u/MajesticCumSlut

Often times this community feels like a wasteland.

Domme’s angry at a lack of subs, subs angry about being used as ATMs, Gremlin throwing shade at everyone, and some sub who has me blocked for no reason (honestly what did I do?)

But there is success to be found amongst the burned out cars and deserted buildings

I found one here that truly gave me a magical experience. A REAL Domme, not a Tik Tok or half assed “send pig” Domme.

One that made me grow as a sub, one that made every penny of sending feel good, one that provides an actual D/s experience

So don’t fret, the good one’s do exist here, and when you find one, protect her. Because they have feelings too.

Keep searching my sub friends, it’s worth it in the end.

I thought it might be fun (these are not fun) to list what I consider to be the worst punishments ever inflicted on me in service of an online Domme.

Kneeling on Rice - the absolute worst. It’s doable for about 3-4 mins before becoming miserable. 10-20 mins is agony

Writing 75-100 lines where capitalization changes along the way. “Write 90 lines about your devotion to me, but every 3rd letter must be capitalized”. Ugh, kill me. This can end up being an hour +

Wall sits. Wall sits are ok for 1-2 mins, but once you breach 3-4 mins, with knees at a right angle, it’s ridiculously awful.

Wearing a punishment cage. This one is pretty niche to me, but I have a spiky chastity cage and being forced into it is like having someone constantly shove needles into my..

Naked, kneeling, nose to the wall in a corner, holding a piece of paper against the wall, hands behind your back, with what you did wrong on the paper. This is a psychological + physical combo that really works. All you’re thinking about while you’re in the corner is 1) not letting the paper drop and 2) what’s on the paper and how you messed up. The naked aspect also makes you feel really vulnerable as a sub.

Bonus punishment that sucks: moving beans.

Have the sub buy a bag of beans, pile them on the floor. Have them film a video of moving them one at a time to a new pile all while saying something like “I will follow my Dommes instructions” or “I will not disappoint my Domme again” on each bean.

Just tedious misery.

“Have you ever pegged someone?”

That alone tells me everything 🌸

Edit:

This is tongue in cheek. Good lord serious Dommes chill…

“I want a long term sub”
“I want a human ATM”
“Where are all the real subs”

Things that are said by Dommes 24/7 in this space and others.

I am a real sub, I always have been, so come into my brain for a moment as I navigate what it means to be one online and then maybe step back and say “yea I get it now”

First I have to navigate endless fake Dommes. Women who really just want men to send them money and in return they’ll act bratty towards them. I also have to navigate what are essentially sugar babies with attitudes. But I wade through profiles, I chat, I hunt, and sometimes lurk, but I finally find one I mesh with.

We agree to start a dynamic after I AV, send initial tribute, and outline what the dynamic looks like.

How do I feel everyday when I wake up? How much of my life do I give to my submission? What is my mental health like? Is work ok? Are my real life friendships ok? Is my Domme ok? How is her mental health? Is she enjoying my presence ?

Am I sending enough? Did I send too much and now my credit card looks irresponsible? How does that weigh on me?

She let me orgasm, now I have horrible PNC and my credit card is staring at me. Do I ghost / delete?

Did I say or do something wrong that the Domme now distrusts me? How do I navigate Reddit now that Im owned, do I just shut off my DMs and never respond to the community?

Wait, did I actually pick the right Domme? If I didnt do I just keep going or do I pull back and possibly end the dynamic and hurt someone’s feelings? These are relationships after all. Maybe she is the right one but I can’t see it because Im confused about my own needs and kinks.

Am I spending too much time on kink and not my real life? If yes, am I ruining my real life / work?

Am I worried about my anonymity? Will she use that as a weapon against me? How much of my body do I want to share in a video? How much of my voice? Do I tell her where I work and where I live?

What if I hurt her feelings and now I feel awful about myself? Do I spend a few days pondering whether Im a bad person and Im not mature enough to do this online? How does that affect my mental health? My actions hurt someone’s feelings, thats a real problem isnt it? She’s a person and she deserves my best and I didn’t give it to her, how do I recover from that?

If we end our dynamic, are we still friends? What does that look like going forward? I’d hate to think someone dislikes me in the World because our dynamic ended.

Dommes: It’s not just “send money, receive kink, rinse and repeat”.

This is fucking hard when human emotions and life are involved so stop pretending there’s this endless river of drones willing to send to you without ALL of that happening.

You know what one question goes through my mind nonstop in online D/s? “Am I a good person?”

1. Dommes who want a whale don’t understand what a whale looks like. They are quiet, seeking someone who understands them, who treats them like a real submissive, and send their gifts without being prompted. Whales aren’t about a 4 figure send, whales are about constant $200 sends you never ask for.

2. All dynamics end. If you can still talk to the Domme/sub afterwards with no malice, and even some friendship, that’s incredible and should be celebrated.

3. Very few subs get off from sending money.

4. A lot of people use this space to look for romantic partners in the guise of D/s. There was never really any intention to engage in power exchange. That’s very risky for mental health.

5. Playing with people under age 25 (probably 30) is a risk. I’m not saying they can’t be mature, but it’s harder to find. Also people >age 30 probably have money they can spend.

6. Chastity should be used on all men. It keeps them focused on serving and not constantly chasing an orgasm. Plus a key around a neck is so hot.

7. You should be able to talk to a Domme or Sub for at least 10 minutes before asking for a tribute. Can we not just get to know each other briefly? If there’s any kink talk, ask for AV and tribute immediately.

8. If a dynamic isn’t working that’s not some tragedy. Just agree to move on and be adults about it. It’s ok, lots of things don’t mesh in life.

9. Finding the right Domme is an otherworldly experience for a sub. I can’t tell you what it feels like to be told “you’re mine”. But Dommes should make their sub earn a collar, it should not be given right away.

10. Dommes should hunt, its alpha behavior

The last 3 Dommes I’ve been owned by all hunted me. Some causally with fun conversations, others more directly. They’ve all been spoiled by me.

Honestly what’s more alpha behavior than hunting? Subs are passive by nature, if you’re waiting to attract them to your World just know 1,000 dommes are also.

Of course there are some Dommes who are so well established they don’t need to, but if you’re looking for subs the most Dominant thing you can do is capture them.

“Hey I’d love to ask you a few questions about being a sub” is hunting and has worked on me.

If they’re owned or not available they’ll tell you.

There is a huge segment of men who are into Chastity and not even close to enough Dommes to satisfy that need. The market is imbalanced to subs.

Center your brand around key holding. All your marketing goes into it and you troll chastity subreddits for clients. Design a weekly program for teasing and tasks.

Offer different tiers to attract subs with differing budgets.

$25 a week is keyholding with limited interaction
$50 a week is a few check-ins
$100 a week is daily
$200 a week is daily plus tasks plus teasing

You’ll likely get a ton of subs who want free keyholding. Ignore them.

People in chastity get very needy, use this against them. “You want to cum? $75 right now”

It’s definitely going to be a work heavy Findom but the potential is large.

You can even dabble in Fetish Want Ads to see if you like this. There’s always people asking for key holders.

Anyway, that’s your free submissive consultation for the day.

Bonus: an example of someone crushing in this space.

https://www.reddit.com/u/Oh\_MyGoddess/s/BUD9C5GD72