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Hi everyone,

I’m a married man from India and I need some genuine advice. For a long time I’ve had a fantasy of having a threesome with my wife. After a lot of talking and convincing, she has finally agreed. She says she is comfortable and would do it for her own enjoyment as well.

The problem is: I don’t trust random strangers because of privacy issues, hidden cameras, blackmail risks, etc. (especially in India). So instead of going for a stranger, I’m seriously considering involving my childhood best friend.

Details about the friend:

We have been extremely close since childhood.

He is single, respectful, and knows both me and my wife very well.

He lives only 1-2 km away in the same village and visits my house regularly.

My wife is comfortable with him.

I have huge trust in him and don’t feel jealousy when I think about him.

My wife and I have very open communication about everything. She says she has no problem and will do it only if I’m fully okay.

Now my concerns:

I’m still hesitating and fluctuating between excitement and doubt.

What could be the possible outcomes (good and bad) if I involve a very close friend?

Has anyone involved a best friend or someone very close? What happened to the friendship afterwards?

Did it affect your marriage in the long run (jealousy, comparison, emotional distance, resentment etc.)?

If he says no, will our friendship become awkward? (Because he visits often)

We are thinking of doing it occasionally (maybe once or twice a month max), not just one time. Is that even sustainable with a close friend?

Any advice on how to bring up this topic with him without making it weird?

I know involving a close friend is risky, but strangers feel even riskier for us right now. Please share honest opinions – both positive and negative. No judgment please. Throwaway account for obvious reasons.

Thanks in advance.

Hi everyone,

I’m a married man from India and I need some genuine advice. For a long time I’ve had a fantasy of having a threesome with my wife. After a lot of talking and convincing, she has finally agreed. She says she is comfortable and would do it for her own enjoyment as well.

The problem is: I don’t trust random strangers because of privacy issues, hidden cameras, blackmail risks, etc. (especially in India). So instead of going for a stranger, I’m seriously considering involving my childhood best friend.

Details about the friend:

We have been extremely close since childhood.

He is single, respectful, and knows both me and my wife very well.

He lives only 1-2 km away in the same village and visits my house regularly.

My wife is comfortable with him.

I have huge trust in him and don’t feel jealousy when I think about him.

My wife and I have very open communication about everything. She says she has no problem and will do it only if I’m fully okay.

Now my concerns:

I’m still hesitating and fluctuating between excitement and doubt.

What could be the possible outcomes (good and bad) if I involve a very close friend?

Has anyone involved a best friend or someone very close? What happened to the friendship afterwards?

Did it affect your marriage in the long run (jealousy, comparison, emotional distance, resentment etc.)?

If he says no, will our friendship become awkward? (Because he visits often)

We are thinking of doing it occasionally (maybe once or twice a month max), not just one time. Is that even sustainable with a close friend?

Any advice on how to bring up this topic with him without making it weird?

I know involving a close friend is risky, but strangers feel even riskier for us right now. Please share honest opinions – both positive and negative. No judgment please. Throwaway account for obvious reasons.

Thanks in advance.