good for my partner. I would like to find something that feels good for both of us... He has found a regular dildo that feels really good for him. I guess I could also try to sew a pocket to my underwear where I put the bullet vibe. And have it just at the right spot...
I don't even know what the point of this post is. I guess I just wanna vent. But any input is welcome.