u/LifeV2026

Note: I am not here to looking for a guy so please.

My wife and I had an arrangement with one of our employee for several years. It started unexpectedly after we became close outside of work and realized there was mutual interest. We discussed boundaries carefully, kept everything consensual, and made sure the personal dynamic never affected his job, salary, our privacy and or treatment at work.

Over time, he became someone we trusted completely. He understood our relationship, respected every boundary, and never caused tried to interfere with our marriage. The arrangement worked so naturally that we never had to think about how difficult it might be to replace that level of trust.

He recently accepted a job in Saudi Arabia and moved away. We are still on good terms, but that part of our lives has obviously ended. My wife and I have talked about eventually meeting someone new, but starting again with a stranger feels risky. It's been more than year, we discuss but never tried seriously or found anyone.

For couples who have successfully found a long-term bull, how did you meet him? Did you use apps, websites, or someone already in your social circle?

More importantly, how did you judge whether someone was trustworthy and emotionally stable? Were there particular questions you asked or warning signs you looked for before meeting privately?

Interested to hear how other couples approached the screening process and how long it took before they felt comfortable trusting someone.

I’ve been using chastity for more than a decade, and I’m now considering getting a Prince Albert piercing. Does anyone have experience with cages that are designed to work with a PA?

I’m not looking for advice on removing the cage or bypassing the lock. My wife is my keyholder, and that’s already well established. I’m mainly interested in hearing about comfortable, secure cages that are compatible with a PA, as well as any long-term experiences or recommendations.

39M Married, I’ve been a cuckold and practicing chastity since 2014, and I’ve been completely pussy free since 2019. For the most part, I’ve felt comfortable with that dynamic, but recently I’ve started noticing sexual urges again.

I’m wondering if this is just a normal fluctuation, or if it could mean that my psychology or relationship dynamic is changing over time. Has anyone else who has been in a long-term chastity or cuckold dynamic experienced something similar? If so, how did you interpret or handle those feelings?

I’ve been in a submissive chastity dynamic with my wife as my keyholder. My goal is to stay orgasm-free and locked in a chastity cage full-time for one year. I’ve made it to 8 months so far, but lately it’s been getting much harder mentally.

I really don’t want to break my streak because I’d have to start all over again.

For those of you who have managed longer streaks (a year or more), how did you deal with the difficult periods? Did you find that the urges eventually settled down, or did you develop routines or a mindset that helped you stay committed?

I’d really appreciate hearing your experiences and any advice.

I'm a 34M, and lately I've been having a lot of cuckold feelings. I don't want to adopt that lifestyle or act on these feelings, but they're becoming more frequent, stronger and bothering me.

Has anyone dealt with something similar? What helped you reduce or manage these feelings? I'd appreciate any genuine advice.

Hi everyone,

I'm a 34-year-old married man. Lately, I've been having strong cuckold fantasies that I can't seem to control. The confusing part is that I don't actually want to live that lifestyle or involve my wife in it.

These thoughts are becoming more frequent and strong. Has anyone dealt with something similar? How did you reduce or manage these unwanted fantasies?

I've been using an anal plug regularly for a little over 2 years. Occasionally, I also wear it for longer periods of time.

Lately, I've noticed that I seem to have less control over holding in gas than I used to. I don't have issues with bowel movements, but it feels like it's harder to control passing gas, and I'm wondering if it's related or just a coincidence.

Has anyone else experienced something similar after long-term or extended plug use? Did it improve if you took a break, or did you find out it was caused by something else?

I'm looking to hear about other people's experiences rather than get a diagnosis, but if this is something that could indicate a problem, I'd appreciate knowing that too.