u/BellJar_Blues

I’m sure there’s an easier way to explain but as the title says lol. So this has happened with four different clients so technically eight. It happened again last night where the client was telling me about his friend and just stating the industry and the country his friends wife is from and where they live now I knew he was talking about another client I know and have seen three times for long sessions. When he was talking I was looking him in the eyes and I couldn’t tell if he knows I know who he was talking about and I didn’t say anything beyond commenting “interesting” or affirmative sounds of listening to
Him speak. I would never say to another client anything about any other client and maintain the illusion they’re the only person I ever see. I find it interesting though and wonder if he was saying that to see my reaction?
Clients never tell me if someone referred them to me. I guess some people have a type or maybe it’s just based on the offerings at the agency.
I’ve also had two brothers see me but never mention it to me beyond they tell me the same stories of their childhood and they visit within two weeks of each other.
Another clients saw me and reminded me so much of another client. Turned out they were in some twisted bisexual love triangle. Again, never told me about it. I found out just by piecing it together and I have a freakish memory for details since I truly care about all of the clients I see.

Again this is by chance since I work at an agency.
Have any of you had this scenario ? Where people In a friend group all seee you without really mentioning it or maybe one does?
I also saw four pairs of couples and one of the pairs accidentally told me they all were talking about me at a sex club and recommended me to save their marriages 🥲 I found it so endearing and the closest I’ve felt to feeling like I have friends when this happens (I know it’s ridiculous to think but I love the fact that we truly are connected closer than we think). Or is it just because I’m at an agency ? lol

I’m sure there’s an easier way to explain but as the title says lol. So this has happened with four different clients so technically eight. It happened again last night where the client was telling me about his friend and just stating the industry and the country his friends wife is from and where they live now I knew he was talking about another client I know and have seen three times for long sessions. When he was talking I was looking him in the eyes and I couldn’t tell if he knows I know who he was talking about and I didn’t say anything beyond commenting “interesting” or affirmative sounds of listening to
Him speak. I would never say to another client anything about any other client and maintain the illusion they’re the only person I ever see. I find it interesting though and wonder if he was saying that to see my reaction?
Clients never tell me if someone referred them to me. I guess some people have a type or maybe it’s just based on the offerings at the agency.
I’ve also had two brothers see me but never mention it to me beyond they tell me the same stories of their childhood and they visit within two weeks of each other.
Another clients saw me and reminded me so much of another client. Turned out they were in some twisted bisexual love triangle. Again, never told me about it. I found out just by piecing it together and I have a freakish memory for details since I truly care about all of the clients I see.

Again this is by chance since I work at an agency.
Have any of you had this scenario ? Where people In a friend group all seee you without really mentioning it or maybe one does?
I also saw four pairs of couples and one of the pairs accidentally told me they all were talking about me at a sex club and recommended me to save their marriages 🥲 I found it so endearing and the closest I’ve felt to feeling like I have friends when this happens (I know it’s ridiculous to think but I love the fact that we truly are connected closer than we think). Or is it just because I’m at an agency ? lol

I know the title sounds all woo woo and I promise I’m sober in every way possible. Do you ever find that you’re thinking about a client and they end up booking you within 24 hours?! I can’t make this up. It happens so often it’s sort of freaky but cool lol. I work for an agency so there’s no way I really know until I’m at the door.
Have you had this happen ?

Have you ever had clients who had scary or disturbing tattoos and you didn’t see of course until you’ve already started the undressing during sex. Did seeing the tattoo change how you felt about them assuming you felt
Neutral or positive about them during the conversation prior (talking for 40 minutes or more before sex started).
Did you find it hard to think of anything but the tattoo(s) during sex?
Did it or they stay with you after the encounter?
I’m asking because I can list four clients that their tattoos disturbed me so much I often think of them and it makes me feel sick that they were touching my body.
I know many people get
Tattoos when they’re younger and Maybe don’t care enough to get them removed but I do think they say something about their character as well. Imagery really stays with me and these are things people understand will be permanent.

A guy I met at our mutual friends place is someone I enjoy being around and feel comfortable around (though due to being in this industry I think I find it even easier now to converse with so many people but he is good looking and my age ). I obviously don’t tell anyone in my life that I’m a sex worker and I truly don’t fit any sort of stereotype. I do nude life drawing modeling is the only indication I have “comfort in my body” (I actually started doing this before sex work because ro needed money to eat and then somehow I fell into sex work because I needed more stable money since the art thing is already contract and not a weekly thing. Anyways the last time I saw him he was making remarks about only fans asking if I have done it or would do it after I mentioned I sell my items sometimes and shared a funny story about a man buying my shoes when I was younger. He has made other remarks I can’t specifically remember but one was even him saying he thought he recognized me from only fans. This worries me because I know men have filmed me in the past and I was new to the industry and I didn’t really think about it and took the measly $100 which I know is insane. They said they weren’t using it for anything but themselves but of course this isn’t a guarantee. So sometimes I am paranoid
But this is likely not a concern.
He asked me to meet him at an art show and we went and he was pointing out nudes
Commenting on what poses and positions
He likes. He was talking about sex and asking how I get off and how often and it was like oh my god this is uncomfortable I even asked him what his deal is. He laughed about it and kept
Being “jokey”. We were at the gift shop and he picked up a book about erotic art and it was all these nudes. I really didn’t think anything of it. But I let him indulge. He was even asking like how often I have sex etc.
it was confusing because at first I thought he was asking me out because he liked me and wanted to date me lol but like this is not the formality of dating ? Or have times changed ? lol full disclosure I don’t date and I get my fix for sex Through work and I have no time or mental or physical energy to date. So even just the conversation about sex I’m like ugh. I hate when clients want to ask me how I get off. Like I don’t know ! It just happens but I’m not giving you a play by play on how and when I do because I don’t need it. He kept saying he feels like I’m being discreet and closed off and I have a way freakier side than I’m letting on.
So I’m thinking, well ya obviously but the friends we know mutually I would never let on to that being a case and I don’t want to be known as that part of me and I’m trying hard to keep both parts of separate. I literally was wearing a floor length turtleneck dress with no makeup
To the art show to especially not give any sexual vibes.
He was talking about Amsterdam and how he felt sad in the red light district because he didn’t know if the ladies wanted to be there. I said he should have paid them and asked them. He said he was with his mom so he couldn’t. I told
Him I’m sure there’s some yes and some no. He said he saw some sex show where you go and watch people have sex and he asked if I would do that 🙄 I just laughed (I’ve already done this but I wouldn’t say this of course).
At the end he said he would like to have me over but his mom is visiting. So like even though we didn’t even have anything to eat or drink for the four hours together and the ticket for
The art show were free and technically I’m the one who travelled one hour one way so two hours total and $20 parking and he walked to the event, he wanted to have me over … and…?
He also ended our time together saying to let
Him know when I get
Off to the nude photos we looked at
Together tonight (in reference to
How I did mention I don’t use toys and i don’t watch porn).
Is this the new normal for the dating world ?
I obviously won’t be telling him my
Working name and telling him to pay for sex. I think it’s clear that’s what he’s after ?
I find it odd because also our mutual friends were teasing him about how he always goes on first dates and he over indulges the dates and then they never go out again but for
Me it wasn’t that at all. I found the date to be unique but it also wasn’t like it was something that took time or energy or resources to plan on his end.
Would you say something to the guy if you had this happen ?

As per title. I just saw the first client I ever saw last week and two weeks before and I’m all sorts of emotions again. I know it’s limerence but I feel so many butterflies and this longing and I guess a bit of grief because it’s made me realize how fast four years goes by. He was gone for two years and now I’m finding out Ira because he was In a relationship that ended badly (something about she lied). I have always had a major crush on him since the moment I saw him and he’s also a Scorpio which matches my Capricorn sexual energy 😹😹 oh to feel in “love”
Do you see your first ever client or provider still ? If not is it because they left the industry or just stopped seeing you ?

I have a longtime client that I’ve seen for like an hour or two at a time since 2022 and we’re similar in many ways and we always have a good time but we’ve also never done a date longer than two hours.
He has just invited me to his cottage and we’ve shared quite a bit of ourselves like in the short hours that we have spent with another and I know a bit about his family and his social circles. He is inviting me to come up to his cottage, which is like a beautiful stately cottage on a beautiful lake since he knows that I’ve been struggling with my sleep and especially with like living in a very noisy area of the city so I have really appreciated it even just like inviting and he followed it up with I trust you and of course like to me I think like of course like why wouldn’t he trust me but I also remember that he doesn’t know like my real name or anything like that, but I also do trust him like with me and me visiting him and staying there but beyond the invite, nothing has been discussed about like if we would be sharing a bed or if there be any sort of like sex expected or any sort of payment now and I will be getting myself up there as well so I don’t expect him to pay for any of that but if he’s wanting to have sex, would he think that the invite and letting me stay overnight would count towards payment if he is wanting sex at all while I’m there is this something that I should ask beforehand or do I just go up and enjoy the night away from the city with some fresh air stars and if anything hopefully I’ll be able to sleep and sleep in he has also noted that he will be up there alone because normally he goes up there and his family will go up there as well now I don’t know if he is like asked all of his family members if they plan on not going up there so I don’t know for sure that no one will show up during the time though I wouldn’t really be worried about that aside from maybe his family members asking questions though I’m very good at social skills so I’m sure I could handle that my question really is should I be asking about expectations around sleep arrangements and activities?

Anyone else been experiencing this ? I have a few clients who are I guess younger like mid 90s so in late 20s and they do this thing where they put their hand on my lower stomach and it puts so much pressure on my bladder even when I’ve just gone to the washroom I’m squirting but I’m quite positive it’s my bladder emptying all over the bed and their arm and I’m
Mortified but they seem to love it and keep going and it’s like so much again and again. And often there’s blood trickled in and I’m
Not sure if that’s from my vaginal canal or my urethra 😭
What’s up with this?! And aren’t they worried about all the urine lol
I’m pretty sure my face is like oh my god and definitely
The porn face of oh my god but it’s in my head oh my god I’m
Mortified !!! And how is there still so much coming out of me !!

I saw a client tonight and I’ve seen him over five times. I know the name he uses with the agency isn’t his real name but even weirder is the name showing on the hotel room screen was the name of a totally different man who is actually a resident of our city but he’s not him. Did the hotel forget to change the name over ? Is my client using a fake id? Is he using his bosses id to book a hotel room? Even more weird is that the name belongs to a rabbi lol and he is Islamic.