u/Discombobulated_Use3

Appreciate everyone's advice on my first post, but Id love some more if anyone's offering hahaha

So basically my fantasy is for my gf to hotwife me, I'm happy with randoms but either of my close friends are preferred, mainly because of her comfort level of she finds them attracted enough, and because having your mates sleep with your girl is hot af.

But lately I've been thinking about how much more dominant then me they both are, and it makes me really really crave having them both fuck my girl.

Any advice on how to get a situation like this to happen without it getting awkward for anyone?

Kinda into the cuck fantasy, but I'm a bit more dominant so I feel I dip more into wanting her as a hotwife.

I've had fantasy's of her fucking random guys, ones she points out that are hot like real estate agents or tradies, but my main fantasy is with my friends. Two of them in particular.

Friends 1 is tall and somewhat good looking, but gets a lot of female attention and knows how to fuck good, He has mentioned a few times that she's his type, and she looks like his ex, and our relationship is that we give each other shit all the time so the thrill of him having her sends me wild.

Friend 2 is my best mate, very very horny guy who doesn't immediately find my girl hot, but would fuck her if he got given the all clear I'm sure. Not bad looking and obviously the thrill again is the little smirk he'd give me all the time knowing he's fucked my girl. He's also the one I'd trust the most and would be very grateful and yeah he's very loyal.

Would love to chat more about this with anyone or hear similar fantasies!! Even some girls on how their partners convinced them. Just wish I knew how to get all this started properly.

Quick update since my last post got way more replies than I expected.
So… we actually ended up talking to Friend 1.
Not in some dramatic “hey wanna sleep with my girlfriend?” way before anyone asks lol.
More just… after a few weeks of talking about this between ourselves, the opportunity came up naturally and we stopped dancing around it.
Honestly? I expected one of two outcomes:
he’d immediately be into it and it’d suddenly become too real and we’d panic
or
it’d get awkward as hell and damage the friendship.
Instead… neither happened.
He handled it way calmer than I expected.
Basically said he’d kinda wondered before if there was some low-level tension/flirting there but never wanted to assume anything or be that guy who misreads friendliness.
What threw me off was he immediately started asking practical questions instead of horny ones.
Stuff like:
“Are you guys actually solid with each other?”
“Is this equally wanted?”
“What happens if somebody gets halfway in and suddenly hates the idea?”
“Are you treating this like a fantasy or something you’d actually have to emotionally deal with after?”
Not gonna lie… hearing another guy ask questions like THAT instead of instantly turning into fantasy-mode made me trust him more, which I wasn’t expecting.
My girlfriend also relaxed way more after that conversation.
And… this is the part Reddit will probably laugh at…
we STILL haven’t done anything.
Because once it stopped being theoretical and became “oh, this is a real human being we actually care about and could affect our friendship with”… it weirdly slowed us down.
My girlfriend admitted she’s excited by the attraction side but also suddenly felt nervous about changing the dynamic forever.
I admitted I thought I’d be more confident than I actually am.
Turns out talking big in fantasy conversations is easier than sitting there thinking “okay but how would I ACTUALLY feel the next morning?”
We’ve adjusted some boundaries too after talking:
condoms non negotiable
nobody drinks heavily for a first time
either of us can kill the whole thing at ANY point with zero guilt
no separate/private texting if something happens
aftercare/check-ins matter way more than we originally thought
Also… tiny unexpected confession:
Part of me thought I’d struggle hearing my girlfriend openly talk about attraction to another guy.
But weirdly the honesty has done the opposite? I feel closer to her, not less.
Still processing that one.
Anyway. No spicy ending lol.
No hookup story.
Just three adults having way too many serious conversations about something Reddit told us not to rush.
Which… fair enough.
Happy for any DMS with advice or chat

Quick update since my last post got way more replies than I expected.
So… we actually ended up talking to Friend 1.
Not in some dramatic “hey wanna sleep with my girlfriend?” way before anyone asks lol.
More just… after a few weeks of talking about this between ourselves, the opportunity came up naturally and we stopped dancing around it.
Honestly? I expected one of two outcomes:
he’d immediately be into it and it’d suddenly become too real and we’d panic
or
it’d get awkward as hell and damage the friendship.
Instead… neither happened.
He handled it way calmer than I expected.
Basically said he’d kinda wondered before if there was some low-level tension/flirting there but never wanted to assume anything or be that guy who misreads friendliness.
What threw me off was he immediately started asking practical questions instead of horny ones.
Stuff like:
“Are you guys actually solid with each other?”
“Is this equally wanted?”
“What happens if somebody gets halfway in and suddenly hates the idea?”
“Are you treating this like a fantasy or something you’d actually have to emotionally deal with after?”
Not gonna lie… hearing another guy ask questions like THAT instead of instantly turning into fantasy-mode made me trust him more, which I wasn’t expecting.
My girlfriend also relaxed way more after that conversation.
And… this is the part Reddit will probably laugh at…
we STILL haven’t done anything.
Because once it stopped being theoretical and became “oh, this is a real human being we actually care about and could affect our friendship with”… it weirdly slowed us down.
My girlfriend admitted she’s excited by the attraction side but also suddenly felt nervous about changing the dynamic forever.
I admitted I thought I’d be more confident than I actually am.
Turns out talking big in fantasy conversations is easier than sitting there thinking “okay but how would I ACTUALLY feel the next morning?”
We’ve adjusted some boundaries too after talking:
condoms non negotiable
nobody drinks heavily for a first time
either of us can kill the whole thing at ANY point with zero guilt
no separate/private texting if something happens
aftercare/check-ins matter way more than we originally thought
Also… tiny unexpected confession:
Part of me thought I’d struggle hearing my girlfriend openly talk about attraction to another guy.
But weirdly the honesty has done the opposite? I feel closer to her, not less.
Still processing that one.
Anyway. No spicy ending lol.
No hookup story.
Just three adults having way too many serious conversations about something Reddit told us not to rush.
Which… fair enough.
Happy for any DMS with advice or chat

Hey I am a 27m from Melbourne and my partner 26f, is looking for younger guys preferably under the age of 23 to potentially meet up either when we are in Sydney soon or maybe down here in Melbourne.

Serious replys only, would love to chat for a bit and we both have to like you obviously haha

Any guys under 23m and interested please dm, must be fit and confident.
Would love to communicate interest for a bit before anything happens, both her and her need to like you

Update chasing the lifestyle

So… small update from my first post here. My girlfriend and I finally had the big conversation properly instead of just keeping it in fantasy territory, and honestly it brought us way closer together.
For context, we’re still brand new to all of this. No full experiences yet, but after reading a lot of advice from people here, we decided to slow down and focus less on “making something happen” and more on communication, comfort, and trust.
A lot of people said involving close friends can either be amazing or a total disaster depending on boundaries, so we talked for HOURS about what we actually want out of this. Turns out for her, comfort and safety matter way more than chasing the “hottest possible guy,” which honestly surprised me a little at first.
Friend 1 is still the most likely option. She feels relaxed around him, trusts him completely, and knows he’d respect boundaries. The chemistry is more playful/comfortable than “wild instant lust,” but weirdly that’s what makes it feel safer for her first experience. We haven’t approached him officially yet, but the tension is definitely there now and he’s already joked before that he’d be down if we ever opened that door.
Friend 2 is still the fantasy pick physically. She lights up talking about how attractive he is. But the distance + uncertainty makes it harder, and after talking more, we realized we probably shouldn’t start with someone where we don’t fully know how he’d handle the emotional side of it.
Biggest thing we learned so far: the hottest part hasn’t even been the sexual stuff — it’s been the honesty. Hearing her openly talk about attraction, fantasies, nerves, boundaries, all of it… weirdly made us feel even more connected.
We also started putting actual boundaries in place instead of just vague fantasy talk:
condoms always
either of us can stop things at any time
no overnights for a first experience
no sneaking/private texting afterwards
lots of aftercare and check-ins after anything happens
no alcohol-heavy situations for the first time
Honestly, the jealousy question is the one I underestimated most. I thought I’d either be fully into it or fully against it, but it’s more nuanced than that. Some moments are insanely hot, other moments make me realize this is real life and not just dirty talk. We’re taking that seriously instead of pretending we’re immune to feelings.
Right now the plan is probably something low-pressure first — maybe drinks/game night vibes instead of some huge “performance” situation. We want it to feel natural, not like a scripted porn scenario.
Appreciate all the advice from couples here. Reading real experiences (especially the good AND bad parts) has honestly helped us approach this way more maturely.

So… small update from my first post here. My girlfriend and I finally had the big conversation properly instead of just keeping it in fantasy territory, and honestly it brought us way closer together.
For context, we’re still brand new to all of this. No full experiences yet, but after reading a lot of advice from people here, we decided to slow down and focus less on “making something happen” and more on communication, comfort, and trust.
A lot of people said involving close friends can either be amazing or a total disaster depending on boundaries, so we talked for HOURS about what we actually want out of this. Turns out for her, comfort and safety matter way more than chasing the “hottest possible guy,” which honestly surprised me a little at first.
Friend 1 is still the most likely option. She feels relaxed around him, trusts him completely, and knows he’d respect boundaries. The chemistry is more playful/comfortable than “wild instant lust,” but weirdly that’s what makes it feel safer for her first experience. We haven’t approached him officially yet, but the tension is definitely there now and he’s already joked before that he’d be down if we ever opened that door.
Friend 2 is still the fantasy pick physically. She lights up talking about how attractive he is. But the distance + uncertainty makes it harder, and after talking more, we realized we probably shouldn’t start with someone where we don’t fully know how he’d handle the emotional side of it.
Biggest thing we learned so far: the hottest part hasn’t even been the sexual stuff — it’s been the honesty. Hearing her openly talk about attraction, fantasies, nerves, boundaries, all of it… weirdly made us feel even more connected.
We also started putting actual boundaries in place instead of just vague fantasy talk:
condoms always
either of us can stop things at any time
no overnights for a first experience
no sneaking/private texting afterwards
lots of aftercare and check-ins after anything happens
no alcohol-heavy situations for the first time
Honestly, the jealousy question is the one I underestimated most. I thought I’d either be fully into it or fully against it, but it’s more nuanced than that. Some moments are insanely hot, other moments make me realize this is real life and not just dirty talk. We’re taking that seriously instead of pretending we’re immune to feelings.
Right now the plan is probably something low-pressure first — maybe drinks/game night vibes instead of some huge “performance” situation. We want it to feel natural, not like a scripted porn scenario.
Appreciate all the advice from couples here. Reading real experiences (especially the good AND bad parts) has honestly helped us approach this way more maturely.