r/ClientsAndCompanions

I’m quite new to this side of things and while I enjoyed my first date some of the things I’ve seen posted here and in similar subreddits has made me question somethings.

I was quite realistic about my first date I think. I accepted that even if I asked for “honesty” when it came to my performance/their enjoyment the reality was that she would lie but lie plausibly which is an understandable part of the job. When I later apologised for not having cum yet (I actually stopped her from hand stuff and repositioned because I was concerned she would hurt her shoulder) and asked if it was annoying she said she didn’t care because she came twice.

This was funny but one of these occasions seemed a bit unlikely (just a couple minutes of foreplay/oral) while the other was more plausible (she asked if she could use a toy of hers mid-sex and then tried a couple until one was suitable).

Then a lot of the posts here seem irritated at the prospect of clients trying to please providers. If the nature of the job is that an orgasm is rare or even undesirable then so be it but I guess I feel a bit unclear on how much I should be trying to make them feel good. Is me trying to help them get off actually causing them more annoyance than if I were more selfish?

I don’t know whether this is something with a consensus or if it’s quite individual so I thought I’d ask. Thanks:)

Saw an escort every few weeks for a while then all of a sudden she stopped responding and fired me since I know she still is active via ads and online presence.

I have tried reaching out but she does not want to see me. Honestly, only want to see her again because she was gorgeous but really I trusted her.

Any ideas on how to get her see me again? I have sent gifts on her wishlist site (all in over 1500) but no success.

Clients, why do you inquire with providers that require deposits if you are against deposits? This is a serious question.

I state that I require a deposit numerous times yet every now and then I’ll get an inquiry from a potential client that acts shocked and appalled when I bring up a deposit. I’m not sure if it’s selective literacy or just trying to push their luck or what. So yeah, I’m curious to know.

I’m meeting a provider for the first time in a few weeks. We already are scheduled for a longer (6hr) date but it’s a broadway show and dinner. I always tend to like longer dates to build connection and I give a lot of thought before booking anyone. So it’s always been good.

The date doesn’t start till 7pm so 6hr gets us to 1am. I’m a night owl and the provider said she is as well and is fine with a late ending.

However, the provider notes on her site that she loves overnights. And in a practical sense 1am is late and the overnight is only slightly more than the 6hr.

My concerns are that I’ve never done an overnight. So I don’t know what it would be like. I’ve never met this provider before but she’s friends with a provider I’ve seen several times who I get along great with and have enjoyed several 6 hour dates. But again it’s always a risk.

Should I float it out to her and see what she thinks? And let her say yes or no?

I’m seeing a GFE provider I’ve not met before for an extended date in a few weeks. We are going to a show and then dinner and then the rest.

May seem like a silly question but what are thoughts on holding hands, being cozy with each other in the theater? I’m not talking about making out or anything. Just like sitting close, holding hands, hands on a knee (not like sliding up a thigh). That type thing.

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Thoughts on asking her in advance via email? I always have concerns that asking this in earshot of others in public could make her feel uncomfortable since it may indicate the nature of our time together to others. Especially in a theater setting where we might be sitting near those same eavesdroppers for 2 hours.

Basically I have never done this before and I want to do this but is it possible to have a conversation with the provider for few day's get comfortable and then see them .obviously I don't want to waste their time but at the same time ,but bit understanding I guess. If it helps I'm insouth jersy Philly area

Please not judge me because I am just going to tell you what I’m in through and trying to describe what I’m looking for in a way that help makes sense to you because I wouldn’t even know what kind of provider to try to find or if this is even considered BDSM, which I have no experience in. I once dated this girl from Canada who is a model. We had a very passionate love life. I would say the best experience ever. She started getting extremely physical with me, pushing me into stuff spitting in my face and talking down to me and turned me on more than I’ve ever been turned on in my entire life. I have PTSD and had an extremely abusive childhood and all the women that were in my life my name anyway you can imagine I am not looking to be rough with a woman or anything like that. If I was trying to explain what would make me happy in my head, it would basically be a woman that completely degraded me spit on me or hit me he would break me down into nothing completely destroying my spirit maybe even be violent with me to the point that I wouldn’t know if I was in danger or not. I know that sounds weird, but the thought of it just thrills me but as the session continues, she will build me up. I was hoping some ladies have thought. I don’t even know what category this is fall into so I’m sorry.

Hello wonderful companions: how do you feel about traveling with clients? Is this something you want to do and/or would enjoy? Or is it too much of an ask?

For context, I have been considering asking a companion to join me on a short getaway (3 nights) to a place like the Bahamas or another resort location. Spend a few days relaxing by the pool, have some tasty drinks, eat some good food, and yes, enjoy each other’s company. All expenses paid of course, I would get her her own room and plan for some separate/alone time (i.e. send her to the spa for an afternoon while I hit the golf course).

So i’m betting the answer to my question of whether you’d want to do this with a client is “it depends”, but I am curious if these types of requests are seen as overwhelming? I have someone in mind but I’ve only seen her twice (she’s not local to me) and I’m worried it will seem pushy to ask. How many times would you want to see a client before feeling comfortable entertaining such a request? I appreciate your feedback and thoughts!

Just a heads up, like Texas they've made it a felony to solicit sex in Arizona.

I been in the industry many many years. I used to be independent but now I work out of Spas just cuz I feel safer. I never see any discussions that have spa girls in them. People claim spas traffic but I’ve worked spas for along time traveling and never met a girl that was trafficked 🤷🏻‍♀️. I’m sure it’s out there but I’ve never seen it. Idk is there any girls out here like me?

How would I go about finding a provider in my area i can pick up a girl at any down neighborhood but I would like to find a higher class woman

Is it bad to try to book a provider day for next week? Especially if I say Happy Fourth of July and it’s no rush to respond?

Where are your favorite places to get tested, with documentation that is clear for showing providers, while being discrete enough for a range of client situations? Specifically asking from the perspective of a client but obviously happy for anyone to provide info. I assume that most places do both genital and oral (because why wouldn't they) but if you have info to the contrary that would be useful.

This is partly a rant and partly a PSA for those of us who write reviews on theeroticreview (or used to, in my case).  I recently wrote a glowing review of one of the top providers on TER and justifiably gave her a 10 for Performance.  Anyone who reads the review or is familiar with her would completely understand my rating.  It also met all the requirements for a 10 (baseline 7 + DFK + BBBJ + second provider/bisexual), which I respect and have always followed in the past. 

When it was posted, the rating was reduced to a 9.  I reached out to ask why, and the response was that I didn't explicitly call out two of those services.  TER then reduced it even further to an 8, presumably out of spite.  It now looks ridiculous sitting there in her list of reviews, almost all of which are 10s.  I've asked several times for the ability to edit the review so I can explicitly call those things out and restore the correct rating—or simply delete it—to no response.  I didn't explicitly use the acronyms BBBJ or DFK (although I did describe her kissing), primarily because I thought them unnecessary when reviewing someone of her caliber, and also because I find them unartful.  I try to write reviews people find enjoyable to read, not just lists of acronyms. 

So the lesson here is that TER will change your ratings without any recourse, no matter how ridiculous the resulting score looks.  Think twice before writing a review, knowing it can be edited by someone with no knowledge of the encounter.  Question whether the ratings you see were actually given by the client.  And if you do write a review, make sure to spell things out so there's no doubt about what went down.  My reviewing days are over because of this, unfortunately.

P.S. I posted this exact post on the TER forums, and had several people respond that the same thing happened to them. After a day, TER unsurprisingly deleted the thread. Afraid of a little transparency, I guess.

I found a provider through Tryst and provided a deposit. Their Tryst profile is no longer up but their website still is. They don’t seem to have an online presence other than the site and a review on TER. They have a Twitter with one photo that hasn’t posted in months.

Their site mentions screening but since sending the initial email with deposit, they haven’t asked for screening. They just agreed to the initial outcall proposal I had. I didn’t confirm a time and a specific address so a couple days later, they asked for that info. The fact that they haven’t asked for screening is a bit suspicious to me. I understand going to a guy’s place maybe if you did a short call with him + deposit, but just a $100 gift card being all the provider needs makes me think something is off here. Providers also usually don’t follow up in my experience if the guy doesn’t respond to their emails.

Thoughts?

I have had a PD profile for awhile now and they used to be legit. I did get clients back in the day when I toured the Monterey and Silicon Valley areas but it seems their site has been hijacked by major spammers. It used to be free to advertise in non-major markets and now they charge a premium. Does anyone actually advertise and see the intangible ROI meaning really good clients with longevity?

I'm sorry I don't even know how to frame this question or where to start as it's such a weird one. So a bit of context. I used to book escorts somewhat frequently when I was living in a big city and had a job making pretty decent money. This was back in late 2020s to 2022. This is the time during which I started meeting escorts and continued for roughly 2 years with a decent frequency.

Anyway I left my job to move to my hometown, which is a very small town, to start a business. Without sharing too much detail, my business requires me to be there physically all the time. That's just the nature of business coupled with the fact that since it's a new business it requires a lot of time. It's growing but well it's a business so it is gonna take time. I'm assuming that it'd easily take 7-8 good years for my business to be successful enough to a point where I can sort of have the luxury to travel and stuff and not be physically present all the time.

Problem is since my business constantly requires to be present and it's a small town I rarely get a chance to go to a big city. This is bad to the point where after 2022 till now I have barely booked escorts 3 times so like 3 times in 4 years. And I feel this is gonna last for 7-8 years and by that time I'd be 40. Coming to the main problem which is the cause of my fear. I'm scared that by the time I'm 40 my sexual drive would have dropped dramatically and I would probably not even enjoy sex as much or even if I do I'd probably not have the urge to have sex as frequently as I do now. It's like losing a few good years that I have left when I actually still have a lot of urge to have sex(it was even more when I was in my early to mid 20s for obvious reason).

It just makes me question is this all worth it? I genuinely enjoy having sex and my time with escorts. Meeting different beautiful escorts and just purely having sex and everything. I have always loved it and never got bored of it.

Anyway I'd appreciate if companions and clients can share their insights on this. Do men in their 40s even have sexual urges like they have in their 20s and 30s? Again apology for such a long post this has been bothering me for months and I don't know who to talk to about this.

The consensus I've gathered is that a decent amount of the clientele is made up of people in monogamous agreements. As careful as one may be, all it takes is just one notification at the wrong time, or maybe a database leak or worse a law enforcement encounter or catching something like HSV 2 to completely derail significant parts of your life.

Obviously, you're likely being as careful as possible, but it only takes one fuck up. Maybe your partner will be more forgiving because there were no feelings or maybe they'll feel worse if they are anti companionship.

I myself wrestle with this question and usually conclude that it's disingenuous and not worth it, so it's not from a place of judgement.