u/KatetheHotwife

I'm still new to this, but after a few experiences both online and in person, I realized I tend to slip into "performance mode" whenever I am the one initiating a conversation or pursuing a guy. I have noticed that I tend to focus on making him feel good or validated, rather than tuning into my own pleasure. This is something I am trying to work on because I really do like pursuing sometimes 😜

Whereas when a guy pursues me, I find it much easier to relax and just focus on my own enjoyment.

Has anyone else experienced this, and which dynamic do you prefer?

Looking to purchase a larger toy (9in+ insertable length and 6in girth) for dual-use and oral technique practice 😂🙈. My main concern is safety and taste. I want to ensure whatever I buy has zero 🙅‍♀️ chemical smell or taste when in my mouth but also look realistic (e.g, no bad dragon). Any recommendations?

When looking for a Bull am I crazy for wanting to see a picture of their penis before meeting? 🙈 I want to be attracted to it and also verify it’s a certain size 😜

We looked on some sites and messaged a few guys I was attracted to. But they would mostly just respond with “I like to leave some things up to surprise” or “it’s bigger than you can imagine” but I want more specific details 😂

I am also nervous about meeting guys in person vs. online for that reason too. What if I don’t think it’s attractive or big enough?