D/S dynamic & playmates: Ghosting/Ghosted
Question for Dommes who are non-monogamous: how are you finding the scene?
I'm based in the UK, new to being a Domme in person (Married and we're vanilla & I'm exploring my kinks with my husbands knowledge and consent). Since meeting male submissives, I seem to hit a wall and they end up ghosting after a few meets and aren't as proactive as they were at the start.
The longest sub I played with was under 2 months. We checked in on how we were both doing, felt lacklustre after awhile. After a month or so of not hearing from them, I delete our Telegram conversations and I delete them off my Fabswingers account as I don't want them to have access to photos and videos that I have set for 'Friends only'.
I'm using this time to work on myself and enjoy my summer as I just finished my degree. I'm hoping to have a little play in between but at the same time, I'm tired of feeling like a kink dispenser.
Still active and open to meeting a playmate but it's disheartening as I feel like I've settled and found that I'm very much a 'Mommy Domme' - switching from nurturing & caring to a strict one with rules.
Attending local clubs and getting to know people in the scene. I'm slowly warming up to the idea of playing with submissives in clubs but my demisexual ass can't get off and I rather give pleasure than receive it during this type of play.
I'm using this space to vent and get feedback from other Dommes or submissives for their input. I get that it's not normal for us to have access to thousands/millions of people so quickly but my experience has me wondering if I'm a good Domme 😮💨.