u/lovingly_lazy

I’m quite new to this side of things and while I enjoyed my first date some of the things I’ve seen posted here and in similar subreddits has made me question somethings.

I was quite realistic about my first date I think. I accepted that even if I asked for “honesty” when it came to my performance/their enjoyment the reality was that she would lie but lie plausibly which is an understandable part of the job. When I later apologised for not having cum yet (I actually stopped her from hand stuff and repositioned because I was concerned she would hurt her shoulder) and asked if it was annoying she said she didn’t care because she came twice.

This was funny but one of these occasions seemed a bit unlikely (just a couple minutes of foreplay/oral) while the other was more plausible (she asked if she could use a toy of hers mid-sex and then tried a couple until one was suitable).

Then a lot of the posts here seem irritated at the prospect of clients trying to please providers. If the nature of the job is that an orgasm is rare or even undesirable then so be it but I guess I feel a bit unclear on how much I should be trying to make them feel good. Is me trying to help them get off actually causing them more annoyance than if I were more selfish?

I don’t know whether this is something with a consensus or if it’s quite individual so I thought I’d ask. Thanks:)

I’m quite new to this side of things and while I enjoyed my first date some of the things I’ve seen posted here and in similar subreddits has made me question somethings.

I was quite realistic about my first date I think. I accepted that even if I asked for “honesty” when it came to my performance/their enjoyment the reality was that she would lie but lie plausibly which is an understandable part of the job. When I later apologised for not having cum yet (I actually stopped her from hand stuff and repositioned because I was concerned she would hurt her shoulder) and asked if it was annoying she said she didn’t care because she came twice.

This was funny but one of these occasions seemed a bit unlikely (just a couple minutes of foreplay/oral) while the other was more plausible (she asked if she could use a toy of hers mid-sex and then tried a couple until one was suitable).

Then a lot of the posts here seem irritated at the prospect of clients trying to please providers. If the nature of the job is that an orgasm is rare or even undesirable then so be it but I guess I feel a bit unclear on how much I should be trying to make them feel good. Is me trying to help them get off actually causing them more annoyance than if I were more selfish?

I don’t know whether this is something with a consensus or if it’s quite individual so I thought I’d ask. Thanks:)

Until recently I’d never thought about partaking in anything like this ever for some time I’d had some quite negative opinions on the matter and stereotyped providers a certain way while thinking I had their best interests in mind or knew better, which I now understand to be very condescending and patronising with hindsight.

Recently after looking through stories on Reddit and other subreddits like this one I became fascinated with it and after looking at several websites decided that actually the work of an independent, self-assured companion was quite impressive and deeply fascinating. People who moonlight in this profession while working as anything from a cosmetologist to a psychotherapist or a nurse or teacher, all with their own experiences and nuances.

After having now had my first experience with an escort it’s also helped me realise not just my own likes and disliked but the incredibly honest and rather blunt nature of the experience helped me resolve some of my own anxieties and hang-ups.

The lady I saw was interesting, personable and very funny, given we’re in the midst of a heatwave and in a place where AC is very rare I’m glad I’ve contributed towards her getting it for herself.

I’m already arranging another date with a different provider and looking into two others. I just wanted to say that I’m sorry for my former opinions and painting all clients and providers with such a broad brush.