Why do subs love mean Dommes? Not to say they all do, but some specifically do.
Or what does it say about me that I’m more into Dommes that don’t like me? It was like that date, I was always more interested in women that didn’t feel the same way. I know I’m not the only one.
What’s the psychology of it?
As some of you might know, I simped for my ex for close to 6 months post break up. She was my hottest gf of my life, treated her right, and got her into the best yoga class in the city. Then she met someone better and dumped me, but still guilt tripped me into funding a lifestyle I started.
Don’t get me wrong, while it wasn’t my idea, it was my origin story of being pussyfree and getting friendzoned.
It didn’t last because He wasn’t really into it and She wasn’t all that interested in chastity and emasculating girl talk.
So I’ve been searching and reading through profiles. I’ve gotten some advice to be more timid and make myself clear as a non-sexual threat but it still has landed me in that same space. I think I’ve learned an emotional sadist is probably the best fit because I do very much enjoy emotional manipulation, forced bi, and just being kept denied and in my toes.
Is there a better way I could navigate dynamics to include this? Should I never offer my opinion without requesting to do so?
Any Dommes open to letting fincucks take a peak into the life they’ll never have? Even just while you relax gaming or watching TV?
I don’t see much about this kind of access so I was curious to ask!
I’m curious how many Dommes are comfortable with this and even get a high from it.
It could be even some thing short - like a virtual cash meet - like a vanilla conversation and then you tell your sub to kneel and send all in FaceTime.
Anyone ever try this or think it’s a fun idea? I’m looking at it from a findom and Female Supremacy lens. Maybe even looping in societal patriarchy.
Meaning, your sub stays locked while he works and earns money to send to his Domme.
It could be strictly chore based, just do it and accept it. Or maybe even include teasing so he knows sex is off the table (but it’s in his mind) and he needs to just work.
Idk maybe not practical but it checks a lot of boxes.
I’m seeking a Domme or a couple that would align with my current goal and interests. It’s pretty simple, I like being sexually frustrated and ruthlessly mocked (being laughed at, flipped off, exposed, etc).
This could be taking humiliating pictures and getting torn to shreds, edging assignments (probably to beta porn), being used for stress relief or entertainment, and so on.
I’d like to incorporate chastity into this as well, even for a short periods because only Alphas deserve to control their own cock and sexual destiny.
I’m thinking of tight pink cage and praising you or talking about men you are actually interested in. I make a great wingman. Or doing corner time at home with pulsating and frustrated baby dick in my cage while you enjoy drinks with your man.
Budget is around $50-$100 per week. Throne or similar payment methods preferred. Open to e-transfer for Canadians.
Please DM if interested.
My ex got me into this almost a year ago paying for her yoga classes with her new boyfriend. That sadly didn’t last for personal reasons.
I’ve met a few Dommes here which ha ma been hit and miss because of timing, I’m in the Eastern time zone.
I’m looking for a Domme now that could help train me further into this kink, ruthless Dommes that mock are totally cool in my books. Things like pussy free training, chastity, behaviour modification, censored porn, dinner dates (if you have them), or maybe even training that’s more practical like how to better serve women in my life and support them.
Hope it’s a fresh and stellar week for you all to enjoy!
Just well wishes. You all rock!
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Hope the day is awesome!
I think a lot of subs are missing out by being too specific on needs/wants and being led only by their dick. You need to include your heart and mind as well to hit the right subspace IMHO.
A few new rules I’m going by;
Set your boundaries yes, but give up control after that. Like completely and let her know (if it needs to be said) that your HER tag along. She runs the show.
Follow her orders explicitly, and don’t cheat even a little. This creates a full weight of her control.
Take notes and share them with her if she wants. Record hers favourites, write out the rules she sets and things you’ve learned along the way.
This is a big one for me - after setting boundaries- follow her kinks, you might realize how amazing it is and won’t know until you try.
Set a safe word, again it helps so she can freely push you to your limit. She should have this flexibility and not have to guess after all.
Forget about your orgasm. It’ll likely happen but it’s not your call anymore.
Have fun and be easy on yourself. Accept you want it.
Idk 🤷♂️ feels right.
It’s becoming increasingly more of a focus of mine - to be a tool to be used by my Domme. No prodommes, no transactional dynamics.
If she’s happy, I’m happy. If she’s upset, I do what I can to help. The dynamic is led by her mood and she knows it.
Ultimately yes when it comes to kinks I have boundaries but I look at it like ‘what can I be open to please her?”. It’s this approach that has got me into new kinks.
With that being said it can feel like unethical play at times since I’m literally there for her needs. She can run me through all my emotions just the crash me down again.
Am I in a dangerous frame of mind here? Are there more rules I should consider than just here are my hard limits, go nuts?
I am in my early 40s, 5,10, Caucasian, average kind of guy.
I’m looking to connect with a manipulative fit Domme who takes pleasure in breaking down a guys ego until he’s an emasculated, desperate wimp. I think being a fincuck fits this narrative really well too!
Instead of listing kinks I have some specific ideas/tasks but open to others;
- JOI and mocking to beta porn
- stress relief (ball busting, venting, etc)
- Intense edging in chastity and cage cumming
- CNC forced bi and cuck programming
- alpha to beta physical critique / group mocking
- Obedience training (corner time, speech protocols, etc.)
I am looking for something hopefully longterm but think some chat and sessions help first. Ideally these training tasks are used against me to keep putting me down as not to realize normal sex ever again.
I know this is incredibly pathetic but I really can’t help it.
Does any other paypigs get caught up in chatting with your Domme that you feel the urge to make a financial gesture? Like it brings you closer together in a way? I’ve heard it called beta flirting?
Anyone like being talked down to and mocked while having to jerk off to her feet? Must feel so good.
I am in my early 40s, 5,10, Caucasian, average kind of guy.
I’m looking to connect with a manipulative fit Domme who takes pleasure in breaking down a guys ego until he’s an emasculated, desperate wimp.
Instead of listing kinks I have some specific ideas/tasks but open to others;
- JOI and mocking to beta porn
- stress relief (ball busting, venting, etc)
- Intense edging in chastity and cage cumming
- CNC forced bi and cuck programming
- alpha to beta physical critique / group mocking
- Obedience training (corner time, speech protocols, etc.)
I am looking for something hopefully longterm but think some chat and sessions help first. Ideally these training tasks are used against me to keep putting me down as not to realize normal sex ever again.
Please have verification and pics on your profile or be willing to do so. Looking 25+.
Payment method: throne, loyal fans tip you
Budget: $15 per task or $100 per week
I was directed to come here and share my story.
It’s pretty simple, I was dating someone last year and into 2026. She was the best looking woman I’ve ever dated. Thin, sun-kissed skin, gorgeous smile, long hair, etc. She was Asian and exactly my type. Funny and athletic too!
As things went on we went hiking, on trips, and everything was exciting! She started spending a lot of time with me and it was no brainer for her birthday I was going to get her hot yoga lessons (she always wanted them but couldn’t afford them).
And that’s where things changed.
She went every day. We spent less time together. I got suspicious when she had a lot of family things coming up on weekends too that I couldn’t be a part of. Slowly we drifted apart and she ended it with me saying she wasn’t looking for a more long term commitment. I was heartbroken. 💔
Still I had paid for a few months of Yoga and when I confronted her about paying me back she said she couldn’t and to think of it like supporting someone I cared about and to not let it slip. Later I found out that she was dating someone in that class, always meeting up at the same times, hanging out together afterwards, cooking together and I heard through the grape vine that they were very sexual.
Problem is I guess is I started getting really turned on, I even sent her a Lululemon gift card to get her some fantastic yoga clothes and would check her social media posts to see her in the clothes I got her. This is where I started connecting more dots of the same guy in different group photos with her.
Idk there was something very erotic about still trying to impress her knowing sex and dating was now off limits.
Anyway not to make this any longer we’ve had many discussions about these yoga classes and I have re-upped her membership through the summer. She sends me little snippets of her exercise nights and she knows I beat off to them. lol.
Now we text and talk a bit on the phone and I can now fully see how our relationship has changed and where it could be heading. I’m curious about asking her if she’d lock me in chastity but haven’t fully crossed that bridge yet.
Anyway I hope you liked my story I’m happy to share more if you’d like.
Thank you.