r/ClientsAndCompanions

How on earth are you supposed to know who’s the person in the utr post? Just inquire?

My friend is a client who has been seeing escorts occasionally and he says that he used to never get asked for extra money from a escort but that over the last year that this has occurred more often than not.

Something like a random text message that says like

"Hey sweetie, hope your not working to hard. My **insert emergency situation** and I need some help can you send me **50$** so I can take care of it? Thanks"

My friend says that he hates this especially when it's from a provider that he enjoys. He hates it because he feels like when he doesn't send the situation changes and it gets awarded at the min if he doesn't pay. And when he does he also notices a decline in the sexual energy on her part and when they are together that energy is replaced with a "needy" energy and everything becomes itemized transactions the micro purchases in video games. All of a sudden the escort has a emergency every week and every thing has a price when the escort talks.

I told him to set boundaries on the 1st date but he thinks it makes him sound like a jerk to say that upfront.

Personally, I think giving gifts is more fun for both when the gift isn't asked for. Like if the connection is cool, which is what clients want when things are good, than the gifts come and money just flow freely from my side. But that flow gets stuck in the pipeline when a provider asks for gifts/money first. The fun and joy and discovery clog up the pipe. Makes it difficult to get hard and blocks the money from leaving bank accounts.

Especially if the connection was trash or the escort underperformed or the experience was not up to standard.

Would anyone, client or companion care to share some thoughts or provide some insight?

Clients has this happened to you? How did you handle it?

Companions do ask your clients for extra money outside of a date. Do you ever payback the client?

If I reach out to a companion and they don’t answer after reaching out with a regular greeting, how long do I wait to reach out again or do I even reach out again? One person answered me and asked for a selfie/ID to which I provided but after that nothing.

Jed York's personal net worth is around $500 million and yet was still willing to take $160 dollar risk in an Ohio trailer park. Not sure if he was motivated by greed, ignorance, or good 'ol fashioned 2 am horny thoughts.

Is anyone else following this story?

Is there a specific name or description for escort/provider services that only consist of fully clothed love making and cuddling/hugging?

What type of kissing is typical?

What donation could be expected for this in an area where the typical PD rate is $600 an hour for full service?

How would you advertise for this?

Thank you.

I’m a woman that is considering hiring a provider after getting burnt out on the apps-there’s so much mediocre dick out there and I would just like one really good lay. I’m bi so would be interested in seeing a woman, too. But there are so fewer men offering this service, and many have less than impressive profiles and I’ll be so upset if I spend money only to get the same shitty attitude and total lack of understanding of my pleasure that a lot of men seem to have. If anyone has any success stories, or lessons/warnings, I’d love to hear them!

I’ve always traveled to providers since I didn’t have a place to host. I finally have a place to host for the next week, so I’ve been trying to schedule. I just didn’t realize how many people ghost or stop responding when it gets close to the time to meet.

For example, one provider I contacted agreed on a time, but when the time came, she stopped responding. In a situation like this, are you supposed to increase the number of providers you’re trying to book with and just see what sticks?

I’ve been reaching out to 1–2 at a time because I don’t want to string multiple women along or waste anyone’s time. But now that I want to use the room within the week, I’m starting to wonder if that’s the wrong approach. I need to increase it to 10-15 women. If you’ve ever been in this situation, how do you usually handle it?

I wanted to share a recent experience I had with an independent high-end provider in Switzerland. We often read about mechanical, rushed, or purely transactional encounters, but my recent meeting completely redefined what a high-end Girlfriend Experience (GFE) should be. I’m sharing this because the service she provided just shocked me; her spirit and dedication touched me deeply and redefined the standard of a high-end provider. I think it highlights a philosophy we should all remember in this hobby.

There are many providers who claim to be high-end or luxury agencies offering services like a classic GFE. But finding a truly high-end provider in Switzerland who offers an authentic, unforgettable overall experience—not just a GFE, but real passion and dedication—is incredibly rare. It requires not just luck, but finding a woman who understands the true art of connection.

According to her ad, she claims to be highly educated. Many providers claim the same, but upon reading her full ad, I found it was written in a remarkably thoughtful way. I read the reviews and decided to book a 2-hour session. From the moment I contacted her, her communication was impeccable. You can easily recognize that she is highly educated just based on her vocabulary and typing vibe. She was professional, clear, and reassuring, setting the tone for what would become an extraordinary evening. From the moment I read her first message, I knew she was educated and extremely polite. I told her this would be my second experience and asked if she had an age limit or was uncomfortable seeing a young man. She replied to me thoughtfully and in detail. She answered all my questions, and anticipating that I might not be familiar with certain terms or service types, she briefly introduced what her GFE entails and how the meeting would go. She did not hesitate to type detailed responses, even knowing I might not book a session with her. She is also visually stunning, even more beautiful than her photos suggest. However, what truly elevates her to the highest tier of this industry is her intellect and the way she treats her clients.

I spent an hour showering before heading to her place, making sure I was as clean as possible, and was prepared to shower again once I arrived. Her apartment is located in a great area with excellent transportation. I absolutely loved and appreciated the facilities in her apartment. It was spacious and clean, with a warm and cozy atmosphere. The bathroom and shower area looked very modern, highly advanced, extremely tidy, and functional. The shampoo and body wash she offered were high-quality brands. She prepared two towels for me, plus an extra one for cleaning. These were unexpected, so I was really happy about it. What really impressed me was that she provided mouthwash—that’s a fantastic touch. At one point, when offering me a drink, she noticed the glass she handed me had a tiny smudge. She immediately swapped it, giving me the pristine glass she was about to use for herself, and took the other one. That level of care set the tone immediately. She actually cares about every single detail and her client's experience, down to the tiniest part.

Although she is not a native English speaker, her English was as good as a native's, so we had absolutely no language barrier. Before rushing into anything, we spent time engaged in genuine conversation. She is highly educated and a fantastic listener. She does not just pretend to care; she connects with you on an intellectual level, which makes the physical intimacy that follows a hundred times more powerful. This perfectly matched a line in her ad: "easy to connect with."

When we finally moved to the bedroom, she was the absolute epitome of passion. Our time was totally unhurried. The foreplay lasted very long; although we only did one round, the intimacy lasted for more than an hour.

• The Kissing: Our lips barely parted for the entire two hours. From standing embraces to the most intense moments in bed, she was deeply passionate.
• The Dedication: She offers natural oral, and her skills were legendary—performed with such patience and enthusiasm, without me ever needing to push or dictate. Even when a minor adjustment in position was needed, she handled it with unbelievable grace, ensuring the momentum never stopped. We changed 5 positions just for her offering natural oral, and even without using her hands. Neither of us checked the clock, but I'm sure she did it for more than 15 minutes. I asked her multiple times if she was tired or needed a break, and she just smiled and gave even more. In the end, I really thought it was too much for her and slowly led her to stop. I really didn't want her to be tired, and I wanted to save her mouth and neck.

The intercourse was even more enjoyable; she literally dedicated every single part of herself to it. The quality of her service and her spirit are simply unmatched. Unless she truly loves her job, I cannot fathom any other reason for offering such an amazing experience and dedication.

This experience validated a philosophy I hold very dear. Yes, this is a paid service, but behind the profession is a real, intelligent, and hardworking woman. You can treat a meeting like a cold transaction, or you can treat your provider with kindness, chivalry, and genuine respect. During our pillow talk, I found her to be incredibly knowledgeable, smart, chatty, and respectful. I realized how stressful her full-time job is—even just sitting behind a laptop—and how much they go through in this industry. When you choose to be a gentleman—when you don't push their boundaries, when you check in on their comfort, and when you show appreciation—they reciprocate with a level of warmth and dedication that you simply cannot buy with an hourly rate.

Before a client complains about a provider being "cold" or "mechanical," they should first ask themselves how they treated her. The respect you give heavily determines the experience you receive.

She is a true gem in this industry; she literally showed me how incredible a provider can be and what being highly educated truly means. She is a benchmark for this industry, and incredibly, this is only her part-time job. Her rates are not insanely high, but the quality of the service is way beyond her rates; her service is simply irreplaceable. She didn't ask me for anything extra, but I felt I definitely should give her more.

Treat them like the ladies they are, and they will give you a memory for a lifetime.

Going to see my second ever SP in 12 hours. First didn't go well as I was nervous and couldn't get hard.

I have tadalafil for this one and I just want to how others typically spend their hour.

How much time making out, on oral, then fucking to finish before cuddling? This is assuming not MSOG

Looking for some perspective from people who have been around the hobby longer than I have.

I’m married, although my marriage has been essentially sexless for years. Earlier this year I saw a provider I’d seen before, and during one encounter there was a pregnancy risk. It was the only time anything like that happened.

I saw her again a few weeks later and everything seemed completely normal. Nothing was said about pregnancy or any concerns from the previous encounter.

I then took a couple months away from the hobby. Recently I got worried about that encounter again and thought about checking in with her. That’s when I discovered that her ads are gone and her old number no longer works. I haven’t seen any discussion about her recently either.

Obviously there are a hundred innocent explanations for somebody leaving the business or changing numbers, and I don’t want to turn this into an investigation into where she went. I also don’t want to post identifying details about her.

But the uncertainty has gotten into my head.

My main question is: if she were to resurface and tell me she’s pregnant and that I might be the father, how would you handle that situation?

My current thinking is that I wouldn’t argue, accuse her of anything, or make promises. I’d tell her that I understand I’m potentially the father and, if the pregnancy continues, I’d want paternity established through a legitimate DNA test before making decisions based on that assumption. If it established that I was the father, then obviously I’d have to deal with the reality of having a child and everything that comes with that.

And although my marriage has problems, I don't want to lose that.

Part of me wants to ask around locally just to find out whether she’s okay, but I’m hesitant because that could draw unwanted attention to both of us. Posting anonymously somewhere non-local seems less invasive.

For those who have dealt with pregnancy scares or something remotely similar: would you just leave this alone unless she contacts you? Is there anything sensible I should be doing now that I’m overlooking?

Or do you generally feel safe using your main number? I considered VOIP, but I believe many escorts don’t accept it(?).

I ask this due to scammers out there, not necessarily due to a lack of trust in professional escorts. And for such a service, it would give me a bit better peace of mind privacy-wise.

Questions for clients:

1. Is a provider who seems a little nervous a turn-off? I think I'm pretty good at acting confident, so I'm not too concerned about this but if a healthy amount of nervousness leaks through a bit, does it negatively impact the experience?
2. What helps you feel more comfortable when a session starts? Anything a provider has done in the past that you really liked and made the atmosphere nicer?
3. Feel free to skip this question since its not really needed, just more out of curiosity! How do you feel with someone who's more bubbly and talkative?
4. Anything to avoid that made your experience worse in the past?
5. Anything else you want to add/suggest :)?

Have you ever been approached by a client for Tantric Sex?

Is it common for a client to ask to play out a simple role-play scenario when you meet up? Nothing complicated or crazy.

Example: as a former landlord in real life, I had a couple occasions in the past where the rent was due and the woman tenant to my surprise offered an alternative "barter arrangement." Obviously, in real life I don't shit where I eat and said no. In real life I realize this would complicate matters greatly. But I have to be honest, turning down sex afterwards still gave me a major erection and to this day I still wind up masturbating to if i actually had said yes to the original offers. I'm a man; don't judge me. Or do. Hell, I at least turned it down in real life. Lol

So when i plan on seeing an escort who I have been with before, would it be weird to text the following after she says she does some roleplaying:

" so when i show up tomorrow and knock on your door, pretend I'm your landlord and the rent is past due. You invite me in then tell me your husband is out of town. I then ask about the rent and you say you have no money. I mention eviction unless we can work out another arrangement. At that point you seduce me."

Im sure there are dozens of things like this: step-sister fantasies, boss/employee fantasies, neighbor next door, handyman fantasy etc. I have to imagine this is more common.

I ask this because seriously just showing up and fucking seems lacking at times.

A provider I saw recently posted on social media that someone stole the photos from her Tryst ad and created a new profile with them. She reported to the Tryst administrators and hasn't heard back.

We see posts here of legitimate providers waiting months to get verified, meanwhile the site is so full of OF bots and increasingly sophisticated deposit scammers that it's becoming unusable for clients.

What is going on with them? Used to be a great platform for clients and providers, focused on making the community safer for everyone. Now it rewards scammers and makes life difficult for legitimate independent providers while overwhelming clients with fake profiles.

There are many escorts that prefer payment upfront but do not pay before service.

Other ways to spot a potential escort washer are

1. Someone not taking their shoes off once inside

2. Being all nervous

3. Holding on to their car key tightly and trying to press the alarm button on their car key.

4. Asking you to pay before service begins

5. Having a phone with data problems and asking you for help connecting to wifi, that's why you have data service.

6. They look nothing like the pics from the ad. Send them away if they look nothing like their ad

1 and 3 and 6 are the most important signs to watch out for

I’m considering spending some time in Kansas City and would love to hear from people who actually live there about the experience as a companion or client. Also, has anyone had any issues on either side with law enforcement since it’s illegal? Planning on using tryst. Thanks!

On the main SW reddit, I saw a thread from a provider who was unhappy that the client was trying to "pin down" what her service entailed in a text conversation beforehand. I mean, the euphemistic terms in her profile strongly hinted at HJ to me, but the client kept trying to clarify that is definitely what she was going to do, and she didn't want to have to spell it out in case it got her into legal trouble, so she cancelled. I think she was in USA, and can imagine there's conservative states where law enforcement attempt to entrap people like that.

That approach from a client can also come across like trying to push boundaries for extras or to haggle, so i get why its wrong. And if this was a civvie, like some X or FWB or someone you met on an app, you'd not dream of trying to discuss in advance what sort of sex you want to do before a meet !

On the other hand, many workers have quite a large range and quite a lot of them aren't things I'm into so.. they surely don't expect you to just book a time and then have that conversation when you get there? If you're new to this kind of thing, that's a big ask !

In the UK it seems the platform people use is AdultWork. So I guess, your first message asks if you can book them, and explains that you're new to this type of thing and don't have many miles on the odometer. If she replies in the affirmative, you can indicate a preferred direction of travel by hinting at one of the activites on her "likes" list without "spelling it out". I guess this all requires knowing how to read the room, which isn't my strongest ability..

Are little gifts/tips acceptable? As I’m not exactly rolling in the dough, I send a little here and there when I can. But I feel like it doesn’t really mean much. Am I just delving too deep into my head?

Trying to organize a date with my second ever sex worker. This one emphasises on her ads a safe/clean service but when I contacted her she offered a menu that included bbfs for $150 more as long as I have a recent clear STD test.

Now I'm worried that this is a common thing that most women are offering their clients.