u/ButchLes13

I’ve tried the dating apps. I’ve tried fetlife. I’ve gone to events. I’ve tried here. And yet I still haven’t found anyone! I’ve been ghosted, people haven’t been willing to verify, I’ve had bad sex. I’m so over it! Why is it so hard to find someone? I feel especially frustrated because I feel like nobody wants a sub butch :(. I always end up topping and it does nothing for me at all. The only time I’ve ever cum was when I was being dominated and it’s been so long. You’d think it would be easy to find someone in Montreal yet here we are.
I’m so tired of the chase and the effort I need to put in, it just kind of feels hopeless.

Like the title says, I’ve been with a few girls and every time they eat me out it feels like nothing. I don’t know if it’s their technique, or their pace or something wrong with me but I’m feeling kind of like there’s something wrong with me or something. I always get my partners to moan or act feral but when it’s my turn I’m just quiet and just sit there awkwardly. I feel bad because I know how hot it is to see a girl moan and I wish I could do the same for my partners but nothing they do (fingering me, eating me out, certain types of strapping) does anything. And it’s not like I’m not horny or anything.

I’ve been extremely horny lately and desperately want a dom fem to use me as her plaything. I’m open to a lot of kinks and I have my fetlife account in my bio for more details and photos of me. Willing to verify.

I’m looking for general fun but would prefer to work towards a long term relationship. If love to hang out, go on dates and have kinky sex. I’m a pretty chill, open minded person and hope to find someone similar. As a heads up I’m a little hairy, little chubby, a little muscular and a lot nerdy and awkward.

DM if you’re interested ;) (realized I accidentally had them closed until now. Oops.)

Like the title says I’m looking for a domme femme! My fetlife account is linked in my bio if you’d like to see more pictures of me and what I’m interested in. I’m a pretty positive, chill and open minded person and am hoping I can meet someone similar. Looking for a long term relationship but I’d be open to short term. No long distance or online. Im a little hairy, little chubby a little muscley and a lot nerdy and awkward as a heads up. If interested DM me. I’d love to be your little plaything ;)

So I’m a butch and I consider myself a sub-leaning switch. The problem is, I feel like a lot of times butch is synonymous with “top” or “dominant”, like those are the expected roles you take on when you take on butch as self expression. Tbh I don’t really care if being a sub makes me butch or not, I’m butch and no one can tell me otherwise but I am feeling a little insecure in it just because I feel like there aren’t any femmes out there who would be into that. I’m very dominant in every day life and always have been, and so far I’ve almost always topped because I feel like it’s what’s expected of me but man I am sick of it! It’s fun but having to do it all the time is a lot and tbh it doesn’t do anything for me sexually and doesn’t really fulfill me in any way. I just really desperately want to be dommed by a sexy lady!

Idk I guess I’m just generally feeling like my combination of traits isn’t super desirable/normal and that it’s gonna be really hard to find someone :(