r/bigdickproblems

I have a question about a sexual encounter I recently had, and I’d appreciate some honest perspectives.
During sex, the woman I was with had previously mentioned that she generally finds around 15 cm (5.9 inches) to be about the maximum length she is comfortable with for penetrative sex. My penis is approximately 18 cm (7.1 inches) when fully erect, although during this particular encounter I was only partially erect and was probably around 15–16 cm (5.9–6.3 inches) in length.
This has made me wonder whether my full size of around 7 inches might simply be too large for her personally, even if I was not fully erect at the time.
During the encounter, we started in cowgirl position. Initially, she was moving herself, but after a while she stopped moving and I ended up doing most of the movement. After a relatively short time, she suggested changing to missionary. Later, we also switched to another position.
Looking back, I’m wondering whether the position changes and her stopping her movement in cowgirl could have been signs that penetration was becoming too deep or uncomfortable for her. Or are position changes generally too ambiguous to interpret that way?
My main question is: based on the fact that she said around 15 cm was close to her personal maximum, could a penis of around 7 inches potentially be too large for this particular woman?
And if a woman finds a partner’s size uncomfortable, would she normally be expected to communicate that directly, for example by saying “please go slower,” “that’s too deep,” or “that’s uncomfortable”? Or are there non-verbal signs that a partner should also recognize?
I’m not looking for reassurance. I’m genuinely trying to understand whether I may have misread the situation and whether a woman changing positions or reducing her own movement can sometimes be a way of managing discomfort caused by depth or size.
I’d be interested in honest perspectives, especially from women who have experienced discomfort because a partner was larger than they were personally comfortable with.

I’ve noticed in my own family that being well-endowed seems to be a common trait passed down through the generations, it’s definitely a recurring thing for us.
It got me wondering how common that actually is for others here. For those of you who happen to know or have discussed it, did it run in your family too (fathers, grandfathers, brothers), or do you seem to be the outlier/exception in your family line?
Curious to hear if your experience points more toward strong genetics or just random luck of the draw!

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I’m 7,5 and recently had sex for the first time. The girl was about the same size as me. During sex, depending on the position, she would feel pain, especially in missionary, where I couldn’t go all the way in. But when she was on top, it was fine for her.

My question is, do you think this happened because I didn’t stimulate her enough? Since I’m well endowed, should I leave penetration until later? I admit I was kind of impatient lol.

Or is there not much you can do about it? Are some women just going to feel pain while others won’t?

Because a lot of times men with large penises will struggle to get it inside of a woman.

Or a woman will refuse it

However, there are some women who love a big penis. Also known as size queens or hoes.

Just curious, do you really proud about it?

Edit: i’ve read online some woman said that they will use a big cock for fun but not somebody they would want a lifelong relationship with.

Hey everyone,
I recently stumbled upon this sub and wanted to introduce myself. To be completely honest, it’s a relief to find a community where you can actually discuss the day-to-day reality of being on the larger side without people assuming you’re just flexing or looking to engage in smut.
That’s definitely not why I’m here. I’m just looking to connect, share experiences, and read stories from people who understand the actual drawbacks. It sounds a bit cheesy, but it can be surprisingly frustrating and isolating at times—whether it’s dealing with physical discomfort during intimacy, standard toys and gear simply not fitting, or trying to navigate techniques with a partner so it’s actually enjoyable for both people.
Out in the real world (or most of the internet), if you try to talk about these struggles, it’s usually brushed off as "a good problem to have" or dismissed entirely. It’s nice to see a space where these issues are treated as real, practical things to navigate rather than a joke.
Looking forward to reading through the threads, learning what’s worked for others, and contributing where I can. Hope everyone’s having a good week!

Many guys with larger girth mention a certain BDP where they can’t get great blowjob because the woman’s teeth start to hurt. Now I have only a very small sample size, but at 5.5 inch girth around the middle (6 around the base), I should be experiencing this. However I’ve never really felt that being a problem because every woman I’ve been with covered the teeth with her lips while doing it, so there is almost no scraping involved.

Have my partners all just been very inventive? Isn’t this a common practice? My wife certainly has a larger mouth, but the girls before her absolutely did not and it never was a problem.

Can you guys elaborate what you mean?

Just wondering if those guys really exist. Do you have it? Were you diagnosed?
I saw videos online and read some stories but would love to know real experiences. Your struggles, joys and everything that goes with it.

How likely are other guys or women to look for dick prints? I never had the question until I came across a video on catching print.

Is my prints as obvious to others as they are to me? I get the feeling that I am more likely to notice it because I know where/how it sits in my clothes.

Some conext, I'm 7.25 x 5.5 and I usually wear slim fit jeans. My print isn't a defined bulge but there is a definite bump when walking or standing straight.

Hey, I know tight foreskin isn't exclusively a BDP but I don't know if it would be more common with big dick's.

So my foreskin is fairly tight, I'm just about able to pull it back when I'm flaccid but when I'm hard it's too tight and I can't pull it back all the way.

I'm wondering if this is a somewhat common issue and how to fix it without cutting it off?

Thank you to everyone who reads this and/or offers help.

I always read from most of you here that having a 9 inches penis was nearly impossible, opinion that I completely agreed with as a gay top guy with a body count of some hundreds that saw many things. I have seen a few really massive dicks (clearly over 8 inches), but last night really stood out.

I slept with a guy and I was really surprised for what I saw. It was, for sure, the biggest penis I have ever seen so far. Indeed, he told me he was over 9 inches, which I didn't doubt, and, even more worrying, the girth was like the size of my wrist plus let's say a 20% more.

Everything was so astonishing that I even wondered if it could all be related with a health issue, with him also confessing that he wished he was WAY less thicker, understandable as it was obvious that this wasn't practical. Anyway, the guy was super sweet and I really want to see him again.

So I wanted to read your opinions about this. Do you think the odds of meeting a 9 inches penis are really as rare as, let's say, calcsd, would say? And do you think there is a possibility that I was right by thinking there could be a health issue in all this? Thanks!

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wanted to share some of my big discoveries with you guys and maybe solve some of your complexes

1. if you have a long dick or even a skinny one you dont have to worry about hitting the cervix if you play it right. around the cervix there are the posterior fornice, extra pockets. if you aim into those you hit some of her deepest erogenous zones. the best is the a-spot, the one towards the belly button. its deep in the body and can give stronger orgasms, even multiple ones in some women. plus you give her that full stuffed feeling. if you dont have girth you can just go all the way in. best technique is the rocking pendulum motion so you dont hurt her
2. if your dick curves down or up thats actually great news. you dont need to set angles to hit the posterior fornices. just position her right and youll automatically hit those spots, stimulating g-spot and a-spot and maybe the clit at the same time. thats already a lot
3. going back to the curves, position is key so your dick presses on the erogenous zones. upward curve? missionary and the g-spot gets pressed and heavily stimulated. you dont need big girth for that.
4. big girth – the vagina has muscles on the sides while front and back have the erogenous zones. a thick dick does press on those zones but theres a difference between stimulating the spots which anyone can do and the actual stretching feeling. your dick spreads those tight muscle walls on the sides and that gives her the feeling of being completely filled. hard to fake that with technique. theres also vaginal fatigue but i mainly wanted to explain the difference between stimulation and actual fullness. Remember the fact that you give a woman a feeling of fullness isn't a huge stimulus and it won't suddenly make her reach climax having a large size doesn't suddenly give us some kind of superpowers.
5. basically every dick is good, seriously. i used to have a lot of problems and because of all the bullshit on forums i let myself believe something was wrong with me. the weirder your dick is the better specialist you can become. you dont need a huge one and you dont need to write that you have a huge one. okay you have one? cool, forget it. now its only about technique and i just explained the basic anatomy. so if youre just above average trust me you can still be a sex god

Previous post on another sub that asked if guys keep their balls in, or get them out whilst peeing.

Seemed to be pretty mixed results throughout the comments.

I’m personally a balls in guy, and found it odd that you’d get them out. I’m definitely on the larger side, made me wonder if it has anything to do with flaccid length.

Edit: Seems like balls in is still the minority, and it doesn’t have much or anything to do with shaft length.

I've started seeing a girl, we've been friends for years. We've been in this weird emotional intimate but just friends space for a long time where we've gone hot ajd cold. Finally we hooked up up the other week.

She takes me easily. I'm 7 x 5.5. So not massive but on the larger side and she said I'm easily her biggest (she hasn't been with many men shes only had a few long term boyfriends and situationships).

The thing is we'll hangout at mine. We kiss, we cuddle heaps. Eventually I'll start kissing her neck. Than kissing and sucking her nipples. Kissing down her body. By the time I get down there before I've even touched with my hands shes already borderline dripping.

After eating her out I literally can go balls deeps first stroke. She takes me with absolute ease. The last girl I got with was sore the next day and took awhile to take me.

I ask from curiosity because I've literally only been with her and one other women that was a casual situationship. So i have a very little sample size.

Me and my girl (-25) have been together for almost a year now, and have been living together for a couple of months.

The first time we got together shes called me big, but Ive always preferred modesty on the subject due to past relationships causing those issues.

Recently it seems that no matter what position we do im always catching her cervix at the wrong angle and hurting myself. Ive been pretty good at steering clear, and working around it, but recently I’ve just wanted to go balls deep in her and can’t seem to satisfy that desire.

We’ve talked about anal, because I think there’s no limit to depth, can anyone give advice if we’re incorrect, neither of us has done anal before also. Or if anyone has any tips on being able to fulfill that necessity vaginally I’m open to ideas.

I also really want to try anal, but we’ve both been on the edge about it, any tips or suggestions?

Forgot to add size, not sure if that’s a requirement but 7” X 4.5-5” can’t remember girth

I was showering with some friends after we worked out in a classic locker room style shower so nothing weird. First time really seeing these guys naked and as we’re showering one of the guys literally said holy shit when I whipped mine out. I’m a shower so it does look really big, but that was the first time anyone said that.

Later that night as we’re out drinking they all ask me how big I am and wanna know if I’ve measured and kept bugging me w questions about a big dick lol. Is this something that has happened to you all / is it fine that I kinda felt like the man for being bigger than them 😂

I have been insecure about my penis size most of my life due to intensive porn addiction, i always thought 8"-9" is the range to be considered "big" then i got to know about this sub which i intially thought is troll community. Thanks to mods and creators of calcsd.info for sourcing the good data and made a simplistic tool. When i measured myself it was 6.75"x6" BP i thought it would either below or near to average size. But i was wrong af. Now a days i feel more confident to have conversation with random women (yes there are more important factors then penis size). At least one of the stress factor has been gone.

I have a 20 cm dick and two pretty big balls (I’ve never measured them, hehe), and whenever I ride my motorcycle (every day), I have to keep adjusting my crotch because my boxers ride up and my balls get in the way. On top of that, my dick always ends up to the side, pressed against the bike’s frame. No matter which way I move it, it’s always uncomfortable. It’s about 13 cm when flaccid. I don’t know what to do. Help me out.

Does anyone know a good site to check your percentile in volume? Every site I check has just length or just girth. I know our dicks aren’t perfect cylinders but I’m curious to know the volume from a trusted alternative other that calc sd

When I am working out I have one of two problems because my dick seems to have a mind of its own.

1. My dick (and balls) stay fairly large and are in the damn way. Nothing like crushing your junk sitting down on a piece of equipment, or while doing hot yoga.

2. My dick gets scared and hides in my balls, and my balls contract like it’s their job to hide my dick. Holy shit that is uncomfortable. I have to continually stop what I’m doing to adjust things. This is often a problem during cardio.

I know others understand the first problem, does anyone else have the second problem?

I recently had to have a surgery done that involved performing an incision right below my belly button.

If you’ve ever had something like this done, they sterilize the area by shaving the area and then applying this disinfectant gel.

I was laying there in the paper thin hospital gown, nothing underneath, as instructed, and a RNA came in to prepare me.

She was maybe in her 50s or so, a really nice and outgoing black woman.

As she’s trimming my pubic region..I start to feel my dick getting hard. I tried everything I could do to stop it, but the tickling around my pubes and stomach just felt really good. Of course as it hardened, it went up against my stomach.

She had to grab my dick with her hand and hold it out of the way as she shaved me, and I quote she laughed and said “Sorry but you’re a big boy down there so I have to hold your penis out of the way.”

The worst part - my mom was sitting right outside the curtained off area of my hospital room, hearing it all go down.

I think this was the first time I’ve ever had an actual comment / reaction from my BD in a medical or professional setting. It did NOT help my erection go down lol.