u/nederlanderfrl

I have a question about a sexual encounter I recently had, and I’d appreciate some honest perspectives.
During sex, the woman I was with had previously mentioned that she generally finds around 15 cm (5.9 inches) to be about the maximum length she is comfortable with for penetrative sex. My penis is approximately 18 cm (7.1 inches) when fully erect, although during this particular encounter I was only partially erect and was probably around 15–16 cm (5.9–6.3 inches) in length.
This has made me wonder whether my full size of around 7 inches might simply be too large for her personally, even if I was not fully erect at the time.
During the encounter, we started in cowgirl position. Initially, she was moving herself, but after a while she stopped moving and I ended up doing most of the movement. After a relatively short time, she suggested changing to missionary. Later, we also switched to another position.
Looking back, I’m wondering whether the position changes and her stopping her movement in cowgirl could have been signs that penetration was becoming too deep or uncomfortable for her. Or are position changes generally too ambiguous to interpret that way?
My main question is: based on the fact that she said around 15 cm was close to her personal maximum, could a penis of around 7 inches potentially be too large for this particular woman?
And if a woman finds a partner’s size uncomfortable, would she normally be expected to communicate that directly, for example by saying “please go slower,” “that’s too deep,” or “that’s uncomfortable”? Or are there non-verbal signs that a partner should also recognize?
I’m not looking for reassurance. I’m genuinely trying to understand whether I may have misread the situation and whether a woman changing positions or reducing her own movement can sometimes be a way of managing discomfort caused by depth or size.
I’d be interested in honest perspectives, especially from women who have experienced discomfort because a partner was larger than they were personally comfortable with.

Hi everyone,
I have a question specifically for sex workers, and I’d really appreciate some honest perspectives.
At what penis size do you personally start considering a client “too large” or difficult to work with? And, more importantly, how would you normally communicate that to a client during the session if their size was uncomfortable for you?
I recently had an encounter with a sex worker who told me beforehand that around 15 cm (5.9 inches) in length was about her maximum for sexual activities. She said she generally prefers not to have sex with clients who are larger than that.
For context, my penis is approximately 18 cm (7.1 inches) long and 14 cm (5.5 inches) in circumference when fully erect. Because of a neurological condition, I don’t always get completely hard, so during this particular encounter I was only partially erect. I would estimate that I was around 15–16 cm (5.9–6.3 inches) in length at that point, with a fairly substantial girth, although less than my full 14 cm (5.5 inch) circumference.
We started with cowgirl. Initially, she was moving herself, but after a while she stopped doing that and I was the one doing most of the movement. After a relatively short time, she suggested changing positions to missionary.
Later we switched to doggy style. I asked if I could lightly spank her and she said that was fine. I did it twice, very gently — more like a light tap than an actual spanking. After the second time, she moved her hand toward me in a way that I interpreted as possibly signaling “stop,” although I had already stopped spanking at that point. We then continued for a little while.
Looking back, I’m wondering whether some of these things could have been subtle indications that my size was uncomfortable for her.
For example, could her stopping the cowgirl movement and switching positions have been because the penetration was too deep or uncomfortable? Or would you expect a sex worker to explicitly say something like “please take it easy”, “that’s too deep”, or “I can’t comfortably do this” if the size was causing a problem?
I’m asking because I don’t want to misinterpret someone’s body language. If a sex worker is uncomfortable because of a client’s size, would you normally expect her to communicate that directly, or are there common non-verbal signals that clients are expected to recognize?
One other thing has been bothering me. After the appointment, I messaged her on WhatsApp and told her that I had enjoyed meeting her and would like to come back the following day. Unfortunately, she blocked me.
Obviously I can’t know why she blocked me, but I’m curious about how sex workers would interpret this. Could it have been related to my size, something I did during the appointment, the fact that I contacted her again so soon, or simply that she didn’t want to see me again for some unrelated reason?
I’m 28, reasonably attractive and well-groomed, so I had assumed that being a younger, clean and respectful client would generally be viewed positively compared with an older or less well-groomed client. But perhaps I’m making assumptions that don’t really apply to sex work.
I’m genuinely interested in hearing from sex workers here:
At what size does a client become difficult or uncomfortable to work with?
How do you normally communicate that during a session?
Are position changes sometimes a way of managing discomfort?
What signs should a client pay attention to?
And what are some common reasons you might block a client after an otherwise seemingly normal appointment?
I’m not looking for reassurance or compliments. I’d genuinely prefer honest answers, even if the answer is that I misread the situation or did something I wasn’t aware of.
Thanks in advance.