u/Betterthanbetter0

I advertise on Tryst and have my OF link on my profile there.

Recently a man subscribed to my OF and told me my apartment (where I take my pics and vids) looks just like his, and told me he lives in Shady Oak apartments (fake name), which is the same complex I live in. It's a really large apartment complex and he's in a different building a bit down the street from my place.

I didn't really acknowledge the part of his message about the apartment complex, just thanked him for subbing etc. but then he followed up saying "I go to X park almost every day, I think I've seen you there before," which might be true, I go to that park sometimes.

It made me a little uncomfortable that a stranger was basically telling me "I know where you live and I'll be looking for you at the park," so I told him very clearly that I wasn't comfortable with him asking about where I live, and told him not to approach me if he sees me in public because I'm just trying to live my life and go about my day.

He said he understood and that he wouldn't contact me anymore, but then the next day started sending small tips on OF with the usual "sexy" messages about wanting to fuck me.

Then he asked about GFE texting, I told him my rate and we moved off OF to a secure messaging app. He then pretty immediately told me he was interested in an Incall visit.

I am definitely not having this man over to my place. I do host some clients but because he lives so close by I don't want him to know which apartment is mine and risk him showing up randomly or hanging around outside my place to "accidentally" run into me. So if we did meet it'd probably be a hotel.

Should I see him as a client at all? I'm getting kinda red flags from him saying he wasn't going to contact me, then continuing to contact me, and seemingly beating around the bush about his intentions to meet irl. Not feeling dangerous, just clingy vibes and I don't want to get into a situation where I feel uncomfortable around my own home.

I'm not sure if I should take him on as a client or just set a firm boundary that I don't fuck my neighbors 😅 I'm not sure what his reaction would be either way.

Thoughts?

EDIT: he's been blocked 👍

I'm trans FTM, I've been out in my personal life for a couple years, on T a few months, no surgeries yet but I plan on top surgery at some point in my life.

Doing sex work the past year or so is the first time I've been financially stable in years, and it's been such a relief. It's the only reason I've been able to start HRT.

But right now I basically advertise as a cis woman. I know it's not going to work forever (I just shaved my face for the first time recently, yay), but for now I've been making good money as a "cis woman" and I'm scared if I start identifying myself as a trans sex worker, I'll lose all my current clients and not find new ones.

Am I just being paranoid? Have you been able to find steady work as an openly FTM provider? Do you advertise differently than cis providers?

I know there's a huge market for trans SWers but it feels so nerve-wracking. I'm also a little worried about being treated worse in general, ya know, because of how society tends to treat trans people.

Any insight is so so so appreciated <3

TW for pedophilia.

A guy messaged me on Tryst and I immediately got bad vibes, but we exchanged a few messages and he sent me $20 on cashapp. He ended up getting upset with me for setting boundaries (he kept talking about getting me pregnant and I told him to stop) and requesting a refund of the $20 on cashapp, which I declined.

I googled the name associated with his cash app and found a news article about him being arrested for sending nude photos of himself to a 15-year-old girl.

Obviously I muted/blocked him, but is there anything else I should do to warn other providers about this piece of shit? I thought about posting his info in this sub but I wasn't sure if that's appropriate/allowed in this subreddit.

What would you do?

I'm based in DFW Texas and want to start touring more. What cities have y'all had the best time and most profit touring in? I like road trips and don't mind driving a few hours to stay somewhere a couple nights.

I've started going to casinos in Oklahoma sometimes, but I want to branch out!

Do my fellow Texans here think I should focus on cities nearby or just branch out and go wherever I want?