r/ClientsAndCompanions

I’m quite new to this side of things and while I enjoyed my first date some of the things I’ve seen posted here and in similar subreddits has made me question somethings.

I was quite realistic about my first date I think. I accepted that even if I asked for “honesty” when it came to my performance/their enjoyment the reality was that she would lie but lie plausibly which is an understandable part of the job. When I later apologised for not having cum yet (I actually stopped her from hand stuff and repositioned because I was concerned she would hurt her shoulder) and asked if it was annoying she said she didn’t care because she came twice.

This was funny but one of these occasions seemed a bit unlikely (just a couple minutes of foreplay/oral) while the other was more plausible (she asked if she could use a toy of hers mid-sex and then tried a couple until one was suitable).

Then a lot of the posts here seem irritated at the prospect of clients trying to please providers. If the nature of the job is that an orgasm is rare or even undesirable then so be it but I guess I feel a bit unclear on how much I should be trying to make them feel good. Is me trying to help them get off actually causing them more annoyance than if I were more selfish?

I don’t know whether this is something with a consensus or if it’s quite individual so I thought I’d ask. Thanks:)

Been feeling really down in the dumps lately. For the first time in 2 1/2 years since doing SW full-time, I decided to try having a civvie relationship. Oh & I fell hard. Met this guy through a shared hobby, and he told me that he was partnered & in an open relationship. Come to find out he was married with 4 kids and claimed he & his wife had a don’t ask don’t tell policy 🙄 Made a lot of fake future plans & promises he never kept. Just dragged me on for almost 6 months constantly canceling, and flaking on me last minute.

Love bombing was crazy and intense, fell for it like a sucker. Then once intimacy happened and things started getting real, learned that he is a true dismissive avoidant to the T. Will spare u all the details but got totally heartbroken and I’ve been feeling very salty about it obviously. (also was not a romantic at all no flowers no gifts no nice gestures NOTHING)

Was doing SW during our connection, but when I was with clients, I was always just thinking about him. I’ve been recovering for almost 2 months now since the whole ordeal.

I have this regular that lives on the East Coast and whenever they come into town, they always hit me up so I see them sporadically every couple of months. They are my absolute FAVORITE client. Like totally my type super hot, the sex is great, just everything with him feels sooo good. So he hit me up. He flew into town kinda late, brought me in his room already had room service. It was just so passionate and intense and hot. Literally just blew my mind. Before meeting him, I was feeling depressed, but once I was with him, literally just all the stress and bullshit of the past couple of months just melted away. I woke up this next morning just still feeling the high of the date. It just further justified the fact that I’m not a traditional girl & need to stop playing myself. My clients have always treated me better than my boyfriends. They do WAY more for me that’s for sure & no I’m just talking about $$ but have actually helped me reach and accomplish life goals. Really just want to vent, because I know I’m not the only one who goes through stuff like this.

Please be polite, no rude comments about larger bodies. I am not looking to be body shamed or told to change my appearance.

I have been a BBW in the industry for 12 years now and I have a unique, “dominant big titty goth gf” look. My marketing makes it incredibly clear that I am a BBW (and so do my pics!) but anytime I book a new client, I get incredibly anxious they will be let down, as is common for larger women (I feel the same when I go on dates in my personal life). I do have what I consider to be a high return rate, but I always wonder whether these clients are seeing me because of my body type, my marketing, or both.

So I am asking:

1. When you book a BBW provider, why are you doing it? Is it body type only? Marketing? A specific fantasy?

2. For clients who tend to book thinner providers but are open to seeing anyone, what would make you want to book a BBW?

3. When you are booking a BBW provider, do you expect a different kind of service/experience than if you’d see a thin provider? If so, what is the difference in expectation?

Thank you for your consideration! Much love from this bbw in Chicago

Saw an escort every few weeks for a while then all of a sudden she stopped responding and fired me since I know she still is active via ads and online presence.

I have tried reaching out but she does not want to see me. Honestly, only want to see her again because she was gorgeous but really I trusted her.

Any ideas on how to get her see me again? I have sent gifts on her wishlist site (all in over 1500) but no success.

Clients, why do you inquire with providers that require deposits if you are against deposits? This is a serious question.

I state that I require a deposit numerous times yet every now and then I’ll get an inquiry from a potential client that acts shocked and appalled when I bring up a deposit. I’m not sure if it’s selective literacy or just trying to push their luck or what. So yeah, I’m curious to know.

I’m meeting a provider for the first time in a few weeks. We already are scheduled for a longer (6hr) date but it’s a broadway show and dinner. I always tend to like longer dates to build connection and I give a lot of thought before booking anyone. So it’s always been good.

The date doesn’t start till 7pm so 6hr gets us to 1am. I’m a night owl and the provider said she is as well and is fine with a late ending.

However, the provider notes on her site that she loves overnights. And in a practical sense 1am is late and the overnight is only slightly more than the 6hr.

My concerns are that I’ve never done an overnight. So I don’t know what it would be like. I’ve never met this provider before but she’s friends with a provider I’ve seen several times who I get along great with and have enjoyed several 6 hour dates. But again it’s always a risk.

Should I float it out to her and see what she thinks? And let her say yes or no?

I’m seeing a GFE provider I’ve not met before for an extended date in a few weeks. We are going to a show and then dinner and then the rest.

May seem like a silly question but what are thoughts on holding hands, being cozy with each other in the theater? I’m not talking about making out or anything. Just like sitting close, holding hands, hands on a knee (not like sliding up a thigh). That type thing.

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Thoughts on asking her in advance via email? I always have concerns that asking this in earshot of others in public could make her feel uncomfortable since it may indicate the nature of our time together to others. Especially in a theater setting where we might be sitting near those same eavesdroppers for 2 hours.

Basically I have never done this before and I want to do this but is it possible to have a conversation with the provider for few day's get comfortable and then see them .obviously I don't want to waste their time but at the same time ,but bit understanding I guess. If it helps I'm insouth jersy Philly area

Please not judge me because I am just going to tell you what I’m in through and trying to describe what I’m looking for in a way that help makes sense to you because I wouldn’t even know what kind of provider to try to find or if this is even considered BDSM, which I have no experience in. I once dated this girl from Canada who is a model. We had a very passionate love life. I would say the best experience ever. She started getting extremely physical with me, pushing me into stuff spitting in my face and talking down to me and turned me on more than I’ve ever been turned on in my entire life. I have PTSD and had an extremely abusive childhood and all the women that were in my life my name anyway you can imagine I am not looking to be rough with a woman or anything like that. If I was trying to explain what would make me happy in my head, it would basically be a woman that completely degraded me spit on me or hit me he would break me down into nothing completely destroying my spirit maybe even be violent with me to the point that I wouldn’t know if I was in danger or not. I know that sounds weird, but the thought of it just thrills me but as the session continues, she will build me up. I was hoping some ladies have thought. I don’t even know what category this is fall into so I’m sorry.

Hello wonderful companions: how do you feel about traveling with clients? Is this something you want to do and/or would enjoy? Or is it too much of an ask?

For context, I have been considering asking a companion to join me on a short getaway (3 nights) to a place like the Bahamas or another resort location. Spend a few days relaxing by the pool, have some tasty drinks, eat some good food, and yes, enjoy each other’s company. All expenses paid of course, I would get her her own room and plan for some separate/alone time (i.e. send her to the spa for an afternoon while I hit the golf course).

So i’m betting the answer to my question of whether you’d want to do this with a client is “it depends”, but I am curious if these types of requests are seen as overwhelming? I have someone in mind but I’ve only seen her twice (she’s not local to me) and I’m worried it will seem pushy to ask. How many times would you want to see a client before feeling comfortable entertaining such a request? I appreciate your feedback and thoughts!

Just a heads up, like Texas they've made it a felony to solicit sex in Arizona.

I been in the industry many many years. I used to be independent but now I work out of Spas just cuz I feel safer. I never see any discussions that have spa girls in them. People claim spas traffic but I’ve worked spas for along time traveling and never met a girl that was trafficked 🤷🏻‍♀️. I’m sure it’s out there but I’ve never seen it. Idk is there any girls out here like me?

How would I go about finding a provider in my area i can pick up a girl at any down neighborhood but I would like to find a higher class woman

Is it bad to try to book a provider day for next week? Especially if I say Happy Fourth of July and it’s no rush to respond?

Where are your favorite places to get tested, with documentation that is clear for showing providers, while being discrete enough for a range of client situations? Specifically asking from the perspective of a client but obviously happy for anyone to provide info. I assume that most places do both genital and oral (because why wouldn't they) but if you have info to the contrary that would be useful.

This is partly a rant and partly a PSA for those of us who write reviews on theeroticreview (or used to, in my case).  I recently wrote a glowing review of one of the top providers on TER and justifiably gave her a 10 for Performance.  Anyone who reads the review or is familiar with her would completely understand my rating.  It also met all the requirements for a 10 (baseline 7 + DFK + BBBJ + second provider/bisexual), which I respect and have always followed in the past. 

When it was posted, the rating was reduced to a 9.  I reached out to ask why, and the response was that I didn't explicitly call out two of those services.  TER then reduced it even further to an 8, presumably out of spite.  It now looks ridiculous sitting there in her list of reviews, almost all of which are 10s.  I've asked several times for the ability to edit the review so I can explicitly call those things out and restore the correct rating—or simply delete it—to no response.  I didn't explicitly use the acronyms BBBJ or DFK (although I did describe her kissing), primarily because I thought them unnecessary when reviewing someone of her caliber, and also because I find them unartful.  I try to write reviews people find enjoyable to read, not just lists of acronyms. 

So the lesson here is that TER will change your ratings without any recourse, no matter how ridiculous the resulting score looks.  Think twice before writing a review, knowing it can be edited by someone with no knowledge of the encounter.  Question whether the ratings you see were actually given by the client.  And if you do write a review, make sure to spell things out so there's no doubt about what went down.  My reviewing days are over because of this, unfortunately.

P.S. I posted this exact post on the TER forums, and had several people respond that the same thing happened to them. After a day, TER unsurprisingly deleted the thread. Afraid of a little transparency, I guess.

I found a provider through Tryst and provided a deposit. Their Tryst profile is no longer up but their website still is. They don’t seem to have an online presence other than the site and a review on TER. They have a Twitter with one photo that hasn’t posted in months.

Their site mentions screening but since sending the initial email with deposit, they haven’t asked for screening. They just agreed to the initial outcall proposal I had. I didn’t confirm a time and a specific address so a couple days later, they asked for that info. The fact that they haven’t asked for screening is a bit suspicious to me. I understand going to a guy’s place maybe if you did a short call with him + deposit, but just a $100 gift card being all the provider needs makes me think something is off here. Providers also usually don’t follow up in my experience if the guy doesn’t respond to their emails.

Thoughts?