u/Capital_Issue

Hi,

What material should I use to 3d print the kit?

Shop glans rings are either in rigid ABS or flexible TPU, so I was wondering what I should pick for the full print, given that it's the rings and the shafts in one file, and I intend to print it all in one go? Is it fine to print it all in TPU?

I'm also wondering about the safety of having 3d printed plastic on your glans for long durations. Are there any precautions I should take before I put them on, after having them printed?

Thanks!

My gf/dom and I go to a lot of Playparties, this specific one has a "Darkroom" where the men get blindfolded and placed for the women to peruse and use, based on their limits marked on a paper.

Before we ever discussed going into there, she told me she has no interest in doing something with anyone else, and that she only wants to put me in there to watch me have things done to me by other women.

Got put in, had a good time She didn't mention anything else, only that it was fun for her and that she had a good time. The next day while we're driving the topic comes up and I ask her if she played with anyone. She admitted that yes, she did. She did a bit of light impact play that took no more than a few seconds she said, but the fact that she did it at all without asking or at least informing me is tearing me up.

I asked why she didn't ask me or tell me, and she said she didn't want to ruin my fun time. I also asked her why she didn't tell me after, and she said she thought about how to tell me the entire time just couldn't.

I understand that it's odd to feel when I had things done to me by other women as well, but it was at her request, and I made it very clear that I'm not OK with her playing with others before.

She said when she was in there, before she went and did it, she thought about it and knew it was a bad idea and that I wouldn't like it, but it was so appealing in the moment that she went and did it anyway. After the first guy she felt very guilty, but as other women "motioned for her to join" she just did it again anyway.

All in all she said she hit 3 guys for a few slaps each, touched one butt and that was it. But the fact that she did it, and kept it from me just fucks me up. I feel like I got cheated on, especially because we had a first try of her playing with a friend of ours before, and it felt like shit to me, and we agreed that she won't do it again.

She didn't outright deny it when I asked, which I suppose is something. But she did trickle truth the extent of it and I had to keep asking for the full story, and it just made me lose a huge amount of trust that we've had built up over time after a previous incident I don't wanna go into.

The problem is that I'm usually a very "okay fuck you then, bye" type of boundary setter, and this is a clear a violation of my boundaries. But it's not that big in the grand scheme, but a huge from a boundary perspective, and I just love her so so incredibly much, more than any woman I've ever loved before. But I just feel so betrayed and upset and disappointed. I don't want to lose her but I feel so incredibly fucked up about it.

It felt good to write out, and I would love to hear some thoughts from others who are actually in the same type of community. Thanks!