u/KinkyDataScientist

Tone, eye contact, confidence, and physical presence go a long way toward exerting dominance and eliciting submission. An encounter I had with my sub/wife today where I dominated her with a single word, shows how true that is.

We took some time off work, so we’ve been home during the day. We are planning to play tonight, but this afternoon I wanted her so bad that I couldn’t wait. So I waited until I knew she wasn’t busy, then decided to exercise my free use blowjob privileges.

I took a shower, then still naked, I approached her. She was sitting at her desk, scrolling on Reddit. I wordlessly beckoned for her to stand. She did, and I kissed her, then pulled her into a tight hug and squeezed her ass. She knew what I wanted, and said in a mock-exasperated tone, “wait until later!”

I tipped her chin up with my hand, looked her in the eyes, and said a single word in my Dom voice: “no”. Then I silently put a pillow on the floor and handed over her blowjob glasses (a special pair I make her wear for that purpose). I didn’t need to say anything else, she understood the assignment. She immediately said “ok Daddy”, then put on the glasses, kneeled on the pillow, and lovingly sucked my cock.

I usually talk dirty to her and give her feedback during blowjobs, but this time I said nothing and just moaned when it felt good, and she dutifully adjusted her technique accordingly. The next words I said to her were “good girl” after she finished.

It was hot watching her obey my unspoken orders without question. A single word, delivered the right way, had been enough to exert my dominance and make her submit.

And was it a partner for casual/pickup play, a dynamic, or a romantic relationship?

My sub/wife and I have a 2 year age difference (38M/36F). I had one previous casual partner where I could describe our sex as kinky, and that was also a 2 year age difference.

What’s the largest age difference you’ve had?

Last night, I told my sub/wife that we were going to dinner at an upscale French “restaurant for sluts” called Chez Panisse Penis, where I’m also the chef. I dressed her up slutty, inspected her outfit and body, sat her blindfolded at our kitchen counter, and teased her with a remote vibe and mild impact while I made ratatouille for dinner. Then I brought her to our bed and we finished with anal. It was an intense and hot scene.

This scene has been a long time coming. We tried doing it twice before, but got disrupted each time by factors outside our control, related to a close relative’s health condition. We’re glad that the third time was the charm, because we both needed the intensity and release from a proper kink night. Kink helps us stay emotionally regulated, express our love for each other, and feel connected as couple. So I’m especially glad this scene went well.

(Details and recipes in the comments)

Today my sub/wife and I took the day off work and went out for lunch on a “day date”. As she was in the bathroom getting ready, I surreptitiously laid out a few things on our bed: her buttslut panties, blowjob glasses, and Flexer remote vibe. I also set up a pillow and mirror in front of the storage bench at the end of our bed, then joined her in the shower. I helped her shave her legs and rinsed the shampoo out of her hair.

As she was getting out, I dropped into my Dom voice and told her: “strawberry, go put on the items you find on our bed. When I get out of the shower, I want to see you wearing them, on your knees and ready to suck Daddy’s cock.” Apparently I’m getting predictable, because she was expecting me to do something like this. She giggled, then said “yes Daddy” and obeyed. She even sassed me a little by saying “hurry up and finish your shower, I need your cum.”

I sat down on the bench and she kneeled on the pillow and took me into her mouth. It was a hot view: I could see “buttslut” written on her perfect ass wiggling in the mirror, and she made intense eye contact with me over her glasses as she lovingly served her Dom. Each time I adjusted the settings on the remote vibe, she moaned on my cock in response. After a few minutes, she made me cum in her mouth, then looked me in the eyes, swallowed, and said “I love being your cumslut, Daddy”. Hot hot hot.

We finished getting ready. I let her take the remote vibe out, but made her keep on the glasses and panties, while I wore my orgasm donor boxers. At lunch, I teased her by whispering dirty things in her ear: telling her she’s a good little cumslut, asking what it said on her ass, saying Daddy would spoil her when we got home, etc. We had a fun time.

On the drive home, I ordered her to play with my pussy using the wand vibe I had stashed in the glove box. When we got home, I took her to bed and used my fingers, tongue, and toys to make her cum several times, but purposely didn’t let her have my cock.

She complained, but I told her she’s only going to get that later tonight, when we go to the “restaurant for sluts” for dinner…

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Hi everybody! I’m KDS, and I’m excited to be the newest mod for r/SoftPleasureDomSub! I figured I should do an AMA to introduce myself to the community.

A little about me to start: I’m a 38M Indian American pleasure Dom from New England, married to my 36F good girl sub. We’ve been in our dynamic for 4 years, and I collared her last year on our 12 year dating anniversary. I’m also a mod on r/SofterBDSM.

True to my username, I am indeed a data scientist in my day job. My sub and I are parents, and we have two dogs. Other than kink, my hobbies include cooking, hiking, craft beer, hockey, Starcraft, and chess.

Ask me anything!