u/BodybuilderClassic22

Hey! I’m a UK size 18-20, US 14-16. My bra size is 34/36 H/HH (UK size) and it’s so damn hard to find sexy outfits that are good quality both for indoors and outdoors. I have a couple of things from SavageXFenty but their biggest sizes are too big for my waist and back/chest but too small for my boobs. I want to buy corsets I can actually wear outside and feel good in them, or a nice bodysuit that will actually synch my waist but my boobs are feeling fine, booty shorts etc etc. lingerie is also a big problem btw 😔
I would be open to any advice. I just don’t want to order cheap polyester shit from shein and hope for the best 😓

Hey, I’m looking for books, podcasts, YouTube channels about Sub/Dom dynamics not only in bed but as a lifestyle. Me and my partner really want to do it the right way, and there so much literature and idk where to start
‘The loving dominant’? ‘Taken in hand’? ‘SM 101’? Maybe there’s a website or a YouTube channel we should check out?
Moreover, the book reviews are very controversial, some say it’s the best manual ever, others that it’s outdated AF…
Also if relevant we are a sapphic couple.
P.S. I know it probably sounds like a very boring approach, but unfortunately, we are both earth signs lol

Hey, I’m looking for books, podcasts, YouTube channels about Sub/Dom dynamics not only in bed but as a lifestyle. Me and my partner really want to do it the right way, and there so much literature and idk where to start
‘The loving dominant’? ‘Taken in hand’? ‘SM 101’? Maybe there’s a website or a YouTube channel we should check out?
Moreover, the book reviews are very controversial, some say it’s the best manual ever, others that it’s outdated AF… so I just thought why not ask my fave subreddit
P.S. I know it probably sounds like a very boring approach, but unfortunately, we are both earth signs lol

I don’t have a lot of lesbian friends irl, for some reason most of my friends are queer, yes, but mostly they are gay men or straight trans women. Like I do have a couple sapphic friends but they are not very kinky. And I really really want to talk about my sex life, about kinks, what’s going on etc😓
Like recently I tried fucking myself the way I always do w my magic wand and I decided to put a dildo in which felt so fucking good… I do it like 4 times a day now, while being fucked on top of that. But most people around me are so fucking vanilla 🙄
And I believe that sex is never just sex, I like talking about it, reading about, discovering stuff. Sharing my darkest secrets and desires with someone. Bragging about how I made my girlfriend come and how hard she fucked me… I guess I’m really craving a kinky friendship or smth like that haha

So following yesterday’s post I just wanted to share some stuff I wrote and discussed w my gf. I think BDSM helps me understand so much about myself and my partner, like sometimes I just sit there thinking OH so that’s what it ACTUALLY is….
Just wanted to share in case anyone finds it relatable or just wants to talk about it. I think I’m still
Processing things about myself and sharing/talking about it helps

I need to share smth vulnerable with you. It’s not a big thing. You know all of this. I will do anything for you. I have never loved anyone the way I love you. I have never wanted anyone as much as I want you. I feel like I’m drowning in these feelings all the time. I will wait for you, I will be patient. But I’m so confused and yet I love it so much. You tease me too well. The way you talk to me, what you text me, the way you kiss me. Baby… i don’t think you fully understand how much power you have over me. I know I can come across as demanding, pressuring. But sometimes I want you so much it makes me want to cry. When you tell me that you know I want to fuck and you kiss me like that and then go about your day I just lose my mind, I just think about how your face and your breath changes when I suck on your nipples, when you grind on my hand. I think about how you touch me, how you look at me, how you can take everything away from me if you want, just tell me to shut the fuck up and I’ll soak my pants.
It’s not because I’m addicted to sex, I’m just addicted to you. I want to be close to you. When I smell you my head is spinning. When I touch you I just can’t stop I feel like if I let go I’ll just die. I’m sorry if that’s too much but I just don’t know what to do. I love having quality time with you too. I’m just so happy and so calm when I feel connected to you.
Sometimes I dream about you giving tasks to me, like things to do around the house or regarding my job search or smth (like I can make the list myself obv), and that if I do everything you praise me, if I don’t you punish me. It doesn’t mean you have to fuck me every day I just find this dynamic so attractive. It’s new to me but I know I want it because of you, because I want you to do this to me, I trust you with this. I know that you can take me. I dream about cnc, I dream about free use, I dream about bimbo day. But it’s not because I don’t have other problems, or I don’t think about them enough. It’s because you make me feel safe, because you make me feel like you are a person I can give myself to. And I have so many mixed feelings about it. No one has ever had so much power over me without even demanding it. You can make me feel so important and so unimportant within minutes. Sometimes I think about how you wanted me, how you talked to me and despite knowing that you’re tired and in general things are happening, I start thinking maybe you’re used to me, maybe I’m just not very pretty, maybe my body is too *something*, maybe I should do something extra to just see you look at me the same way. But then you kiss me and I forget about all of my worries. I don’t know what any of that means. Do I want you to fuck the shit out of me? Yes, but it’s deeper than that for me. And I hope it doesn’t feel like pressure, but if it does, tell me. I’m just trying to figure it out. No one’s ever had me like that. I love you.

I want to try and explain why this -us, the power, the intensity -feels so much deeper than just 'sex' to me. In my head, sex is a destination, but what we have is the map. When you tease me, when you kiss me and then walk away, or when you tell me to shut up, you aren't just 'turning me on.' You are taking the steering wheel of my brain. It’s about relinquishment. Most of the day, I have to be in control, I have to make decisions, and I have to carry the weight of being me. But when I’m with you, and I feel that power you have over me, that weight vanishes. I’m not just 'getting laid' I’m being 'held' in a way that goes right down to my bones. When I talk about wanting tasks or punishments or things like free use in the message above, it’s not because I’m obsessed with the acts themselves. It’s because I want to belong to the moment. I want the things I do -even the boring things like my job search or chores -to feel like they matter because they are for you. It makes my world feel quiet and safe. Because this is how you make me feel. Because I trust you with myself. When you have power over me, it doesn't make me feel small in a bad way. It makes me feel seen. It’s the ultimate trust. I’m giving you the keys to my peace of mind because I know you’re the only one who knows how to drive me. And how to drive me crazy too of course 🙄.
I’m not pressuring you to 'do' things to me every second. I’m just trying to tell you that the way you look at me and the way you claim me is the only place where my head finally stops spinning. I love you, and I love being yours

Hey, so… I’ve been seeing this girl for almost a year, we are both switches, but she is domme-leaning, I’m sub-leaning and also I’m bratty 😋
She’s known from the start that I love edging but like… I didn’t know I was talking to the EMPRESS of edging. She recently got back to work and her job is quite physical and she starts early, so we kinda stopped having sex every day obv cause she is tired, like, I completely understand. But fuck me (literally..) . She’d message me from work to wind me up, she’d make out with me, and when I tell her that she knows exactly what she’s doing she laughs. I hate this… I’m so frustrated all the time… I just think about her fucking me or me sucking on her nipples and eating her out all 👏🏽the👏🏽time👏🏽. Which is hard when you’re trying to work and I’m also job searching. And then, when I finally give up and I think nvm, maybe I just made it all up and I should let it go, like, we just won’t have sex that often and she’s not edging me at all, I get to bed w her to cuddle and we start making out and I keep thinking ok we’re just making out, it’s ok she’s tired, blah blah, I can feel her WEARING A STRAP and she fucks the shit out of me!!!
Honestly I don’t even know if I hate this or love this or what, it definitely fucks me up but it’s also so hot my god. I don’t think I’ve ever thought about sex as much as I do in this relationship.
What do I do? Should I do something? Is it a blessing or a curse or both I dunno 🫠