r/butchfemmedating

About Me:
47yo femme, single, white, eventually looking for a long term monogamous relationship, want to wait for right person and date to figure it out.

I live in central Massachusetts. My work ties me to Massachusetts or commuting distance to Massachusetts. I’m open to long distance.

I prefer to be with a cis woman or transman (anywhere from 37-58 yo is preferable) who identifies somewhere on the butch spectrum.

Interests: travel, coffee, museums, food, baking, walking outside, festivals, volunteering, camp fires, trying new things, and community.

I am on the s side of the D / s and am happy to get into more detail about specific interests. I’m looking for someone who is relatively confident in their part of that equation.

Considerations- emotional intelligence and stability, ability to do that look with a bit of smirk and a raised eyebrow.

No, that isn’t my cow. Yes, I posted before, but it was inadvertently removed so I’m trying again 😁.

Hey, y’all. I’m a single Caucasian engineer from Nashville, TN, US and I love meeting new people, femme, butch, single, poly, masc, any race/ethnicity it doesn’t matter. I’m looking for someone who is compassionate, driven, and curious. My DM’s are open if you’d like to chat. 🖤

Edit: Hobbies include travel, narrating audiobooks and short stories, woodworking, music, and hanging out with my dog.

First pic is what I look like right now***
Not looking for a long distance relationship. Anyone like an hour from me is fair game though!

Like the title says, I’m a single white butch looking for a femme in Montreal for a monogamous, preferably long term relationship. My type is more dominant/bossy women, also I’m into BDSM and kink so if you’re into that you can check out my fetlife profile in my bio.

I recently graduated in Environmental Biology, and I’m very passionate about the outdoors. Some of my hobbies include insect taxidermy (thank you Montreal insect convention!), reading, going to concerts (love divorced dad rock and heavy metal), getting food and bubble tea downtown, doing art and watching horror analysis videos on YouTube. I like staying fit, either going to the gym or going on long walks/hikes. I consider myself a pretty chill and open minded person and hopefully I find someone with the same mindset! I’m 420 friendly and like drinking.

My friends describe me as silly goofy, respectful, and competent. A weird ass combination but what can I say! I’d say I’m a pretty awkward and nerdy person.

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*I'm a white, 5'8" 30 year old femme lesbian living in Idaho

I'm imagining a life with someone where we could support each other. Where we're both sociable and hard-working, both have a deep connection to nature and a commitment to our community.

I can be an absolute powerhouse of conjuring and I work hard to live a beautiful and interesting life. I've got a good stable remote job, I volunteer at a local community farm, cold water swim a few times a week, practice tarot, make art, organize events, journal, think about lesbian history, read a lot of non-fiction, and love wearing silly little outfits to go out for a night of partying, dancing, and live music.

I think about the question "what do we owe eachother?" a lot and try to show up for people in my community, whether that's helping them move house, inviting them to events, connecting them with resources, or giving then emotional support.

I keep myself very busy and would want someone who could keep up. Someone enthusiastically monogamous, not in the white picket fence way but in knowing that we belong with/to each other.

My dream partner is a tall, fat, strong butch and I've got a weak spot for curly haired brunettes with a goofy smile and kind, steady hands. They're good with people, enjoy a night out, are honest, funny, intentional, compassionate, and lean dominant in the bedroom. Ideally they're located within the pacific northwest but could be elsewhere as well.

Together we would curate mutual growth, joy, and laughter. I'm imagining kinky explorative sex (and lots of it) visiting hot springs and trying new bars and pillowtalk gossiping. When I think of you, I think of us in the orchard, me on the ladder and you at the base holding it steady.

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Tentatively exploring dating again after a bit on my own but not quite ready to devote my energy to apps - I think this reddit approach is a happy medium, yeah? Let's get into it.

About me: cis, she/her, lesbian, femme, 45, tall and slender build, blonde, white. I don't work out, but I stay moving and I'm in pretty good shape. A friend once described me as "slightly grimy" and I felt so SEEN. I'm a clotheshorse and aesthete, but I'm also given to running around barefoot, collecting furniture from the curb, and stuffing cool bits of trash I find on the ground into my pockets. I don't have manicured fingers or toes or a 10 step skincare routine, but I clean up real nice and enjoy looking hot, because I am vain. 

I work in nonprofit in SW Michigan, and my community here is super important to me. I am 90% certain I will never relocate. Something to consider if you're also super attached to where you live but you also plan to fall in love with me. Though I am open to chatting with someone long distance, if there is a legit connection I want to be able to meet up sooner rather than later, and need "closing the gap" to be a viable future option in order to invest.

Outside of work I enjoy DIY, old houses and old things in general, history podcasts, creating art, and hanging outside or wandering with no particular plan or destination. I'm listening to music constantly - my tastes are super varied and my playlists are poorly curated but I love to swap songs with others. I drink only occasionally, but I do smoke weed fairly regularly, the old fashioned way.

More aspirationally, I'm into live music, travel, camping, museums, and nights that don't end until the sun is rising.

I have kids. They are mostly adults and living on their own, with the exception of a soon to be high school junior I share with my ex, who is pretty great. I also have a dog and a cat. Honestly those guys factor more into my dating life than my kids at this point.

Ultimately I want to find my person, something solid, but I am not in a screaming hurry or discounting casual connections in the meantime. In a relationship, I am monogamous, loyal, and a bit of a caretaker but I also want to feel taken care of. I am submissive for someone who is trustworthy and understands the dynamic.

I have a type, y'all, and that is masc of center (butches to the front!), dominant-leaning folks with a high libido who are real comfy talking about kinks, needs, and boundaries too. I like all the shapes that bodies come in, but I am a little particular about how they're dressed. Individual style is a turn on. So are the kind of politics that support a free Palestine and don't villainize trans folks. To be clear: If you are even remotely terfy or maga adjacent, GTFO. 

Also, please be over 30. Ideally over 35.

DM me if any of this piques your interest.  I've written a ton here, so I hope you'll put some effort into an opening message - reveal something about yourself beyond a/s/l and your job - maybe share a song you can't get enough of this week, tell me what your favorite way to spend a weekend is, how you like to be cared for, or how you're finding joy and things to be hopeful for in this weird ass timeline. If you tell me about television shows you're into I won't know any of them. Also there are more interesting things about you.

I am verrrrry hesitant to chat with anyone who has hidden their entire post and comment history. I've opened mine up for this reason - it's a little dorky, and I'm ok with that. If you hit me up, I'm gonna ask to see yours.

Taking a big, brave step here and posting photos because that seems to be the norm on this sub. As it happens, I have a really great selfie from just last week (I was really feeling myself) looking like a legit lady. So you don't get the wrong idea tho, I'm also including another - unwashed and makeup free, taken in my dingy basement. I am versatile.