u/ConsentAndDesire

This is a NSFW personals ad — it isn’t for everyone, maybe only 1%.  I was in a dead bedroom for many years, and then I had an incredible relationship with a high-libido woman.  It is over now, but it taught me that what I want IS out there — I just have to be very explicit about what I'm looking for.

Up front:

• I have a vasectomy and a recent STI test.
• I live alone and am not in a relationship.
• Only looking for cis-gendered women at this time.
• No MAGA; I believe in science, democracy, equal rights and integrity.
• I'm based in Laguna Niguel, but travel to San Diego/Riverside counties often.

My Goal:

I am searching for a serious partner, someone who needs a man in her life who is funny, smart, intentional, attentive, playful and really good at finding orgasms. While I'm open to various relationship dynamics, I am seeking friendship and passion and consistency that might eventually lead to long-term/marriage.

>> Let’s Talk Libido.

Let me be real right out of the gate. I don't want to waste either of our time dating if we're ultimately not going to be the right fit, so I'm throwing this right out there:

• Yes, I have a high libido -- but I'm the whole package. I'm a great friend, a reliable companion, a true partner and a skilled and considerate lover. It's not just all sex. My heart is as horny as the rest of my body. 
• Serious passion. I’m happiest in relationships where touch, flirting, playfulness and sex are a frequent, natural part of daily life.
• I’m a pleasure dom.  I’m affectionate, considerate, tuned in, and absolutely addicted to turning you on and getting you off. I am deeply turned on by your own arousal.
• Spontaneous can’t-wait-until-morning moments?  Likely.  
• Sensual 2-hour massages?  Hell yes. Happy endings available upon request.
• BDSM: I’m naturally dominant and like light restraints, some power exchange, many types of toys, etc. but I'm not into elaborate rituals or theatrics like Shibari or pain/humiliation/degradation (other than my pet names for you).
• Public affection, playfulness and spontaneity is a way of life for me. 
• My love language is physical touch — sexual and non-sexual alike.

 

>> About Me

• 6’1, caucasian, with a darker complexion.  
• A young 51.  I’ve got some wrinkles and thinning hair (working on it!), and working on losing my last 25 pounds, but I’ve got the energy of someone half my age.  
• Divorced.  Really.  Not rebounding — I am READY to find my lover for life.  
• Thoughtful, confident, professional.  Good communicator.  
• In therapy, because it’s healthy.  Not perfect, though, and never will be.  
• Financially stable; accomplished career in tech.  Ready to relax and explore life part duex with my new partner. 
• Active traveler — from eclipses in Texas to national parks around the US to river cruises to meteor showers in New Mexico to overseas vacations. Let’s explore together and cum as aftercare.  
• Passionate about science (and science fiction), deep conversations, romantic gestures, and slow, consistent seduction.  
• Physically active.  Hiking, biking, paddle-boarding, exploring, photography, boating, road trips, camping, travel.  Dying to take my girl on a train!  
• Serious hobbies.  I’ve never been called boring or uninteresting.  
• Endlessly affectionate: frequent kissing, touching, cuddles, projected warmth every chance we can get.  I will likely need to resist pulling you into my arms every time I walk past you in the kitchen.  Tenderness and caring and desire on a level most don’t experience.  
• Pleasure.  I give as much as I crave — and I crave a lot.  
• None of that alpha male bullshit. I'm independent, confident and assertive without dominance, egotism or narcissism.  Reasonably emotionally intelligent and improving. 
• I have a very low body count.  I’m not interested in quantity, only quality. No ONS.  
• STI tested with proof, vaxxed to the max.  
• Non-religious, moderate democratic capitalist.  SORRY, NO MAGA.

  

>> Texting, Sexting, and Connection

Mental chemistry and emotional connection really matters to me. I crave engagement at multiple levels, not just a pair of bodies slapping together.

• I love texting — and not just logistics. I want to learn, flirt, tease, get deep, and fall into lust with you over text.  
• We’ll text for a day or two to build connection, then exchange photos. If we vibe, phone/video calls and a low-pressure vibe-check to follow.
• I’m deeply attracted to women who communicate thoughtfully, playfully and consistently.
• Expect extremely hot text exchanges once we’re comfortable — late-night fantasies, vivid desires, sometimes even writing each other into sexy little stories.  
• If you’re out of town? Maybe I’ll read you a sexy story while you play, or we listen to each other get off over the phone. That moment when you whisper “I came so hard” across 400 miles… it’s hot as hell.

  

>> What I’m Looking For

I know what I'm looking for, but connection matters more than anything. These are some ideal characteristics, but they are not all required. I'm just giving you an idea...

• A cis-gendered woman
• Single/separated/divorced/widowed. NOT living with a partner/former partner. I tend to give my all in relationships, and desire someone who is available.
• Somewhere around 38-45, and ideally 5’ 6” or taller
• Someone fit/active enough to hike, bike, travel, explore, be spontaneous, and keep up with a pretty energetic lifestyle. I love to get out of the house.
• You crave physical touch and intimacy and sex daily.  
• In or very near South Orange County. Not “just visiting,” and not overseas.
• Emotionally grounded, confident, and sexually expressive.  If your mind is as dirty as mine, we’re going to make fire together.  
• Open to deep, consistent connection.  In relationships, I’m all-in. I'm looking for someone who is intentional about dating me.
• Intelligent, curious, reasonably successful and financially mature.  Able to travel regularly.  
• Adventurous. Affectionate. Addicted to touch. Someone who wants weekends that feel like escapes, and weekday texts that make you press your legs together in the office chair.  
• Ideally, non-religious (spiritual or lightly religious is fine).
• Ideally, no kids or an empty-nester.  I love kids, but I’m ready to travel without complications, date with a vengeance and use the hot tub naked.  
• Non-smoker.  
• Willing to get fresh STI test results. Fully vaccinated.

 

>> Interested?

• DM me. I'm open. People love chatting with me, even if it doesn't go further.  
• Tell me what you crave, mentally and physically.  Bullet points or prose, long or short, just communicate clearly and openly. Be bold. I'll listen.  
• We'll exchange face/full body pics after a day or two, to see if there's attraction. 
• Be ready to validate so I know who you say you are.
• Be local, be responsive, be real. 
• Zero expectations for our first dates.  Despite my assertiveness above, I am a warm and caring and considerate gentleman first.  I’m all about low pressure, for both of us. "Consent" is in my username.

If you just said to yourself “Finally, someone who gets it!” then reach out.  Take a chance.  You never know!

This is a NSFW personals ad — it isn’t for everyone, maybe only 1%.  I was in a dead bedroom for many years, and then I had an incredible relationship with a high-libido woman.  It is over now, but it taught me that what I want IS out there — I just have to be very explicit about what I'm looking for.

Up front:

• I have a vasectomy and a recent STI test.
• I live alone and am not in a relationship.
• Only looking for cis-gendered women at this time.
• No MAGA; I believe in science, democracy, equal rights and integrity.

My Goal:

I am searching for a serious partner, someone who needs a man in her life who is funny, smart, intentional, attentive, playful and really good at finding orgasms. While I'm open to various relationship dynamics, I am seeking friendship and passion and consistency that might eventually lead to long-term/marriage.

>> Let’s Talk Libido.

Let me be real right out of the gate. I don't want to waste either of our time dating if we're ultimately not going to be the right fit, so I'm throwing this right out there:

• Yes, I have a high libido -- but I'm the whole package. I'm a great friend, a reliable companion, a true partner and a skilled and considerate lover. It's not just all sex. My heart is as horny as the rest of my body. 
• Serious passion. I’m happiest in relationships where touch, flirting, playfulness and sex are a frequent, natural part of daily life.
• I’m a pleasure dom.  I’m affectionate, considerate, tuned in, and absolutely addicted to turning you on and getting you off. I am deeply turned on by your own arousal.
• Spontaneous can’t-wait-until-morning moments?  Likely.  
• Sensual 2-hour massages?  Hell yes. Happy endings available upon request.
• BDSM: I’m naturally dominant and like light restraints, some power exchange, many types of toys, etc. but I'm not into elaborate rituals or theatrics like Shibari or pain/humiliation/degradation (other than my pet names for you).
• Public affection, playfulness and spontaneity is a way of life for me. 
• My love language is physical touch — sexual and non-sexual alike.

 

>> About Me

• 6’1, caucasian, with a darker complexion.  
• A young 51.  I’ve got some wrinkles and thinning hair (working on it!), and working on losing my last 25 pounds, but I’ve got the energy of someone half my age.  
• Divorced.  Really.  Not rebounding — I am READY to find my lover for life.  
• Thoughtful, confident, professional.  Good communicator.  
• In therapy, because it’s healthy.  Not perfect, though, and never will be.  
• Financially stable; accomplished career in tech.  Ready to relax and explore life part duex with my new partner. 
• Active traveler — from eclipses in Texas to national parks around the US to river cruises to meteor showers in New Mexico to overseas vacations. Let’s explore together and cum as aftercare.  
• Passionate about science (and science fiction), deep conversations, romantic gestures, and slow, consistent seduction.  
• Physically active.  Hiking, biking, paddle-boarding, exploring, photography, boating, road trips, camping, travel.  Dying to take my girl on a train!  
• Serious hobbies.  I’ve never been called boring or uninteresting.  
• Endlessly affectionate: frequent kissing, touching, cuddles, projected warmth every chance we can get.  I will likely need to resist pulling you into my arms every time I walk past you in the kitchen.  Tenderness and caring and desire on a level most don’t experience.  
• Pleasure.  I give as much as I crave — and I crave a lot.  
• None of that alpha male bullshit. I'm independent, confident and assertive without dominance, egotism or narcissism.  Reasonably emotionally intelligent and improving. 
• I have a very low body count.  I’m not interested in quantity, only quality. No ONS.  
• STI tested with proof, vaxxed to the max.  
• Non-religious, moderate democratic capitalist.  SORRY, NO MAGA.

  

>> Texting, Sexting, and Connection

Mental chemistry and emotional connection really matters to me. I crave engagement at multiple levels, not just a pair of bodies slapping together.

• I love texting — and not just logistics. I want to learn, flirt, tease, get deep, and fall into lust with you over text.  
• We’ll text for a day or two to build connection, then exchange photos. If we vibe, phone/video calls and a low-pressure vibe-check to follow.
• I’m deeply attracted to women who communicate thoughtfully, playfully and consistently.
• Expect extremely hot text exchanges once we’re comfortable — late-night fantasies, vivid desires, sometimes even writing each other into sexy little stories.  
• If you’re out of town? Maybe I’ll read you a sexy story while you play, or we listen to each other get off over the phone. That moment when you whisper “I came so hard” across 400 miles… it’s hot as hell.

  

>> What I’m Looking For

I know what I'm looking for, but connection matters more than anything. These are some ideal characteristics, but they are not all required. I'm just giving you an idea...

• A cis-gendered woman
• Single/separated/divorced/widowed. NOT living with a partner/former partner. I tend to give my all in relationships, and desire someone who is available.
• Somewhere around 38-45, and ideally 5’ 6” or taller
• Someone fit/active enough to hike, bike, travel, explore, be spontaneous, and keep up with a pretty energetic lifestyle. I love to get out of the house.
• You crave physical touch and intimacy and sex daily.  
• In or very near South Orange County. Not “just visiting,” and not overseas.
• Emotionally grounded, confident, and sexually expressive.  If your mind is as dirty as mine, we’re going to make fire together.  
• Open to deep, consistent connection.  In relationships, I’m all-in. I'm looking for someone who is intentional about dating me.
• Intelligent, curious, reasonably successful and financially mature.  Able to travel regularly.  
• Adventurous. Affectionate. Addicted to touch. Someone who wants weekends that feel like escapes, and weekday texts that make you press your legs together in the office chair.  
• Ideally, non-religious (spiritual or lightly religious is fine).
• Ideally, no kids or an empty-nester.  I love kids, but I’m ready to travel without complications, date with a vengeance and use the hot tub naked.  
• Non-smoker.  
• Willing to get fresh STI test results. Fully vaccinated.

 

>> Interested?

• DM me. I'm open. People love chatting with me, even if it doesn't go further.  
• Tell me what you crave, mentally and physically.  Bullet points or prose, long or short, just communicate clearly and openly. Be bold. I'll listen.  
• We'll exchange face/full body pics after a day or two, to see if there's attraction. 
• Be ready to validate so I know who you say you are.
• Be local, be responsive, be real. 
• Zero expectations for our first dates.  Despite my assertiveness above, I am a warm and caring and considerate gentleman first.  I’m all about low pressure, for both of us. "Consent" is in my username.

If you just said to yourself “Finally, someone who gets it!” then reach out.  Take a chance.  You never know!

This is a NSFW personals ad — it isn’t for everyone, maybe only 1%.  I was in a dead bedroom for many years, and then I had an incredible relationship with a high-libido woman.  It is over now, but it taught me that what I want IS out there — I just have to be very explicit about what I'm looking for.

Up front:

• I have a vasectomy and a recent STI test.
• I live alone and am not in a relationship.
• Only looking for cis-gendered women at this time.
• No MAGA; I believe in science, democracy, equal rights and integrity.

My Goal:

I am searching for a serious partner, someone who needs a man in her life who is funny, smart, intentional, attentive, playful and really good at finding orgasms. While I'm open to various relationship dynamics, I am seeking friendship and passion and consistency that might eventually lead to long-term/marriage.

>> Let’s Talk Libido.

Let me be real right out of the gate. I don't want to waste either of our time dating if we're ultimately not going to be the right fit, so I'm throwing this right out there:

• Yes, I have a high libido -- but I'm the whole package. I'm a great friend, a reliable companion, a true partner and a skilled and considerate lover. It's not just all sex. My heart is as horny as the rest of my body. 
• Serious passion. I’m happiest in relationships where touch, flirting, playfulness and sex are a frequent, natural part of daily life.
• I’m a pleasure dom.  I’m affectionate, considerate, tuned in, and absolutely addicted to turning you on and getting you off. I am deeply turned on by your own arousal.
• Spontaneous can’t-wait-until-morning moments?  Likely.  
• Sensual 2-hour massages?  Hell yes. Happy endings available upon request.
• BDSM: I’m naturally dominant and like light restraints, some power exchange, many types of toys, etc. but I'm not into elaborate rituals or theatrics like Shibari or pain/humiliation/degradation (other than my pet names for you).
• Public affection, playfulness and spontaneity is a way of life for me. 
• My love language is physical touch — sexual and non-sexual alike.

 

>> About Me

• 6’1, caucasian, with a darker complexion.  
• A young 51.  I’ve got some wrinkles and thinning hair (working on it!), and working on losing my last 25 pounds, but I’ve got the energy of someone half my age.  
• Divorced.  Really.  Not rebounding — I am READY to find my lover for life.  
• Thoughtful, confident, professional.  Good communicator.  
• In therapy, because it’s healthy.  Not perfect, though, and never will be.  
• Financially stable; accomplished career in tech.  Ready to relax and explore life part duex with my new partner. 
• Active traveler — from eclipses in Texas to national parks around the US to river cruises to meteor showers in New Mexico to overseas vacations. Let’s explore together and cum as aftercare.  
• Passionate about science (and science fiction), deep conversations, romantic gestures, and slow, consistent seduction.  
• Physically active.  Hiking, biking, paddle-boarding, exploring, photography, boating, road trips, camping, travel.  Dying to take my girl on a train!  
• Serious hobbies.  I’ve never been called boring or uninteresting.  
• Endlessly affectionate: frequent kissing, touching, cuddles, projected warmth every chance we can get.  I will likely need to resist pulling you into my arms every time I walk past you in the kitchen.  Tenderness and caring and desire on a level most don’t experience.  
• Pleasure.  I give as much as I crave — and I crave a lot.  
• None of that alpha male bullshit. I'm independent, confident and assertive without dominance, egotism or narcissism.  Reasonably emotionally intelligent and improving. 
• I have a very low body count.  I’m not interested in quantity, only quality. No ONS.  
• STI tested with proof, vaxxed to the max.  
• Non-religious, moderate democratic capitalist.  SORRY, NO MAGA.

  

>> Texting, Sexting, and Connection

Mental chemistry and emotional connection really matters to me. I crave engagement at multiple levels, not just a pair of bodies slapping together.

• I love texting — and not just logistics. I want to learn, flirt, tease, get deep, and fall into lust with you over text.  
• We’ll text for a day or two to build connection, then exchange photos. If we vibe, phone/video calls and a low-pressure vibe-check to follow.
• I’m deeply attracted to women who communicate thoughtfully, playfully and consistently.
• Expect extremely hot text exchanges once we’re comfortable — late-night fantasies, vivid desires, sometimes even writing each other into sexy little stories.  
• If you’re out of town? Maybe I’ll read you a sexy story while you play, or we listen to each other get off over the phone. That moment when you whisper “I came so hard” across 400 miles… it’s hot as hell.

  

>> What I’m Looking For

I know what I'm looking for, but connection matters more than anything. These are some ideal characteristics, but they are not all required. I'm just giving you an idea...

• A cis-gendered woman
• Single/separated/divorced/widowed. NOT living with a partner/former partner. I tend to give my all in relationships, and desire someone who is available.
• Somewhere around 38-45, and ideally 5’ 6” or taller
• Someone fit/active enough to hike, bike, travel, explore, be spontaneous, and keep up with a pretty energetic lifestyle. I love to get out of the house.
• You crave physical touch and intimacy and sex daily.  
• In or very near South Orange County. Not “just visiting,” and not overseas.
• Emotionally grounded, confident, and sexually expressive.  If your mind is as dirty as mine, we’re going to make fire together.  
• Open to deep, consistent connection.  In relationships, I’m all-in. I'm looking for someone who is intentional about dating me.
• Intelligent, curious, reasonably successful and financially mature.  Able to travel regularly.  
• Adventurous. Affectionate. Addicted to touch. Someone who wants weekends that feel like escapes, and weekday texts that make you press your legs together in the office chair.  
• Ideally, non-religious (spiritual or lightly religious is fine).
• Ideally, no kids or an empty-nester.  I love kids, but I’m ready to travel without complications, date with a vengeance and use the hot tub naked.  
• Non-smoker.  
• Willing to get fresh STI test results. Fully vaccinated.

 

>> Interested?

• DM me. I'm open. People love chatting with me, even if it doesn't go further.  
• Tell me what you crave, mentally and physically.  Bullet points or prose, long or short, just communicate clearly and openly. Be bold. I'll listen.  
• We'll exchange face/full body pics after a day or two, to see if there's attraction. 
• Be ready to validate so I know who you say you are.
• Be local, be responsive, be real. 
• Zero expectations for our first dates.  Despite my assertiveness above, I am a warm and caring and considerate gentleman first.  I’m all about low pressure, for both of us. "Consent" is in my username.

If you just said to yourself “Finally, someone who gets it!” then reach out.  Take a chance.  You never know!

I’m looking for something increasingly rare: a genuinely-connected relationship with someone playful, emotionally open, physically affectionate, intellectually curious, and enthusiastically sexual.

I would love the kind of relationship where:

• we flirt often and with intention
• we communicate easily, openly, honestly
• we not only steal kisses, but we kiss in a way that causes fun physiological reactions
• we laugh hard, we play harder
• we can barely keep our hands off each other after years together
• we love traveling together, supporting each other, growing with each other
• we genuinely like each other outside the bedroom

I’m in south Orange County, and I’m hoping you are, too — or that you’re willing to relocate.

About me:

• 6’1”, active and healthy (gym, 30-mile bike rides, hiking)
• A young 51; some wrinkles, thinning hair (working on it!), working on losing my last 25 pounds — but I’ve got the energy of someone half my age
• Successful, stable, emotionally available
• I work in tech and am into science and technology
• Divorced and living alone, with two older kids who don’t live with me
• Into astronomy, photography, hiking, travel, biking, paddle-boarding, road trips, deep conversations, and spontaneous adventures
• I’m a democrat, believe in democracy and equal rights, am empathetic and do not date MAGA
• Monogamous when committed
• Excellent communicator (sapiosexual/demisexual, so I really love getting to know people)
• Equal parts affectionate, thoughtful, and relentlessly curious
• I am borderline hypersexual, but without the negative aspects in a relationship
• I am a “gentle pleasure Dom” — I am extremely tuned in to what turns you on and gets you off
• I have a vasectomy and a recent STI test.

Relationship-wise, I’m very touch-oriented, creatively playful and deeply affectionate. I want a best friend AND amazing romantic chemistry. I miss having a person to send random thoughts to during the day, cook with, travel with, tease relentlessly, and disappear with for spontaneous moments and long weekends.

Sexual compatibility matters a lot to me, and I’m happiest with someone who sees physical intimacy as a major part of emotional connection.  This does not mean we need to rush into anything, though.

I’m quietly confident, communicative, affectionate, adventurous, and very into building trust and chemistry over time.

I’m especially compatible with someone who:

• has a genuinely high libido
• enjoys teasing and anticipation
• likes both tenderness and intensity
• values openness and honesty and positivity around sex
• enjoys giving as much as receiving
• is sex-positive, open-minded, and adventurous about trying new things
• never wants a relationship without passion again

I’m not looking for perfection, and this isn’t a checklist where you need to match every single thing.  That said, I’m generally most compatible with women who are:

• somewhere in the ~38–50 range
• emotionally mature
• reasonably health-conscious and physically active
• affectionate, playful and communicative
• non-smokers
• politically compatible
• financially-stable
• no kids, or an empty-nester 
• genuinely available for a relationship (not married and still living with a husband)

Bonus points if you:

• can hold a conversation for hours
• love physical touch outside the bedroom as much as in it
• travel well
• send dangerously distracting texts during work meetings
• think intelligence is sexy
• occasionally look at me like you’re about to cause problems on purpose

As for attraction: yes, it matters. We both know that. I’m happy to exchange photos early once we start communicating regularly so nobody wastes time or feels awkward.

I value kindness, self-awareness, curiosity, humor, enthusiasm, and emotional reciprocity far more than perfection.

If this resonates, tell me:

• what you’re actually looking for
• what your ideal relationship feels like
• what makes you light up
• and maybe the most unexpectedly attractive thing about you

Worst case scenario, we have a good conversation.

Best case?  Maybe we become each other’s favorite distraction.

I’m looking for something increasingly rare: a genuinely-connected relationship with someone playful, emotionally open, physically affectionate, intellectually curious, and enthusiastically sexual.

I would love the kind of relationship where:

• we flirt often and with intention
• we communicate easily, openly, honestly
• we not only steal kisses, but we kiss in a way that causes fun physiological reactions
• we laugh hard, we play harder
• we can barely keep our hands off each other after years together
• we love traveling together, supporting each other, growing with each other
• we genuinely like each other outside the bedroom

I’m in south Orange County, and I’m hoping you are, too — or that you’re willing to relocate.

About me:

• 6’1”, active and healthy (gym, 30-mile bike rides, hiking)
• A young 51; some wrinkles, thinning hair (working on it!), working on losing my last 25 pounds — but I’ve got the energy of someone half my age
• Successful, stable, emotionally available
• I work in tech and am into science and technology
• Divorced and living alone, with two older kids who don’t live with me
• Into astronomy, photography, hiking, travel, biking, paddle-boarding, road trips, deep conversations, and spontaneous adventures
• I’m a democrat, believe in democracy and equal rights, am empathetic and do not date MAGA
• Monogamous when committed
• Excellent communicator (sapiosexual/demisexual, so I really love getting to know people)
• Equal parts affectionate, thoughtful, and relentlessly curious
• I am borderline hypersexual, but without the negative aspects in a relationship
• I am a “gentle pleasure Dom” — I am extremely tuned in to what turns you on and gets you off
• I have a vasectomy and a recent STI test.

Relationship-wise, I’m very touch-oriented, creatively playful and deeply affectionate. I want a best friend AND amazing romantic chemistry. I miss having a person to send random thoughts to during the day, cook with, travel with, tease relentlessly, and disappear with for spontaneous moments and long weekends.

Sexual compatibility matters a lot to me, and I’m happiest with someone who sees physical intimacy as a major part of emotional connection.  This does not mean we need to rush into anything, though.

I’m quietly confident, communicative, affectionate, adventurous, and very into building trust and chemistry over time.

I’m especially compatible with someone who:

• has a genuinely high libido
• enjoys teasing and anticipation
• likes both tenderness and intensity
• values openness and honesty and positivity around sex
• enjoys giving as much as receiving
• is sex-positive, open-minded, and adventurous about trying new things
• never wants a relationship without passion again

I’m not looking for perfection, and this isn’t a checklist where you need to match every single thing.  That said, I’m generally most compatible with women who are:

• somewhere in the ~38–50 range
• emotionally mature
• reasonably health-conscious and physically active
• affectionate, playful and communicative
• non-smokers
• politically compatible
• financially-stable
• no kids, or an empty-nester 
• genuinely available for a relationship (not married and still living with a husband)

Bonus points if you:

• can hold a conversation for hours
• love physical touch outside the bedroom as much as in it
• travel well
• send dangerously distracting texts during work meetings
• think intelligence is sexy
• occasionally look at me like you’re about to cause problems on purpose

As for attraction: yes, it matters. We both know that. I’m happy to exchange photos early once we start communicating regularly so nobody wastes time or feels awkward.

I value kindness, self-awareness, curiosity, humor, enthusiasm, and emotional reciprocity far more than perfection.

If this resonates, tell me:

• what you’re actually looking for
• what your ideal relationship feels like
• what makes you light up
• and maybe the most unexpectedly attractive thing about you

Worst case scenario, we have a good conversation.

Best case?  Maybe we become each other’s favorite distraction.

I’m looking for something increasingly rare: a genuinely-connected relationship with someone playful, emotionally open, physically affectionate, intellectually curious, and enthusiastically sexual.

I would love the kind of relationship where:

• we flirt often and with intention
• we communicate easily, openly, honestly
• we not only steal kisses, but we kiss in a way that causes fun physiological reactions
• we laugh hard, we play harder
• we can barely keep our hands off each other after years together
• we love traveling together, supporting each other, growing with each other
• we genuinely like each other outside the bedroom

I’m in south Orange County, and I’m hoping you are, too — or that you’re willing to relocate.

About me:

• 6’1”, active and healthy (gym, 30-mile bike rides, hiking)
• A young 51; some wrinkles, thinning hair (working on it!), working on losing my last 25 pounds — but I’ve got the energy of someone half my age
• Successful, stable, emotionally available
• I work in tech and am into science and technology
• Divorced and living alone, with two older kids who don’t live with me
• Into astronomy, photography, hiking, travel, biking, paddle-boarding, road trips, deep conversations, and spontaneous adventures
• I’m a democrat, believe in democracy and equal rights, am empathetic and do not date MAGA
• Monogamous when committed
• Excellent communicator (sapiosexual/demisexual, so I really love getting to know people)
• Equal parts affectionate, thoughtful, and relentlessly curious
• I am borderline hypersexual, but without the negative aspects in a relationship
• I am a “gentle pleasure Dom” — I am extremely tuned in to what turns you on and gets you off
• I have a vasectomy and a recent STI test.

Relationship-wise, I’m very touch-oriented, creatively playful and deeply affectionate. I want a best friend AND amazing romantic chemistry. I miss having a person to send random thoughts to during the day, cook with, travel with, tease relentlessly, and disappear with for spontaneous moments and long weekends.

Sexual compatibility matters a lot to me, and I’m happiest with someone who sees physical intimacy as a major part of emotional connection.  This does not mean we need to rush into anything, though.

I’m quietly confident, communicative, affectionate, adventurous, and very into building trust and chemistry over time.

I’m especially compatible with someone who:

• has a genuinely high libido
• enjoys teasing and anticipation
• likes both tenderness and intensity
• values openness and honesty and positivity around sex
• enjoys giving as much as receiving
• is sex-positive, open-minded, and adventurous about trying new things
• never wants a relationship without passion again

I’m not looking for perfection, and this isn’t a checklist where you need to match every single thing.  That said, I’m generally most compatible with women who are:

• somewhere in the ~38–50 range
• emotionally mature
• reasonably health-conscious and physically active
• affectionate, playful and communicative
• non-smokers
• politically compatible
• financially-stable
• no kids, or an empty-nester 
• genuinely available for a relationship (not married and still living with a husband)

Bonus points if you:

• can hold a conversation for hours
• love physical touch outside the bedroom as much as in it
• travel well
• send dangerously distracting texts during work meetings
• think intelligence is sexy
• occasionally look at me like you’re about to cause problems on purpose

As for attraction: yes, it matters. We both know that. I’m happy to exchange photos early once we start communicating regularly so nobody wastes time or feels awkward.

I value kindness, self-awareness, curiosity, humor, enthusiasm, and emotional reciprocity far more than perfection.

If this resonates, tell me:

• what you’re actually looking for
• what your ideal relationship feels like
• what makes you light up
• and maybe the most unexpectedly attractive thing about you

Worst case scenario, we have a good conversation.

Best case?  Maybe we become each other’s favorite distraction.

I’m a divorced, fully available hypersexual man in South Orange County, California looking for a long-term partner. My goal is a real relationship that could grow into life partnership/marriage with the right person.

I’m only looking for women who are either already in Southern California or have a fully remote career and are genuinely open to relocating here for the right relationship. I’m not looking for permanent long-distance connections.

About me:
• 6’1”
• 51, youthful energy
• Tech
• Financially stable
• Divorced and emotionally available
• Science nerd / sci-fi fan
• Travel lover
• Hiking, biking, photography, road trips, camping
• Affectionate, playful, communicative, and intentional

I’m looking for someone who wants both a best friend and a romantic partner. Someone deeply affectionate, emotionally grounded, curious about life, and excited to build a relationship with strong chemistry.

Physical compatibility matters to me. I’m naturally very affectionate and passionate, and I’m looking for someone who feels similarly about intimacy, touch, and keeping that connection alive long-term.

I love playful banter, deep conversations, spontaneous adventures, meaningful physical affection, and building the kind of relationship where both people feel deeply wanted.

You might be a fit if you’re:
• 38-46 (older is fine if you think you can keep up)
• Single/divorced/separated/widowed
• Emotionally mature
• Affectionate
• Communicative
• Active/health-conscious
• Open to travel
• Looking for something real
• Not MAGA

If this resonates, send me a message and tell me where you live, what you’re looking for, and what great chemistry looks like for you.

This is a NSFW personals ad — it isn’t for everyone, maybe only 1%.  I was in a dead bedroom for many years, and then I had an incredible relationship with a high-libido woman.  It is over now, but it taught me that what I want IS out there — I just have to be very explicit about what I'm looking for.

Up front:

• I have a vasectomy and a recent STI test
• I live alone and am not in a relationship. Straight.
• If you are married or living with a partner/former partner, I wish you well on your journey.
• If you are MAGA, please pass.  We won’t have the alignment I’m looking for.
• Only looking for cis-gendered women at this time. Thank you for respecting this.

My Goal:

I am searching for a serious partner, someone who needs a man in her life who is funny, smart, intentional, attentive, playful and really good at finding orgasms. Ideally, a long-term relationship that turns into life partner or marriage. I am open to other dating dynamics if we really connect and the circumstances are just right, but long-term and consistent is my goal.

>> Let’s Talk Libido.

Let me be real right out of the gate. I don't want to waste either of our time dating if we're ultimately not going to be the right fit, so I'm throwing this right out there:

• Yes, I have a high libido -- but I'm the whole package. I'm a great friend, a reliable companion, a true partner and a skilled and considerate lover. It's not just all sex. My heart is as horny as the rest of my body. 
• Daily sex (5–6x/week) is a gentle minimum, 2x daily is great, more than that on weekends/vacations is pure magic!  
• I’m a pleasure dom.  I’m affectionate, considerate, tuned in, and absolutely addicted to turning you on and getting you off. I am very focused on your pleasure. Playful in many ways. 
• I’m deeply turned on by your own arousal. I want to feel your body surrender to me over and over and over again until you’re satisfied.  
• Spontaneous can’t-wait-until-morning moments?  Likely.  
• Erotic 2-hour massages?  Hell yes. Happy endings included! 
• BDSM: I’m naturally dominant and like light restraints, some power exchange, etc. but I'm not into elaborate rituals or theatrics like Shibari or humiliation/degradation (other than my pet names for you). I do have sex swings, inflatable sex furniture for camping, a beautiful Tantra Chair and so many sex toys I might need to move! 
• Public affection, playfulness and spontaneity is a way of life for me. 
• My love language is physical touch — sexual and non-sexual alike.

 

>> About Me

• 6’1, caucasian, with a darker complexion.  
• A young 51.  I’ve got some wrinkles and thinning hair (working on it!), and working on losing my last 25 pounds, but I’ve got the energy of someone half my age.  
• Divorced.  Really.  Not rebounding — I am READY to find my lover for life.  
• Thoughtful, confident, professional.  Good communicator.  
• In therapy, because it’s healthy.  Not perfect, though, and never will be.  
• Financially stable; accomplished career in tech leadership.  Ready to relax in life with my new partner.  
• Active traveler — from eclipses in Texas to national parks around the US to meteor showers in New Mexico to overseas vacations. Let’s explore together and cum as aftercare.  
• Passionate about science (and science fiction), deep conversations, romantic gestures, and slow, consistent seduction.  
• Physically active.  Hiking, biking, exploring, photography, boating, road trips, camping, travel.  Dying to take my girl on a train!  
• Serious hobbies.  I’ve never been called boring or uninteresting.  
• Endlessly affectionate: frequent kissing, touching, cuddles, projected warmth every chance we can get.  I will likely need to resist pulling you into my arms every time I walk past you in the kitchen.  Tenderness and caring and desire on a level most don’t experience.  
• Pleasure.  I give as much as I crave — and I crave a lot.  
• None of that alpha male bullshit. I'm independent, confident and assertive without dominance, egotism or narcissism.  Reasonably emotionally intelligent and improving. 
• I have a very low body count.  I’m not interested in quantity, only quality. No ONS.  
• STI tested with proof, vaxxed to the max.  
• Non-religious, moderate democratic capitalist.  SORRY, NO MAGA.

  

>> Texting, Sexting, and Connection

I’m demisexual and sapiosexual — I need a deeper emotional and intellectual connection to have a real relationship. This means:

• I love texting — and not just logistics. I want to learn, flirt, tease, get deep, and fall into lust with you over text.  
• We’ll text for a day or two to build connection, then exchange photos. If we vibe, phone/video calls and a coffee date follow. 
• You’ll need to carry at least half of the conversation. One-word answers or 5-word questions and long delays between interactions doesn’t work for me. Either we focus on each other, or we move on. 
• Grammar matters. Communication is intimacy. If I’m deciphering broken syntax like a puzzle, we’re not a match.  
• Expect extremely hot text exchanges once we’re comfortable — late-night fantasies, vivid desires, sometimes even writing each other into sexy little stories.  
• If you’re out of town? Maybe I’ll read you a sexy story, or we listen to each other get off over the phone. That moment when you whisper “I came so hard” across 400 miles… it’s hot as hell.

  

>> What I’m Looking For

You’re…

• Female
• Single/separated/divorced/widowed. NOT living with a partner/former partner unless maybe you're into ENM. 
• Somewhere around 38-45, ideally at least 5’ 6” (to 5’ 11” or so) and active, healthy and fit.  Weight proportional to height. I can go older than that if you think you can keep up in the bedroom.  
• You crave physical touch and intimacy and sex daily.  
• In or very near South Orange County. Not “just visiting,” and not overseas — no exceptions. We both validate before getting personal. The goal is seeing each other often, not a pen-pal relationship that never materializes. 
• Emotionally grounded, confident, and sexually expressive.  If your mind is as dirty as mine, we’re going to make fire together.  
• Open to deep, consistent connection.  In relationships, I’m all-in and you should be, too. If you don't have time for a relationship, we're not a match. 
• Intelligent, curious, reasonably successful and financially mature.  Able to travel regularly.  
• Adventurous. Affectionate. Addicted to touch. Someone who wants weekends that feel like escapes, and weekday texts that make you press your legs together in the office chair.  
• Ideally, non-religious (spiritual or lightly religious is fine, as long you don’t make it your mission to convert me).  
• Ideally, no kids or an empty-nester.  I love kids, but I’m ready to travel without complications, date with a vengeance and use the hot tub naked.  
• Non-smoker.  
• Willing to get fresh STI test results. Vaccinated.  
• I am not interested in anyone who’s remotely MAGA.  No offense, you’re just not for me.  
• ALL these desires are not required.  Just most.

  

>> Interested?

• DM me. I'm open. People love chatting with me, even if it doesn't go further.  
• Tell me what you crave, mentally and physically.  Bullet points or prose, long or short, just communicate clearly and openly. Be bold. I'll listen.  
• We'll exchange face/full body pics after a day or two, to see if there's attraction. 
• Be ready to validate so I know who you say you are — no exceptions.  I can do the same.  
• Be local, be responsive, be real. 
• Zero expectations for our first dates.  I am a gentleman first.  I’m all about low pressure, for both of us.  I’m demi/sapiosexual, and "consent" is in my username.

If you just said to yourself “Finally, someone who gets it!” then reach out.  Take a chance.  You never know!

This is a NSFW personals ad — it isn’t for everyone, maybe only 1%.  I was in a dead bedroom for many years, and then I had an incredible relationship with a high-libido woman.  It is over now, but it taught me that what I want IS out there — I just have to be very explicit about what I'm looking for.

Up front:

• I have a vasectomy and a recent STI test
• I live alone and am not in a relationship. Straight.
• If you are married or living with a partner/former partner, I wish you well on your journey.
• If you are MAGA, please pass.  We won’t have the alignment I’m looking for.
• Only looking for cis-gendered women at this time. Thank you for respecting this.
• I live in South OC, but I travel to San Diego and Temecula often and ultimately will relocate for love.

My Goal:

I am searching for a serious partner, someone who needs a man in her life who is funny, smart, intentional, attentive, playful and really good at finding orgasms. Ideally, a long-term relationship that turns into life partner or marriage. I am open to other dating dynamics if we really connect and the circumstances are just right, but long-term and consistent is my goal.

>> Let’s Talk Libido.

Let me be real right out of the gate. I don't want to waste either of our time dating if we're ultimately not going to be the right fit, so I'm throwing this right out there:

• Yes, I have a high libido -- but I'm the whole package. I'm a great friend, a reliable companion, a true partner and a skilled and considerate lover. It's not just all sex. My heart is as horny as the rest of my body. 
• Daily sex (5–6x/week) is a gentle minimum, 2x daily is great, more than that on weekends/vacations is pure magic!  
• I’m a pleasure dom.  I’m affectionate, considerate, tuned in, and absolutely addicted to turning you on and getting you off. I am very focused on your pleasure. Playful in many ways. 
• I’m deeply turned on by your own arousal. I want to feel your body surrender to me over and over and over again until you’re satisfied.  
• Spontaneous can’t-wait-until-morning moments?  Likely.  
• Erotic 2-hour massages?  Hell yes. Happy endings included! 
• BDSM: I’m naturally dominant and like light restraints, some power exchange, etc. but I'm not into elaborate rituals or theatrics like Shibari or humiliation/degradation (other than my pet names for you). I do have sex swings, inflatable sex furniture for camping, a beautiful Tantra Chair and so many sex toys I might need to move! 
• Public affection, playfulness and spontaneity is a way of life for me. 
• My love language is physical touch — sexual and non-sexual alike.

 

>> About Me

• 6’1, caucasian, with a darker complexion.  
• A young 51.  I’ve got some wrinkles and thinning hair (working on it!), and working on losing my last 25 pounds, but I’ve got the energy of someone half my age.  
• Divorced.  Really.  Not rebounding — I am READY to find my lover for life.  
• Thoughtful, confident, professional.  Good communicator.  
• In therapy, because it’s healthy.  Not perfect, though, and never will be.  
• Financially stable; accomplished career in tech leadership.  Ready to relax in life with my new partner.  
• Active traveler — from eclipses in Texas to national parks around the US to meteor showers in New Mexico to overseas vacations. Let’s explore together and cum as aftercare.  
• Passionate about science (and science fiction), deep conversations, romantic gestures, and slow, consistent seduction.  
• Physically active.  Hiking, biking, exploring, photography, boating, road trips, camping, travel.  Dying to take my girl on a train!  
• Serious hobbies.  I’ve never been called boring or uninteresting.  
• Endlessly affectionate: frequent kissing, touching, cuddles, projected warmth every chance we can get.  I will likely need to resist pulling you into my arms every time I walk past you in the kitchen.  Tenderness and caring and desire on a level most don’t experience.  
• Pleasure.  I give as much as I crave — and I crave a lot.  
• None of that alpha male bullshit. I'm independent, confident and assertive without dominance, egotism or narcissism.  Reasonably emotionally intelligent and improving. 
• I have a very low body count.  I’m not interested in quantity, only quality. No ONS.  
• STI tested with proof, vaxxed to the max.  
• Non-religious, moderate democratic capitalist.  SORRY, NO MAGA.

  

>> Texting, Sexting, and Connection

I’m demisexual and sapiosexual — I need a deeper emotional and intellectual connection to have a real relationship. This means:

• I love texting — and not just logistics. I want to learn, flirt, tease, get deep, and fall into lust with you over text.  
• We’ll text for a day or two to build connection, then exchange photos. If we vibe, phone/video calls and a coffee date follow. 
• You’ll need to carry at least half of the conversation. One-word answers or 5-word questions and long delays between interactions doesn’t work for me. Either we focus on each other, or we move on. 
• Grammar matters. Communication is intimacy. If I’m deciphering broken syntax like a puzzle, we’re not a match.  
• Expect extremely hot text exchanges once we’re comfortable — late-night fantasies, vivid desires, sometimes even writing each other into sexy little stories.  
• If you’re out of town? Maybe I’ll read you a sexy story, or we listen to each other get off over the phone. That moment when you whisper “I came so hard” across 400 miles… it’s hot as hell.

  

>> What I’m Looking For

You’re…

• Female
• Single/separated/divorced/widowed. NOT living with a partner/former partner unless maybe you're into ENM. 
• Somewhere around 38-45, ideally at least 5’ 6” (to 5’ 11” or so) and active, healthy and fit.  Weight proportional to height. I can go older than that if you think you can keep up in the bedroom.  
• You crave physical touch and intimacy and sex daily.  
• In or very near South Orange County. Not “just visiting,” and not overseas — no exceptions. We both validate before getting personal. The goal is seeing each other often, not a pen-pal relationship that never materializes. 
• Emotionally grounded, confident, and sexually expressive.  If your mind is as dirty as mine, we’re going to make fire together.  
• Open to deep, consistent connection.  In relationships, I’m all-in and you should be, too. If you don't have time for a relationship, we're not a match. 
• Intelligent, curious, reasonably successful and financially mature.  Able to travel regularly.  
• Adventurous. Affectionate. Addicted to touch. Someone who wants weekends that feel like escapes, and weekday texts that make you press your legs together in the office chair.  
• Ideally, non-religious (spiritual or lightly religious is fine, as long you don’t make it your mission to convert me).  
• Ideally, no kids or an empty-nester.  I love kids, but I’m ready to travel without complications, date with a vengeance and use the hot tub naked.  
• Non-smoker.  
• Willing to get fresh STI test results. Vaccinated.  
• I am not interested in anyone who’s remotely MAGA.  No offense, you’re just not for me.  
• ALL these desires are not required.  Just most.

  

>> Interested?

• DM me. I'm open. People love chatting with me, even if it doesn't go further.  
• Tell me what you crave, mentally and physically.  Bullet points or prose, long or short, just communicate clearly and openly. Be bold. I'll listen.  
• We'll exchange face/full body pics after a day or two, to see if there's attraction. 
• Be ready to validate so I know who you say you are — no exceptions.  I can do the same.  
• Be local, be responsive, be real. 
• Zero expectations for our first dates.  I am a gentleman first.  I’m all about low pressure, for both of us.  I’m demi/sapiosexual, and "consent" is in my username.

If you just said to yourself “Finally, someone who gets it!” then reach out.  Take a chance.  You never know!

This is a NSFW personals ad — it isn’t for everyone, maybe only 1%.  I was in a dead bedroom for many years, and then I had an incredible relationship with a high-libido woman.  It is over now, but it taught me that what I want IS out there — I just have to be very explicit about what I'm looking for.

Up front:

• I have a vasectomy and a recent STI test
• I live alone and am not in a relationship. Straight.
• If you are married or living with a partner/former partner, I wish you well on your journey.
• If you are MAGA, please pass.  We won’t have the alignment I’m looking for.
• Only looking for cis-gendered women at this time. Thank you for respecting this.
• I live in South OC, but I travel to San Diego and Temecula often and ultimately will relocate for love.

My Goal:

I am searching for a serious partner, someone who needs a man in her life who is funny, smart, intentional, attentive, playful and really good at finding orgasms. Ideally, a long-term relationship that turns into life partner or marriage. I am open to other dating dynamics if we really connect and the circumstances are just right, but long-term and consistent is my goal.

>> Let’s Talk Libido.

Let me be real right out of the gate. I don't want to waste either of our time dating if we're ultimately not going to be the right fit, so I'm throwing this right out there:

• Yes, I have a high libido -- but I'm the whole package. I'm a great friend, a reliable companion, a true partner and a skilled and considerate lover. It's not just all sex. My heart is as horny as the rest of my body. 
• Daily sex (5–6x/week) is a gentle minimum, 2x daily is great, more than that on weekends/vacations is pure magic!  
• I’m a pleasure dom.  I’m affectionate, considerate, tuned in, and absolutely addicted to turning you on and getting you off. I am very focused on your pleasure. Playful in many ways. 
• I’m deeply turned on by your own arousal. I want to feel your body surrender to me over and over and over again until you’re satisfied.  
• Spontaneous can’t-wait-until-morning moments?  Likely.  
• Erotic 2-hour massages?  Hell yes. Happy endings included! 
• BDSM: I’m naturally dominant and like light restraints, some power exchange, etc. but I'm not into elaborate rituals or theatrics like Shibari or humiliation/degradation (other than my pet names for you). I do have sex swings, inflatable sex furniture for camping, a beautiful Tantra Chair and so many sex toys I might need to move! 
• Public affection, playfulness and spontaneity is a way of life for me. 
• My love language is physical touch — sexual and non-sexual alike.

 

>> About Me

• 6’1, caucasian, with a darker complexion.  
• A young 51.  I’ve got some wrinkles and thinning hair (working on it!), and working on losing my last 25 pounds, but I’ve got the energy of someone half my age.  
• Divorced.  Really.  Not rebounding — I am READY to find my lover for life.  
• Thoughtful, confident, professional.  Good communicator.  
• In therapy, because it’s healthy.  Not perfect, though, and never will be.  
• Financially stable; accomplished career in tech leadership.  Ready to relax in life with my new partner.  
• Active traveler — from eclipses in Texas to national parks around the US to meteor showers in New Mexico to overseas vacations. Let’s explore together and cum as aftercare.  
• Passionate about science (and science fiction), deep conversations, romantic gestures, and slow, consistent seduction.  
• Physically active.  Hiking, biking, exploring, photography, boating, road trips, camping, travel.  Dying to take my girl on a train!  
• Serious hobbies.  I’ve never been called boring or uninteresting.  
• Endlessly affectionate: frequent kissing, touching, cuddles, projected warmth every chance we can get.  I will likely need to resist pulling you into my arms every time I walk past you in the kitchen.  Tenderness and caring and desire on a level most don’t experience.  
• Pleasure.  I give as much as I crave — and I crave a lot.  
• None of that alpha male bullshit. I'm independent, confident and assertive without dominance, egotism or narcissism.  Reasonably emotionally intelligent and improving. 
• I have a very low body count.  I’m not interested in quantity, only quality. No ONS.  
• STI tested with proof, vaxxed to the max.  
• Non-religious, moderate democratic capitalist.  SORRY, NO MAGA.

  

>> Texting, Sexting, and Connection

I’m demisexual and sapiosexual — I need a deeper emotional and intellectual connection to have a real relationship. This means:

• I love texting — and not just logistics. I want to learn, flirt, tease, get deep, and fall into lust with you over text.  
• We’ll text for a day or two to build connection, then exchange photos. If we vibe, phone/video calls and a coffee date follow. 
• You’ll need to carry at least half of the conversation. One-word answers or 5-word questions and long delays between interactions doesn’t work for me. Either we focus on each other, or we move on. 
• Grammar matters. Communication is intimacy. If I’m deciphering broken syntax like a puzzle, we’re not a match.  
• Expect extremely hot text exchanges once we’re comfortable — late-night fantasies, vivid desires, sometimes even writing each other into sexy little stories.  
• If you’re out of town? Maybe I’ll read you a sexy story, or we listen to each other get off over the phone. That moment when you whisper “I came so hard” across 400 miles… it’s hot as hell.

  

>> What I’m Looking For

You’re…

• Female
• Single/separated/divorced/widowed. NOT living with a partner/former partner unless maybe you're into ENM. 
• Somewhere around 38-45, ideally at least 5’ 6” (to 5’ 11” or so) and active, healthy and fit.  Weight proportional to height. I can go older than that if you think you can keep up in the bedroom.  
• You crave physical touch and intimacy and sex daily.  
• In or very near South Orange County. Not “just visiting,” and not overseas — no exceptions. We both validate before getting personal. The goal is seeing each other often, not a pen-pal relationship that never materializes. 
• Emotionally grounded, confident, and sexually expressive.  If your mind is as dirty as mine, we’re going to make fire together.  
• Open to deep, consistent connection.  In relationships, I’m all-in and you should be, too. If you don't have time for a relationship, we're not a match. 
• Intelligent, curious, reasonably successful and financially mature.  Able to travel regularly.  
• Adventurous. Affectionate. Addicted to touch. Someone who wants weekends that feel like escapes, and weekday texts that make you press your legs together in the office chair.  
• Ideally, non-religious (spiritual or lightly religious is fine, as long you don’t make it your mission to convert me).  
• Ideally, no kids or an empty-nester.  I love kids, but I’m ready to travel without complications, date with a vengeance and use the hot tub naked.  
• Non-smoker.  
• Willing to get fresh STI test results. Vaccinated.  
• I am not interested in anyone who’s remotely MAGA.  No offense, you’re just not for me.  
• ALL these desires are not required.  Just most.

  

>> Interested?

• DM me. I'm open. People love chatting with me, even if it doesn't go further.  
• Tell me what you crave, mentally and physically.  Bullet points or prose, long or short, just communicate clearly and openly. Be bold. I'll listen.  
• We'll exchange face/full body pics after a day or two, to see if there's attraction. 
• Be ready to validate so I know who you say you are — no exceptions.  I can do the same.  
• Be local, be responsive, be real. 
• Zero expectations for our first dates.  I am a gentleman first.  I’m all about low pressure, for both of us.  I’m demi/sapiosexual, and "consent" is in my username.

If you just said to yourself “Finally, someone who gets it!” then reach out.  Take a chance.  You never know!

Looking for a woman who wants intense chemistry and genuine connection. Best friend energy, absurd playfulness, constant warm touch, effortless communication, emotional maturity… and wants great sex multiple times a day.

6’1”, active, impeccable hygiene, liberal, vaccinated.  I’ve done therapy, communicate consistently, and genuinely value building something real and longer-term with someone who I align closely with. Low body count, disease-free, zero interest in chaos, honest and loyal.  I’m a real human being who looks his age.  If you can’t handle wrinkles and a little thinning hair (recovering!), I’m not for you.

As a generous lover, I’m obsessed with giving pleasure — I’m a gentle pleasure Dom.  I also write erotica, adore building anticipation when we’re apart, and love keeping you sizzling over messaging.

I’m looking for a cis-female, 38-48 or so, fit and active who is within 20 miles of Mission Viejo, CA.  If you have a delightfully naughty mind, an adventurous spirit, a playful attitude and a high sex drive, we need to talk!

Please DM me with a message of some substance.  Let’s start getting to know each other, then verify attraction with photos within 24 hours.  

Let’s make life AMAZING again!

Sorry, no MAGA; we just won’t have compatible word-views.

This is a NSFW personals ad — it isn’t for everyone, maybe only 1%.  I was in a dead bedroom for many years, and then I had an incredible relationship with a high-libido woman.  It is over now, but it taught me that what I want IS out there — I just have to be very explicit about what I'm looking for.

Up front:

• I have a vasectomy and a recent STI test
• I live alone and am not in a relationship. Straight.
• If you are married or living with a partner/former partner, I wish you well on your journey.
• If you are MAGA, please pass.  We won’t have the alignment I’m looking for.
• Only looking for cis-gendered women at this time. Thank you for respecting this.
• I live in South OC, but I travel to San Diego and Temecula often and ultimately will relocate for love.

My Goal:

I am searching for a serious partner, someone who needs a man in her life who is funny, smart, intentional, attentive, playful and really good at finding orgasms. Ideally, a long-term relationship that turns into life partner or marriage. I am open to other dating dynamics if we really connect and the circumstances are just right, but long-term and consistent is my goal.

>> Let’s Talk Libido.

Let me be real right out of the gate. I don't want to waste either of our time dating if we're ultimately not going to be the right fit, so I'm throwing this right out there:

• Yes, I have a high libido -- but I'm the whole package. I'm a great friend, a reliable companion, a true partner and a skilled and considerate lover. It's not just all sex. My heart is as horny as the rest of my body. 
• Daily sex (5–6x/week) is a gentle minimum, 2x daily is great, more than that on weekends/vacations is pure magic!  
• I’m a pleasure dom.  I’m affectionate, considerate, tuned in, and absolutely addicted to turning you on and getting you off. I am very focused on your pleasure. Playful in many ways. 
• I’m deeply turned on by your own arousal. I want to feel your body surrender to me over and over and over again until you’re satisfied.  
• Spontaneous can’t-wait-until-morning moments?  Likely.  
• Erotic 2-hour massages?  Hell yes. Happy endings included! 
• BDSM: I’m naturally dominant and like light restraints, some power exchange, etc. but I'm not into elaborate rituals or theatrics like Shibari or humiliation/degradation (other than my pet names for you). I do have sex swings, inflatable sex furniture for camping, a beautiful Tantra Chair and so many sex toys I might need to move! 
• Public affection, playfulness and spontaneity is a way of life for me. 
• My love language is physical touch — sexual and non-sexual alike.

 

>> About Me

• 6’1, caucasian, with a darker complexion.  
• A young 51.  I’ve got some wrinkles and thinning hair (working on it!), and working on losing my last 25 pounds, but I’ve got the energy of someone half my age.  
• Divorced.  Really.  Not rebounding — I am READY to find my lover for life.  
• Thoughtful, confident, professional.  Good communicator.  
• In therapy, because it’s healthy.  Not perfect, though, and never will be.  
• Financially stable; accomplished career in tech leadership.  Ready to relax in life with my new partner.  
• Active traveler — from eclipses in Texas to national parks around the US to meteor showers in New Mexico to overseas vacations. Let’s explore together and cum as aftercare.  
• Passionate about science (and science fiction), deep conversations, romantic gestures, and slow, consistent seduction.  
• Physically active.  Hiking, biking, exploring, photography, boating, road trips, camping, travel.  Dying to take my girl on a train!  
• Serious hobbies.  I’ve never been called boring or uninteresting.  
• Endlessly affectionate: frequent kissing, touching, cuddles, projected warmth every chance we can get.  I will likely need to resist pulling you into my arms every time I walk past you in the kitchen.  Tenderness and caring and desire on a level most don’t experience.  
• Pleasure.  I give as much as I crave — and I crave a lot.  
• None of that alpha male bullshit. I'm independent, confident and assertive without dominance, egotism or narcissism.  Reasonably emotionally intelligent and improving. 
• I have a very low body count.  I’m not interested in quantity, only quality. No ONS.  
• STI tested with proof, vaxxed to the max.  
• Non-religious, moderate democratic capitalist.  SORRY, NO MAGA.

  

>> Texting, Sexting, and Connection

I’m demisexual and sapiosexual — I need a deeper emotional and intellectual connection to have a real relationship. This means:

• I love texting — and not just logistics. I want to learn, flirt, tease, get deep, and fall into lust with you over text.  
• We’ll text for a day or two to build connection, then exchange photos. If we vibe, phone/video calls and a coffee date follow. 
• You’ll need to carry at least half of the conversation. One-word answers or 5-word questions and long delays between interactions doesn’t work for me. Either we focus on each other, or we move on. 
• Grammar matters. Communication is intimacy. If I’m deciphering broken syntax like a puzzle, we’re not a match.  
• Expect extremely hot text exchanges once we’re comfortable — late-night fantasies, vivid desires, sometimes even writing each other into sexy little stories.  
• If you’re out of town? Maybe I’ll read you a sexy story, or we listen to each other get off over the phone. That moment when you whisper “I came so hard” across 400 miles… it’s hot as hell.

  

>> What I’m Looking For

You’re…

• Female
• Single/separated/divorced/widowed. NOT living with a partner/former partner unless maybe you're into ENM. 
• Somewhere around 38-45, ideally at least 5’ 6” (to 5’ 11” or so) and active, healthy and fit.  Weight proportional to height. I can go older than that if you think you can keep up in the bedroom.  
• You crave physical touch and intimacy and sex daily.  
• In or very near South Orange County. Not “just visiting,” and not overseas — no exceptions. We both validate before getting personal. The goal is seeing each other often, not a pen-pal relationship that never materializes. 
• Emotionally grounded, confident, and sexually expressive.  If your mind is as dirty as mine, we’re going to make fire together.  
• Open to deep, consistent connection.  In relationships, I’m all-in and you should be, too. If you don't have time for a relationship, we're not a match. 
• Intelligent, curious, reasonably successful and financially mature.  Able to travel regularly.  
• Adventurous. Affectionate. Addicted to touch. Someone who wants weekends that feel like escapes, and weekday texts that make you press your legs together in the office chair.  
• Ideally, non-religious (spiritual or lightly religious is fine, as long you don’t make it your mission to convert me).  
• Ideally, no kids or an empty-nester.  I love kids, but I’m ready to travel without complications, date with a vengeance and use the hot tub naked.  
• Non-smoker.  
• Willing to get fresh STI test results. Vaccinated.  
• I am not interested in anyone who’s remotely MAGA.  No offense, you’re just not for me.  
• ALL these desires are not required.  Just most.

  

>> Interested?

• DM me. I'm open. People love chatting with me, even if it doesn't go further.  
• Tell me what you crave, mentally and physically.  Bullet points or prose, long or short, just communicate clearly and openly. Be bold. I'll listen.  
• We'll exchange face/full body pics after a day or two, to see if there's attraction. 
• Be ready to validate so I know who you say you are — no exceptions.  I can do the same.  
• Be local, be responsive, be real. 
• Zero expectations for our first dates.  I am a gentleman first.  I’m all about low pressure, for both of us.  I’m demi/sapiosexual, and "consent" is in my username.

If you just said to yourself “Finally, someone who gets it!” then reach out.  Take a chance.  You never know!

This is a NSFW personals ad — it isn’t for everyone, maybe only 1%.  I was in a dead bedroom for many years, and then I had an incredible relationship with a high-libido woman.  It is over now, but it taught me that what I want IS out there — I just have to be very explicit about what I'm looking for.

Up front:

• I have a vasectomy and a recent STI test
• I live alone and am not in a relationship. Straight.
• If you are married or living with a partner/former partner, I wish you well on your journey.
• If you are MAGA, please pass.  We won’t have the alignment I’m looking for.
• Only looking for cis-gendered women at this time. Thank you for respecting this.
• I live in South OC, but I travel to San Diego and Temecula often and ultimately will relocate for love.

My Goal:

I am searching for a serious partner, someone who needs a man in her life who is funny, smart, intentional, attentive, playful and really good at finding orgasms. Ideally, a long-term relationship that turns into life partner or marriage. I am open to other dating dynamics if we really connect and the circumstances are just right, but long-term and consistent is my goal.

>> Let’s Talk Libido.

Let me be real right out of the gate. I don't want to waste either of our time dating if we're ultimately not going to be the right fit, so I'm throwing this right out there:

• Yes, I have a high libido -- but I'm the whole package. I'm a great friend, a reliable companion, a true partner and a skilled and considerate lover. It's not just all sex. My heart is as horny as the rest of my body. 
• Daily sex (5–6x/week) is a gentle minimum, 2x daily is great, more than that on weekends/vacations is pure magic!  
• I’m a pleasure dom.  I’m affectionate, considerate, tuned in, and absolutely addicted to turning you on and getting you off. I am very focused on your pleasure. Playful in many ways. 
• I’m deeply turned on by your own arousal. I want to feel your body surrender to me over and over and over again until you’re satisfied.  
• Spontaneous can’t-wait-until-morning moments?  Likely.  
• Erotic 2-hour massages?  Hell yes. Happy endings included! 
• BDSM: I’m naturally dominant and like light restraints, some power exchange, etc. but I'm not into elaborate rituals or theatrics like Shibari or humiliation/degradation (other than my pet names for you). I do have sex swings, inflatable sex furniture for camping, a beautiful Tantra Chair and so many sex toys I might need to move! 
• Public affection, playfulness and spontaneity is a way of life for me. 
• My love language is physical touch — sexual and non-sexual alike.

 

>> About Me

• 6’1, caucasian, with a darker complexion.  
• A young 51.  I’ve got some wrinkles and thinning hair (working on it!), and working on losing my last 25 pounds, but I’ve got the energy of someone half my age.  
• Divorced.  Really.  Not rebounding — I am READY to find my lover for life.  
• Thoughtful, confident, professional.  Good communicator.  
• In therapy, because it’s healthy.  Not perfect, though, and never will be.  
• Financially stable; accomplished career in tech leadership.  Ready to relax in life with my new partner.  
• Active traveler — from eclipses in Texas to national parks around the US to meteor showers in New Mexico to overseas vacations. Let’s explore together and cum as aftercare.  
• Passionate about science (and science fiction), deep conversations, romantic gestures, and slow, consistent seduction.  
• Physically active.  Hiking, biking, exploring, photography, boating, road trips, camping, travel.  Dying to take my girl on a train!  
• Serious hobbies.  I’ve never been called boring or uninteresting.  
• Endlessly affectionate: frequent kissing, touching, cuddles, projected warmth every chance we can get.  I will likely need to resist pulling you into my arms every time I walk past you in the kitchen.  Tenderness and caring and desire on a level most don’t experience.  
• Pleasure.  I give as much as I crave — and I crave a lot.  
• None of that alpha male bullshit. I'm independent, confident and assertive without dominance, egotism or narcissism.  Reasonably emotionally intelligent and improving. 
• I have a very low body count.  I’m not interested in quantity, only quality. No ONS.  
• STI tested with proof, vaxxed to the max.  
• Non-religious, moderate democratic capitalist.  SORRY, NO MAGA.

  

>> Texting, Sexting, and Connection

I’m demisexual and sapiosexual — I need a deeper emotional and intellectual connection to have a real relationship. This means:

• I love texting — and not just logistics. I want to learn, flirt, tease, get deep, and fall into lust with you over text.  
• We’ll text for a day or two to build connection, then exchange photos. If we vibe, phone/video calls and a coffee date follow. 
• You’ll need to carry at least half of the conversation. One-word answers or 5-word questions and long delays between interactions doesn’t work for me. Either we focus on each other, or we move on. 
• Grammar matters. Communication is intimacy. If I’m deciphering broken syntax like a puzzle, we’re not a match.  
• Expect extremely hot text exchanges once we’re comfortable — late-night fantasies, vivid desires, sometimes even writing each other into sexy little stories.  
• If you’re out of town? Maybe I’ll read you a sexy story, or we listen to each other get off over the phone. That moment when you whisper “I came so hard” across 400 miles… it’s hot as hell.

  

>> What I’m Looking For

You’re…

• Female
• Single/separated/divorced/widowed. NOT living with a partner/former partner unless maybe you're into ENM. 
• Somewhere around 38-45, ideally at least 5’ 6” (to 5’ 11” or so) and active, healthy and fit.  Weight proportional to height. I can go older than that if you think you can keep up in the bedroom.  
• You crave physical touch and intimacy and sex daily.  
• In or very near South Orange County. Not “just visiting,” and not overseas — no exceptions. We both validate before getting personal. The goal is seeing each other often, not a pen-pal relationship that never materializes. 
• Emotionally grounded, confident, and sexually expressive.  If your mind is as dirty as mine, we’re going to make fire together.  
• Open to deep, consistent connection.  In relationships, I’m all-in and you should be, too. If you don't have time for a relationship, we're not a match. 
• Intelligent, curious, reasonably successful and financially mature.  Able to travel regularly.  
• Adventurous. Affectionate. Addicted to touch. Someone who wants weekends that feel like escapes, and weekday texts that make you press your legs together in the office chair.  
• Ideally, non-religious (spiritual or lightly religious is fine, as long you don’t make it your mission to convert me).  
• Ideally, no kids or an empty-nester.  I love kids, but I’m ready to travel without complications, date with a vengeance and use the hot tub naked.  
• Non-smoker.  
• Willing to get fresh STI test results. Vaccinated.  
• I am not interested in anyone who’s remotely MAGA.  No offense, you’re just not for me.  
• ALL these desires are not required.  Just most.

  

>> Interested?

• DM me. I'm open. People love chatting with me, even if it doesn't go further.  
• Tell me what you crave, mentally and physically.  Bullet points or prose, long or short, just communicate clearly and openly. Be bold. I'll listen.  
• We'll exchange face/full body pics after a day or two, to see if there's attraction. 
• Be ready to validate so I know who you say you are — no exceptions.  I can do the same.  
• Be local, be responsive, be real. 
• Zero expectations for our first dates.  I am a gentleman first.  I’m all about low pressure, for both of us.  I’m demi/sapiosexual, and "consent" is in my username.

If you just said to yourself “Finally, someone who gets it!” then reach out.  Take a chance.  You never know!

This is a NSFW personals ad — it isn’t for everyone, maybe only 1%.  I was in a dead bedroom for many years, and then I had an incredible relationship with a high-libido woman.  It is over now, but it taught me that what I want IS out there — I just have to be very explicit about what I'm looking for.

Up front:

• I have a vasectomy and a recent STI test
• I live alone and am not in a relationship. Straight.
• If you are married or living with a partner/former partner, I wish you well on your journey.
• If you are MAGA, please pass.  We won’t have the alignment I’m looking for.
• Only looking for cis-gendered women at this time. Thank you for respecting this.

My Goal:

I am searching for a serious partner, someone who needs a man in her life who is funny, smart, intentional, attentive, playful and really good at finding orgasms. Ideally, a long-term relationship that turns into life partner or marriage. I am open to other dating dynamics if we really connect and the circumstances are just right, but long-term and consistent is my goal.

>> Let’s Talk Libido.

Let me be real right out of the gate. I don't want to waste either of our time dating if we're ultimately not going to be the right fit, so I'm throwing this right out there:

• Yes, I have a high libido -- but I'm the whole package. I'm a great friend, a reliable companion, a true partner and a skilled and considerate lover. It's not just all sex. My heart is as horny as the rest of my body. 
• Daily sex (5–6x/week) is a gentle minimum, 2x daily is great, more than that on weekends/vacations is pure magic!  
• I’m a pleasure dom.  I’m affectionate, considerate, tuned in, and absolutely addicted to turning you on and getting you off. I am very focused on your pleasure. Playful in many ways. 
• I’m deeply turned on by your own arousal. I want to feel your body surrender to me over and over and over again until you’re satisfied.  
• Spontaneous can’t-wait-until-morning moments?  Likely.  
• Erotic 2-hour massages?  Hell yes. Happy endings included! 
• BDSM: I’m naturally dominant and like light restraints, some power exchange, etc. but I'm not into elaborate rituals or theatrics like Shibari or humiliation/degradation (other than my pet names for you). I do have sex swings, inflatable sex furniture for camping, a beautiful Tantra Chair and so many sex toys I might need to move! 
• Public affection, playfulness and spontaneity is a way of life for me. 
• My love language is physical touch — sexual and non-sexual alike.

 

>> About Me

• 6’1, caucasian, with a darker complexion.  
• A young 51.  I’ve got some wrinkles and thinning hair (working on it!), and working on losing my last 25 pounds, but I’ve got the energy of someone half my age.  
• Divorced.  Really.  Not rebounding — I am READY to find my lover for life.  
• Thoughtful, confident, professional.  Good communicator.  
• In therapy, because it’s healthy.  Not perfect, though, and never will be.  
• Financially stable; accomplished career in tech leadership.  Ready to relax in life with my new partner.  
• Active traveler — from eclipses in Texas to national parks around the US to meteor showers in New Mexico to overseas vacations. Let’s explore together and cum as aftercare.  
• Passionate about science (and science fiction), deep conversations, romantic gestures, and slow, consistent seduction.  
• Physically active.  Hiking, biking, exploring, photography, boating, road trips, camping, travel.  Dying to take my girl on a train!  
• Serious hobbies.  I’ve never been called boring or uninteresting.  
• Endlessly affectionate: frequent kissing, touching, cuddles, projected warmth every chance we can get.  I will likely need to resist pulling you into my arms every time I walk past you in the kitchen.  Tenderness and caring and desire on a level most don’t experience.  
• Pleasure.  I give as much as I crave — and I crave a lot.  
• None of that alpha male bullshit. I'm independent, confident and assertive without dominance, egotism or narcissism.  Reasonably emotionally intelligent and improving. 
• I have a very low body count.  I’m not interested in quantity, only quality. No ONS.  
• STI tested with proof, vaxxed to the max.  
• Non-religious, moderate democratic capitalist.  SORRY, NO MAGA.

  

>> Texting, Sexting, and Connection

I’m demisexual and sapiosexual — I need a deeper emotional and intellectual connection to have a real relationship. This means:

• I love texting — and not just logistics. I want to learn, flirt, tease, get deep, and fall into lust with you over text.  
• We’ll text for a day or two to build connection, then exchange photos. If we vibe, phone/video calls and a coffee date follow. 
• You’ll need to carry at least half of the conversation. One-word answers or 5-word questions and long delays between interactions doesn’t work for me. Either we focus on each other, or we move on. 
• Grammar matters. Communication is intimacy. If I’m deciphering broken syntax like a puzzle, we’re not a match.  
• Expect extremely hot text exchanges once we’re comfortable — late-night fantasies, vivid desires, sometimes even writing each other into sexy little stories.  
• If you’re out of town? Maybe I’ll read you a sexy story, or we listen to each other get off over the phone. That moment when you whisper “I came so hard” across 400 miles… it’s hot as hell.

  

>> What I’m Looking For

You’re…

• Female
• Single/separated/divorced/widowed. NOT living with a partner/former partner unless maybe you're into ENM. 
• Somewhere around 38-45, ideally at least 5’ 6” (to 5’ 11” or so) and active, healthy and fit.  Weight proportional to height. I can go older than that if you think you can keep up in the bedroom.  
• You crave physical touch and intimacy and sex daily.  
• In or very near South Orange County. Not “just visiting,” and not overseas — no exceptions. We both validate before getting personal. The goal is seeing each other often, not a pen-pal relationship that never materializes. 
• Emotionally grounded, confident, and sexually expressive.  If your mind is as dirty as mine, we’re going to make fire together.  
• Open to deep, consistent connection.  In relationships, I’m all-in and you should be, too. If you don't have time for a relationship, we're not a match. 
• Intelligent, curious, reasonably successful and financially mature.  Able to travel regularly.  
• Adventurous. Affectionate. Addicted to touch. Someone who wants weekends that feel like escapes, and weekday texts that make you press your legs together in the office chair.  
• Ideally, non-religious (spiritual or lightly religious is fine, as long you don’t make it your mission to convert me).  
• Ideally, no kids or an empty-nester.  I love kids, but I’m ready to travel without complications, date with a vengeance and use the hot tub naked.  
• Non-smoker.  
• Willing to get fresh STI test results. Vaccinated.  
• I am not interested in anyone who’s remotely MAGA.  No offense, you’re just not for me.  
• ALL these desires are not required.  Just most.

  

>> Interested?

• DM me. I'm open. People love chatting with me, even if it doesn't go further.  
• Tell me what you crave, mentally and physically.  Bullet points or prose, long or short, just communicate clearly and openly. Be bold. I'll listen.  
• We'll exchange face/full body pics after a day or two, to see if there's attraction. 
• Be ready to validate so I know who you say you are — no exceptions.  I can do the same.  
• Be local, be responsive, be real. 
• Zero expectations for our first dates.  I am a gentleman first.  I’m all about low pressure, for both of us.  I’m demi/sapiosexual, and "consent" is in my username.

If you just said to yourself “Finally, someone who gets it!” then reach out.  Take a chance.  You never know!

This is a NSFW personals ad — it isn’t for everyone, maybe only 1%.  I was in a dead bedroom for many years, and then I had an incredible relationship with a high-libido woman.  It is over now, but it taught me that what I want IS out there — I just have to be very explicit about what I'm looking for.

Up front:

• I have a vasectomy and a recent STI test
• I live alone and am not in a relationship. Straight.
• If you are married or living with a partner/former partner, I wish you well on your journey.
• If you are MAGA, please pass.  We won’t have the alignment I’m looking for.
• I live in South OC, but I travel to San Diego and Temecula often and ultimately will relocate for love.

My Goal:

I am searching for my life partner, someone who needs a man in her life who is funny, smart, intentional, attentive, playful and really good at finding orgasms. Ideally, a long-term relationship that turns into life partner or marriage. I am open to other dating dynamics if we really connect and the circumstances are just right, but long-term and consistent is my goal.

>> Let’s Talk Libido.

Let me be real right out of the gate. I don't want to waste either of our time dating if we're ultimately not going to be the right fit, so I'm throwing this right out there:

• Yes, I have a high libido -- but I'm the whole package. I'm a great friend, a reliable companion, a true partner and a skilled and considerate lover. It's not just all sex. My heart is as horny as the rest of my body. 
• Daily sex (5–6x/week) is a gentle minimum, 2x daily is great, more than that on weekends/vacations is pure magic!  
• I’m a pleasure dom.  I’m affectionate, considerate, tuned in, and absolutely addicted to turning you on and getting you off. I am very focused on your pleasure. Playful in many ways. 
• I’m deeply turned on by your own arousal. I want to feel your body surrender to me over and over and over again until you’re satisfied.  
• Spontaneous can’t-wait-until-morning moments?  Likely.  
• Erotic 2-hour massages?  Hell yes. Happy endings included! 
• BDSM: I’m naturally dominant and like light restraints, some power exchange, etc. but I'm not into elaborate rituals or theatrics like Shibari or humiliation/degradation (other than my pet names for you). I do have sex swings, inflatable sex furniture for camping, a beautiful Tantra Chair and so many sex toys I might need to move! 
• Public affection, playfulness and spontaneity is a way of life for me. 
• My love language is physical touch — sexual and non-sexual alike.

 

>> About Me

• 6’1, caucasian, with a darker complexion.  
• A young 51.  I’ve got some wrinkles and thinning hair (working on it!), and working on losing my last 25 pounds, but I’ve got the energy of someone half my age.  
• Divorced.  Really.  Not rebounding — I am READY to find my lover for life.  
• Thoughtful, confident, professional.  Good communicator.  
• In therapy, because it’s healthy.  Not perfect, though, and never will be.  
• Financially stable; accomplished career in tech leadership.  Ready to relax in life with my new partner.  
• Active traveler — from eclipses in Texas to national parks around the US to meteor showers in New Mexico to overseas vacations. Let’s explore together and cum as aftercare.  
• Passionate about science (and science fiction), deep conversations, romantic gestures, and slow, consistent seduction.  
• Physically active.  Hiking, biking, exploring, photography, boating, road trips, camping, travel.  Dying to take my girl on a train!  
• Serious hobbies.  I’ve never been called boring or uninteresting.  
• Endlessly affectionate: frequent kissing, touching, cuddles, projected warmth every chance we can get.  I will likely need to resist pulling you into my arms every time I walk past you in the kitchen.  Tenderness and caring and desire on a level most don’t experience.  
• Pleasure.  I give as much as I crave — and I crave a lot.  
• None of that alpha male bullshit. I'm independent, confident and assertive without dominance, egotism or narcissism.  Reasonably emotionally intelligent and improving. 
• I have a very low body count.  I’m not interested in quantity, only quality. No ONS.  
• STI tested with proof, vaxxed to the max.  
• Non-religious, moderate democratic capitalist.  SORRY, NO MAGA.

  

>> Texting, Sexting, and Connection

I’m demisexual and sapiosexual — I need a deeper emotional and intellectual connection to have a real relationship. This means:

• I love texting — and not just logistics. I want to learn, flirt, tease, get deep, and fall into lust with you over text.  
• We’ll text for a day or two to build connection, then exchange photos. If we vibe, phone/video calls and a coffee date follow. 
• You’ll need to carry at least half of the conversation. One-word answers or 5-word questions and long delays between interactions doesn’t work for me. Either we focus on each other, or we move on. 
• Grammar matters. Communication is intimacy. If I’m deciphering broken syntax like a puzzle, we’re not a match.  
• Expect extremely hot text exchanges once we’re comfortable — late-night fantasies, vivid desires, sometimes even writing each other into sexy little stories.  
• If you’re out of town? Maybe I’ll read you a sexy story, or we listen to each other get off over the phone. That moment when you whisper “I came so hard” across 400 miles… it’s hot as hell.

  

>> What I’m Looking For

You’re…

• Female
• Single/separated/divorced/widowed. NOT living with a partner/former partner unless maybe you're into ENM. 
• Somewhere around 38-45, ideally at least 5’ 6” (to 5’ 11” or so) and active, healthy and fit.  Weight proportional to height. I can go older than that if you think you can keep up in the bedroom.  
• You crave physical touch and intimacy and sex daily.  
• In or very near South Orange County. Not “just visiting,” and not overseas — no exceptions. We both validate before getting personal. The goal is seeing each other often, not a pen-pal relationship that never materializes. 
• Emotionally grounded, confident, and sexually expressive.  If your mind is as dirty as mine, we’re going to make fire together.  
• Open to deep, consistent connection.  In relationships, I’m all-in and you should be, too. If you don't have time for a relationship, we're not a match. 
• Intelligent, curious, reasonably successful and financially mature.  Able to travel regularly.  
• Adventurous. Affectionate. Addicted to touch. Someone who wants weekends that feel like escapes, and weekday texts that make you press your legs together in the office chair.  
• Ideally, non-religious (spiritual or lightly religious is fine, as long you don’t make it your mission to convert me).  
• Ideally, no kids or an empty-nester.  I love kids, but I’m ready to travel without complications, date with a vengeance and use the hot tub naked.  
• Non-smoker.  
• Willing to get fresh STI test results. Vaccinated.  
• I am not interested in anyone who’s remotely MAGA.  No offense, you’re just not for me.  
• ALL these desires are not required.  Just most.

  

>> Interested?

• DM me. I'm open. People love chatting with me, even if it doesn't go further.  
• Tell me what you crave, mentally and physically.  Bullet points or prose, long or short, just communicate clearly and openly. Be bold. I'll listen.  
• We'll exchange face/full body pics after a day or two, to see if there's attraction. 
• Be ready to validate so I know who you say you are — no exceptions.  I can do the same.  
• Be local, be responsive, be real. 
• Zero expectations for our first dates.  I am a gentleman first.  I’m all about low pressure, for both of us.  I’m demi/sapiosexual, and "consent" is in my username.

If you just said to yourself “Finally, someone who gets it!” then reach out.  Take a chance.  You never know!

This is a NSFW personals ad — it isn’t for everyone, maybe only 1%.  I was in a dead bedroom for many years, and then I had an incredible relationship with a high-libido woman.  It is over now, but it taught me that what I want IS out there — I just have to be very explicit about what I'm looking for.

Up front:

• I have a vasectomy and a recent STI test
• I live alone and am not in a relationship. Straight.
• If you are married or living with a partner/former partner, I wish you well on your journey.
• If you are MAGA, please pass.  We won’t have the alignment I’m looking for.
• I live in South OC, but I travel to San Diego and Temecula often and ultimately will relocate for love.

My Goal:

I am searching for my life partner, someone who needs a man in her life who is funny, smart, intentional, attentive, playful and really good at finding orgasms. Ideally, a long-term relationship that turns into life partner or marriage. I am open to other dating dynamics if we really connect and the circumstances are just right, but long-term and consistent is my goal.

>> Let’s Talk Libido.

Let me be real right out of the gate. I don't want to waste either of our time dating if we're ultimately not going to be the right fit, so I'm throwing this right out there:

• Yes, I have a high libido -- but I'm the whole package. I'm a great friend, a reliable companion, a true partner and a skilled and considerate lover. It's not just all sex. My heart is as horny as the rest of my body. 
• Daily sex (5–6x/week) is a gentle minimum, 2x daily is great, more than that on weekends/vacations is pure magic!  
• I’m a pleasure dom.  I’m affectionate, considerate, tuned in, and absolutely addicted to turning you on and getting you off. I am very focused on your pleasure. Playful in many ways. 
• I’m deeply turned on by your own arousal. I want to feel your body surrender to me over and over and over again until you’re satisfied.  
• Spontaneous can’t-wait-until-morning moments?  Likely.  
• Erotic 2-hour massages?  Hell yes. Happy endings included! 
• BDSM: I’m naturally dominant and like light restraints, some power exchange, etc. but I'm not into elaborate rituals or theatrics like Shibari or humiliation/degradation (other than my pet names for you). I do have sex swings, inflatable sex furniture for camping, a beautiful Tantra Chair and so many sex toys I might need to move! 
• Public affection, playfulness and spontaneity is a way of life for me. 
• My love language is physical touch — sexual and non-sexual alike.

 

>> About Me

• 6’1, caucasian, with a darker complexion.  
• A young 51.  I’ve got some wrinkles and thinning hair (working on it!), and working on losing my last 25 pounds, but I’ve got the energy of someone half my age.  
• Divorced.  Really.  Not rebounding — I am READY to find my lover for life.  
• Thoughtful, confident, professional.  Good communicator.  
• In therapy, because it’s healthy.  Not perfect, though, and never will be.  
• Financially stable; accomplished career in tech leadership.  Ready to relax in life with my new partner.  
• Active traveler — from eclipses in Texas to national parks around the US to meteor showers in New Mexico to overseas vacations. Let’s explore together and cum as aftercare.  
• Passionate about science (and science fiction), deep conversations, romantic gestures, and slow, consistent seduction.  
• Physically active.  Hiking, biking, exploring, photography, boating, road trips, camping, travel.  Dying to take my girl on a train!  
• Serious hobbies.  I’ve never been called boring or uninteresting.  
• Endlessly affectionate: frequent kissing, touching, cuddles, projected warmth every chance we can get.  I will likely need to resist pulling you into my arms every time I walk past you in the kitchen.  Tenderness and caring and desire on a level most don’t experience.  
• Pleasure.  I give as much as I crave — and I crave a lot.  
• None of that alpha male bullshit. I'm independent, confident and assertive without dominance, egotism or narcissism.  Reasonably emotionally intelligent and improving. 
• I have a very low body count.  I’m not interested in quantity, only quality. No ONS.  
• STI tested with proof, vaxxed to the max.  
• Non-religious, moderate democratic capitalist.  SORRY, NO MAGA.

  

>> Texting, Sexting, and Connection

I’m demisexual and sapiosexual — I need a deeper emotional and intellectual connection to have a real relationship. This means:

• I love texting — and not just logistics. I want to learn, flirt, tease, get deep, and fall into lust with you over text.  
• We’ll text for a day or two to build connection, then exchange photos. If we vibe, phone/video calls and a coffee date follow. 
• You’ll need to carry at least half of the conversation. One-word answers or 5-word questions and long delays between interactions doesn’t work for me. Either we focus on each other, or we move on. 
• Grammar matters. Communication is intimacy. If I’m deciphering broken syntax like a puzzle, we’re not a match.  
• Expect extremely hot text exchanges once we’re comfortable — late-night fantasies, vivid desires, sometimes even writing each other into sexy little stories.  
• If you’re out of town? Maybe I’ll read you a sexy story, or we listen to each other get off over the phone. That moment when you whisper “I came so hard” across 400 miles… it’s hot as hell.

  

>> What I’m Looking For

You’re…

• Female
• Single/separated/divorced/widowed. NOT living with a partner/former partner unless maybe you're into ENM. 
• Somewhere around 38-45, ideally at least 5’ 6” (to 5’ 11” or so) and active, healthy and fit.  Weight proportional to height. I can go older than that if you think you can keep up in the bedroom.  
• You crave physical touch and intimacy and sex daily.  
• In or very near South Orange County. Not “just visiting,” and not overseas — no exceptions. We both validate before getting personal. The goal is seeing each other often, not a pen-pal relationship that never materializes. 
• Emotionally grounded, confident, and sexually expressive.  If your mind is as dirty as mine, we’re going to make fire together.  
• Open to deep, consistent connection.  In relationships, I’m all-in and you should be, too. If you don't have time for a relationship, we're not a match. 
• Intelligent, curious, reasonably successful and financially mature.  Able to travel regularly.  
• Adventurous. Affectionate. Addicted to touch. Someone who wants weekends that feel like escapes, and weekday texts that make you press your legs together in the office chair.  
• Ideally, non-religious (spiritual or lightly religious is fine, as long you don’t make it your mission to convert me).  
• Ideally, no kids or an empty-nester.  I love kids, but I’m ready to travel without complications, date with a vengeance and use the hot tub naked.  
• Non-smoker.  
• Willing to get fresh STI test results. Vaccinated.  
• I am not interested in anyone who’s remotely MAGA.  No offense, you’re just not for me.  
• ALL these desires are not required.  Just most.

  

>> Interested?

• DM me. I'm open. People love chatting with me, even if it doesn't go further.  
• Tell me what you crave, mentally and physically.  Bullet points or prose, long or short, just communicate clearly and openly. Be bold. I'll listen.  
• We'll exchange face/full body pics after a day or two, to see if there's attraction. 
• Be ready to validate so I know who you say you are — no exceptions.  I can do the same.  
• Be local, be responsive, be real. 
• Zero expectations for our first dates.  I am a gentleman first.  I’m all about low pressure, for both of us.  I’m demi/sapiosexual, and "consent" is in my username.

If you just said to yourself “Finally, someone who gets it!” then reach out.  Take a chance.  You never know.

This is a NSFW personals ad — it isn’t for everyone, maybe only 1%.  I was in a dead bedroom for many years, and then I had an incredible relationship with a high-libido woman.  It is over now, but it taught me that what I want IS out there — I just have to be very explicit about what I'm looking for.

Up front:

• I have a vasectomy and a recent STI test
• I live alone and am not in a relationship. Straight.
• If you are married or living with a partner/former partner, I wish you well on your journey.
• If you are MAGA, please pass.  We won’t have the alignment I’m looking for.
• I live in South OC, but I travel to San Diego and Temecula often and ultimately will relocate for love.

My Goal:

I am searching for my life partner, someone who needs a man in her life who is funny, smart, intentional, attentive, playful and really good at finding orgasms. Ideally, a long-term relationship that turns into life partner or marriage. I am open to other dating dynamics if we really connect and the circumstances are just right, but long-term and consistent is my goal.

>> Let’s Talk Libido.

Let me be real right out of the gate. I don't want to waste either of our time dating if we're ultimately not going to be the right fit, so I'm throwing this right out there:

• Yes, I have a high libido -- but I'm the whole package. I'm a great friend, a reliable companion, a true partner and a skilled and considerate lover. It's not just all sex. My heart is as horny as the rest of my body. 
• Daily sex (5–6x/week) is a gentle minimum, 2x daily is great, more than that on weekends/vacations is pure magic!  
• I’m a pleasure dom.  I’m affectionate, considerate, tuned in, and absolutely addicted to turning you on and getting you off. I am very focused on your pleasure. Playful in many ways. 
• I’m deeply turned on by your own arousal. I want to feel your body surrender to me over and over and over again until you’re satisfied.  
• Spontaneous can’t-wait-until-morning moments?  Likely.  
• Erotic 2-hour massages?  Hell yes. Happy endings included! 
• BDSM: I’m naturally dominant and like light restraints, some power exchange, etc. but I'm not into elaborate rituals or theatrics like Shibari or humiliation/degradation (other than my pet names for you). I do have sex swings, inflatable sex furniture for camping, a beautiful Tantra Chair and so many sex toys I might need to move! 
• Public affection, playfulness and spontaneity is a way of life for me. 
• My love language is physical touch — sexual and non-sexual alike.

 

>> About Me

• 6’1, caucasian, with a darker complexion.  
• A young 51.  I’ve got some wrinkles and thinning hair (working on it!), and working on losing my last 25 pounds, but I’ve got the energy of someone half my age.  
• Divorced.  Really.  Not rebounding — I am READY to find my lover for life.  
• Thoughtful, confident, professional.  Good communicator.  
• In therapy, because it’s healthy.  Not perfect, though, and never will be.  
• Financially stable; accomplished career in tech leadership.  Ready to relax in life with my new partner.  
• Active traveler — from eclipses in Texas to national parks around the US to meteor showers in New Mexico to overseas vacations. Let’s explore together and cum as aftercare.  
• Passionate about science (and science fiction), deep conversations, romantic gestures, and slow, consistent seduction.  
• Physically active.  Hiking, biking, exploring, photography, boating, road trips, camping, travel.  Dying to take my girl on a train!  
• Serious hobbies.  I’ve never been called boring or uninteresting.  
• Endlessly affectionate: frequent kissing, touching, cuddles, projected warmth every chance we can get.  I will likely need to resist pulling you into my arms every time I walk past you in the kitchen.  Tenderness and caring and desire on a level most don’t experience.  
• Pleasure.  I give as much as I crave — and I crave a lot.  
• None of that alpha male bullshit. I'm independent, confident and assertive without dominance, egotism or narcissism.  Reasonably emotionally intelligent and improving. 
• I have a very low body count.  I’m not interested in quantity, only quality. No ONS.  
• STI tested with proof, vaxxed to the max.  
• Non-religious, moderate democratic capitalist.  SORRY, NO MAGA.

  

>> Texting, Sexting, and Connection

I’m demisexual and sapiosexual — I need a deeper emotional and intellectual connection to have a real relationship. This means:

• I love texting — and not just logistics. I want to learn, flirt, tease, get deep, and fall into lust with you over text.  
• We’ll text for a day or two to build connection, then exchange photos. If we vibe, phone/video calls and a coffee date follow. 
• You’ll need to carry at least half of the conversation. One-word answers or 5-word questions and long delays between interactions doesn’t work for me. Either we focus on each other, or we move on. 
• Grammar matters. Communication is intimacy. If I’m deciphering broken syntax like a puzzle, we’re not a match.  
• Expect extremely hot text exchanges once we’re comfortable — late-night fantasies, vivid desires, sometimes even writing each other into sexy little stories.  
• If you’re out of town? Maybe I’ll read you a sexy story, or we listen to each other get off over the phone. That moment when you whisper “I came so hard” across 400 miles… it’s hot as hell.

  

>> What I’m Looking For

You’re…

• Female
• Single/separated/divorced/widowed. NOT living with a partner/former partner unless maybe you're into ENM. 
• Somewhere around 38-45, ideally at least 5’ 6” (to 5’ 11” or so) and active, healthy and fit.  Weight proportional to height. I can go older than that if you think you can keep up in the bedroom.  
• You crave physical touch and intimacy and sex daily.  
• In or very near South Orange County. Not “just visiting,” and not overseas — no exceptions. We both validate before getting personal. The goal is seeing each other often, not a pen-pal relationship that never materializes. 
• Emotionally grounded, confident, and sexually expressive.  If your mind is as dirty as mine, we’re going to make fire together.  
• Open to deep, consistent connection.  In relationships, I’m all-in and you should be, too. If you don't have time for a relationship, we're not a match. 
• Intelligent, curious, reasonably successful and financially mature.  Able to travel regularly.  
• Adventurous. Affectionate. Addicted to touch. Someone who wants weekends that feel like escapes, and weekday texts that make you press your legs together in the office chair.  
• Ideally, non-religious (spiritual or lightly religious is fine, as long you don’t make it your mission to convert me).  
• Ideally, no kids or an empty-nester.  I love kids, but I’m ready to travel without complications, date with a vengeance and use the hot tub naked.  
• Non-smoker.  
• Willing to get fresh STI test results. Vaccinated.  
• I am not interested in anyone who’s remotely MAGA.  No offense, you’re just not for me.  
• ALL these desires are not required.  Just most.

  

>> Interested?

• DM me. I'm open. People love chatting with me, even if it doesn't go further.  
• Tell me what you crave, mentally and physically.  Bullet points or prose, long or short, just communicate clearly and openly. Be bold. I'll listen.  
• We'll exchange face/full body pics after a day or two, to see if there's attraction. 
• Be ready to validate so I know who you say you are — no exceptions.  I can do the same.  
• Be local, be responsive, be real. 
• Zero expectations for our first dates.  I am a gentleman first.  I’m all about low pressure, for both of us.  I’m demi/sapiosexual, and "consent" is in my username.

If you just said to yourself “Finally, someone who gets it!” then reach out.  Take a chance.  You never know!