u/Deep_Science422

I am slowing introducing my pretty vanilla wife to some femdom kinks that I have been wanting to explore. Some of the things I’ve told her about are edging, denial, and bondage to start with.

One thing I feel like I need some help with is being a better submissive for her and making sure I do everything I can to help make her comfortable being dominant.

We have been having vanilla sex regularly and about every 5th time or so she will add some dominant dirty talk. When she does do that, I explain to her (after sex) how much I liked it. Is there anything I could do during (or anytime) playtime that would help?

One thing she doesn’t like is having to initiate sex, so recently I have been initiating sex a lot more recently but I feel like it is hard to initiate sex and be submissive at the same time.

Anyone have any tips, advice, or specific things I can do?

My (M28) wife (F27) and I have been married for almost 3 years and have had pretty good, very vanilla sex for our whole relationship. Recently we have been spicing things up by talking about fantasies we both have. She brought up some different sex positions that we’ve tried. I’ve brought up that I want to be edged and I love when she is dominant in the bedroom.

She has started to somewhat get the idea of what I like in the bedroom and has started to mix in some dominant dirty talk every now and then. I’ve explained to her how much I enjoy it but it doesn’t happen very often especially if I don’t bring it up or ask for it. She also mentions that she enjoys it too.

Is there anyway to help her get into that domme headspace without “topping from the bottom”

I want to take this opportunity to bring up the idea of chastity to her but I don’t want her to be overwhelmed or freaked out by the idea since I don’t think she knows about it. To my knowledge she’s never watched porn but does read some erotica.

I have wore a cage before just self locking in the past so I know I like it and I understand that it will be baby steps at first and it’s not going to be 24/7 right out of the gate.

Anyone have any good tips from previous experiences on how to approach this topic with her?

My (M28) wife (F27) and I have been married for almost 3 years and have had pretty good, very vanilla sex for our whole relationship. Recently we have been spicing things up by talking about fantasies we both have. She brought up some different sex positions that we’ve tried. I’ve brought up that I want to be edged and I love when she is dominant in the bedroom.

I want to take this opportunity to bring up the idea of chastity to her but I don’t want her to be overwhelmed or freaked out by the idea since I don’t think she knows about it. To my knowledge she’s never watched porn but does read some erotica.

I have wore a cage before just self locking in the past so I know I like it and I understand that it will be baby steps at first and it’s not going to be 24/7 right out of the gate.

Anyone have any good tips from previous experiences on how to approach this topic with her?