u/Big_Tree5446

You're married, I'm married and that's what's important. We both are really happy in our respective marriages, enjoy our life and our situation. That said, something just seems like it's missing. Maybe it's an extra couple of texts in a day, maybe it's an extra conversation about why "Catcher in the Rye" is awesome but also a bit overrated. If this sounds like something you've got interest in, shoot me a DM.

I guess this is still important? *notabot

Looking to find someone looking just to chat, doesn't necessarily have to be dirty/flirty, but not against it 😁.

Feel free to dm to find out more!!

I've thrown a couple post up lately, specifically around feeling like there might be some experiences I've missed and also stuff with the wife.
A commenter on my last pst recommended the app "Spicer" as a way to do a Yes/No/Maybe list of experiences or fantasies we'd be interested in.... We started answering the questions yesterday and haven't had a chance to discuss the answers, but holy cow am I excited to discuss them with her! She has totally answered Yes and Maybe to some questions I didn't expect!!

So all this to say, talk to your significant others, open the communication and see what happens.

I posted a couple days about about this conflict of growing up christian and being pretty mild, never really going through a wild phase, and feeling a little bit of regret about it. I'm married now and my wife and I have talked about it briefly but it's never really been an option. Now outside of that lifestyle/group play fantasy, we have a fairly active sex life, so I'm not complaining about that. Reading through this sub, I noticed that a lot of y'all that have gotten into the lifestyle and keep mentioning just open and honest communication and how in many ways taking part has helped to enhance your intimacy because of that communication.

I promise I'm getting to the request for advice!!
So...last night, we were in bed together and I asked her if she would ever want to go to a strip club and get a dance for her... She definitely didn't shoot down the idea and gave it a solid "Maybe." A little bit of background on this, I've never been to one, way to worried I would burst into flames once I crossed the threshold. She has been at least once, but that's about the extent of what she's told me(or that I remember). Anyways, she gives me that "Maybe", and shortly after we naked and enjoying each other. We were mid passion and I say something along the line of, "I am soooo horny for you, I'd do anything you want" and she responds with "Id love another cock in my ass" 😮 fireworks went off in my head, the dirty talk intensified, and she had a massive O. Now, we've kinda dirty talked threesomes before but I've almost exclusively been the one to start it. So after she came and we kinda started to wind down, we didn't get the chance to explore it more in the post-sex moments.

So my need for advice... I don't want to push her, I want her to want this, if she wants it, and not just because I think I want it. There has definitely been a lot of religious guilt on both sides throughout our marriage about different sexual tensions and activities. Has anyone else been through something similar with their partner? Any advice on how I can encourage this interest/fantasy (that it seems like she has) in a very genuine way, not be overbearing, not be pushy, etc. Still very conflicted by my Christianity and upbringing, but definitely appreciate y'all for reading this far!

Was a pretty good kid and even my "wild" streak was very mild... However, I'm in my 30s now and can't help but feel like I've missed out on some stuff. I find myself daydreaming about some of the other women in the church and sleeping with them. I feel like I missed out on my chance to explore sexually, like, I really want to have a threesome but I know that the chance of that happening is close to .01%. Does anyone else feel like that out here? Anyone feel trapped between their Christianity and their sexual desires?