To the doms and subs, what do you aim for in a dynamic?
It seems, possibly incorrectly, that it is disproportionately on the controlling side. I appreciate it can be both, but it is probably usually, if not always, both, but which one takes the lead?
I see being dominant as taking the lead, not determining the direction. And I do realise pleasure doms are a thing. Just interested to hear other people's take on it.
I'm looking for a brat. Ideally very braty. If you talk back, push, hit, spit... that is just lovely.
I'm not sure of the exact age range, probably 30s or 40s.
I'm not in a rush to jump into anything, but I would be aiming for a long-term, committed, monogamous relationship.
The person I am hoping to find is strong-willeded, unafraid to speak their mind, opinionated, sarcastic, sometimes argumentative. But ultimately, a good person. They would need to be open, communicative, and mature.
I am respectful, calm, stable, and confident. I relish conflict.
I've recently realised some of my hard limits aren't limits, some I'm extremely interested in pursuing, some I'm moderately interested in, and some I'm open to.
Besides things that would involve lasting damage, my main hard limits are actually scat, vomit, age and pet play.
I can host some, and I am open to travelling.
Dm if you're interested, and we can see if there is a connection outside of kink before discussing specific kinks.
I'm pretty open, so feel free to ask anything - if it is something I'm not happy answering at this point, I'll just say, no harm.
Done a few quizzes to kill some time.
It's not really that much of a shock, I knew I preferred a lot of fight in a submissive, but I never actually thought of myself as being (slightly) more masochistic than sadistic.
I'm quite intrigued as to how common this is for doms?
Recently spent 55 hours awake (doesn't matter why and I know it's not good).
Talking with someone else resulted in me questioning some of my previous positions. It wasn't their intention, just what happens.
Amongst other things, I reconsidered my thoughts on blood. I've had a mindset that I was adverse to it, but I couldn't think of why. I've had no problems with period sex, or oral... no queasiness at the sight of it. Just really could not find a reason why I thought I had an issue with it.
Whilst this isn't the most important of the things I've reconsidered, it is the one that has left me the most perplexed how to pursue it.
I know I'm not interested in anything medical related for it. I'm not particularly against that, it's just that I don't want that level of physical disconnect. Cutting isn't something I'd want to do either.
But the thought of them bleeding, tasting it and having it on my face...
I like rough play, and although I don't do it with the intention of making them bleed, the thought of someone cutting their lip or mouth, me tasting that blood as we get off...
So yeah, any suggestions on how to make this happen if I don't want to use blades or hit someone hard enough to (intentionally) make them bleed?