u/GiantPresident

I (36M) am in a long term relationship (40F). While our lives are complicated and we don’t get to have sex as often as I would prefer, we tend to have great sex and our chemistry is strong.

One area where I wish we had more compatibility is when it comes to pillow talk. I get really excited by sexy conversations and I can tell she does too, but she struggles to reciprocate verbal expressions of sexual desire, even when I tell her specifically what I want her to say. She’s not a prude and swears like a sailor otherwise but that side of her personality switches off when she fucks.

I’ve opened up to her many times about how much I want her to verbally acknowledge my penis size. Unlike some guys with this kink, I actually do have a huge cock! (You would think it would be a reasonable request since it doesn’t involve suspension of disbelief.) I’ve asked for a simple “I want that big dick” but it’s just not in her nature.

Ultimately, I’m very happy with her, and our mutual sexual attraction is powerful enough that I don’t need her to fulfill my every sexual fantasy. I’m just curious if this is an experience other couples have had.