u/lovingly_lazy

I’m curious for the input of both clients and providers as to whether this is relatable to them.

I (27M) am feeling like I’m quite lucky because after only having seen one other (medium/high) provider previously I feel like I’ve met one who suits me and what it is that I enjoy extremely well.

I’m a little socially awkward at times and quite reserved which can then make the transition to sex quite spontaneous and maybe even jarring in a way. Once I’m settled it’s a lot easier but I definitely would rather err on the side of caution when it comes to any boundaries or lasciviousness to begin with.

This provider has a lovely sense of humour and is interesting company and I feel like I’ve only scratched the surface of what there is to talk about, she has a delightful accent and I enjoy hearing her talk about her interests as much as the sex, which is equally fantastic (without being too crude). I’m a bit of a hypocrite in this way because I can be quite reluctant to talk about myself but I’ve never felt pushed in that way either.

The experience (6 hours) was fantastic and she even brought up the prospect of seeing her with another provider in future, something she typically isn’t interested in I believe so I can hardly complain about that. She also texts after sessions, nothing massive or significant but it just adds to the kind of feeling of aftercare I guess, I don’t know if anyone relates to that.

At the same time I have also found that the worries I initially had before I started seeing any providers have not come true. I feel no extra attachment to her, no risk of falling for her or losing sight of what this is. She is a professional, working a job and I am a client. Without meaning any disrespect at all the best analogy I can think of is like finding your barber or your go-to restaurant. It’s a personal connection in a sense but one that has a firmly professional basis and which there can be no illusions about.

If I could review her on something I would, she’s terrific company, beautiful and great fun.

The downside is I still need to learn to use chopsticks because she humbled me with those

There’s a provider I’ve never seen in person but who I find extremely attractive and interesting. I’ve recently taken to sending them semi-anonymous gift cards from their wish list with compliments attached but not identifying myself. I don’t have any reason to stay anonymous other than for the fun of it, I’m 27, single and have no attachments

For some reason I just find it so interesting and quite fun to do. It’s honestly a little juvenile but something about just arbitrarily handing out gifts is very enjoyable.

Part of me worried she could find this creepy or strange but it doesn’t seem like it. Equally I don’t really mind if it’s not a big deal to her I just find it fun to do.

I wondered if this was something quite common for clients to do/providers to receive?

I’m quite new to this side of things and while I enjoyed my first date some of the things I’ve seen posted here and in similar subreddits has made me question somethings.

I was quite realistic about my first date I think. I accepted that even if I asked for “honesty” when it came to my performance/their enjoyment the reality was that she would lie but lie plausibly which is an understandable part of the job. When I later apologised for not having cum yet (I actually stopped her from hand stuff and repositioned because I was concerned she would hurt her shoulder) and asked if it was annoying she said she didn’t care because she came twice.

This was funny but one of these occasions seemed a bit unlikely (just a couple minutes of foreplay/oral) while the other was more plausible (she asked if she could use a toy of hers mid-sex and then tried a couple until one was suitable).

Then a lot of the posts here seem irritated at the prospect of clients trying to please providers. If the nature of the job is that an orgasm is rare or even undesirable then so be it but I guess I feel a bit unclear on how much I should be trying to make them feel good. Is me trying to help them get off actually causing them more annoyance than if I were more selfish?

I don’t know whether this is something with a consensus or if it’s quite individual so I thought I’d ask. Thanks:)

I’m quite new to this side of things and while I enjoyed my first date some of the things I’ve seen posted here and in similar subreddits has made me question somethings.

I was quite realistic about my first date I think. I accepted that even if I asked for “honesty” when it came to my performance/their enjoyment the reality was that she would lie but lie plausibly which is an understandable part of the job. When I later apologised for not having cum yet (I actually stopped her from hand stuff and repositioned because I was concerned she would hurt her shoulder) and asked if it was annoying she said she didn’t care because she came twice.

This was funny but one of these occasions seemed a bit unlikely (just a couple minutes of foreplay/oral) while the other was more plausible (she asked if she could use a toy of hers mid-sex and then tried a couple until one was suitable).

Then a lot of the posts here seem irritated at the prospect of clients trying to please providers. If the nature of the job is that an orgasm is rare or even undesirable then so be it but I guess I feel a bit unclear on how much I should be trying to make them feel good. Is me trying to help them get off actually causing them more annoyance than if I were more selfish?

I don’t know whether this is something with a consensus or if it’s quite individual so I thought I’d ask. Thanks:)

Until recently I’d never thought about partaking in anything like this ever for some time I’d had some quite negative opinions on the matter and stereotyped providers a certain way while thinking I had their best interests in mind or knew better, which I now understand to be very condescending and patronising with hindsight.

Recently after looking through stories on Reddit and other subreddits like this one I became fascinated with it and after looking at several websites decided that actually the work of an independent, self-assured companion was quite impressive and deeply fascinating. People who moonlight in this profession while working as anything from a cosmetologist to a psychotherapist or a nurse or teacher, all with their own experiences and nuances.

After having now had my first experience with an escort it’s also helped me realise not just my own likes and disliked but the incredibly honest and rather blunt nature of the experience helped me resolve some of my own anxieties and hang-ups.

The lady I saw was interesting, personable and very funny, given we’re in the midst of a heatwave and in a place where AC is very rare I’m glad I’ve contributed towards her getting it for herself.

I’m already arranging another date with a different provider and looking into two others. I just wanted to say that I’m sorry for my former opinions and painting all clients and providers with such a broad brush.