u/NSFW_Enjoyer_101

In my personal experience I have noticed when a scene is over and post nut clarity hits, I immediately get a lot more apathetic especially if it's a newer relationship and there isn't that much of an emotional intimacy yet.

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Like I would make sure she is 100% satisfied and done before I cum because ik I wont feel like doing anything even slightly sexual for a bit after, no this isnt an aftercare question, that would obviously be provided, I just asking how you feel immediately after it ends, and what emotions are you usually feeling?

I was reflecting on my previous dynamic and had realised that while there was a lot of bratting normally, for tasks, punishments, requests, etc.

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Never, not even once was there any bratting during active sessions, maybe it's because I'm in my dom space during that time, and with a history of tpe, any tries were squashed immediately and mercilessly. Maybe because she was already exactly where she wanted to be, or maybe her mind was too distracted and stimulated to try and be a smart mouth lol.

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So I ask the brat council, do you guys actively brat during play? If so how, why and what are your best works?

I love this community, I genuinely do and I love browsing it. Seeing the comments and the shenanigans genuinely puts a smile on my face.

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But its also deeply tied to her as she was my only brat, soo all the posts bring me back to my time with her, any experience I wanna post is shared with her, and it makes me incredibly sad.

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So I'm constantly dancing on this scale of enjoying the kink because I genuinely enjoy it and being devastated because it reminds me of her.

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How do I go about enjoying the kink once again while not actively being in a dynamic, it almost seems impossible.

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Yes ik time will heal it, and I should probably spend some time apart but I just cant bring myself to, I keep coming back like a moth to the flame.

I remember we were talking she had already said she liked me a few days ago, but I wasn't ready to give an answer.

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I said to her how every time my phone rang I got excited thinking it was a text from her and got disappointed if it was anything else but her, and I remember her exact words:

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"You are falling for me Daddy."

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I probably had an inking already, but having it put in writing shook my world view, and a week later I had returned her feeling.

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With the emotional depth, the emotional maturity and emotions surrender required for these types of relationships, you long for the flame, the warmth a lot harder, but it's just as easy to end up burnt.

Been through a failed dynamic, and not ready to be emotionally available rn, but really missing the dynamic. Experienced Dom, check my profile, message me if interested, play only for now.

So my last dynamic was the first time I had explored the Brat Dynamic, here's what I had learned about it. This is just personal experience so it might be incomplete. Like did you know, 96% brats are just waiting for the push that makes their mouth twitch, uncertain whether to smirk or frown once you “made them”.

Source: I made it up for dramatic effect.

Why brat?

So first of all why would they wanna brat, what do they derive from it, apart from chaos and a renewed will to live. The Unspoken!! Sometimes words are hard, and making you think they deserve a spanking is easier than saying they want a spanking. Not to mention teasing is fun, can you imagine, they love teasing you just as much as you love teasing them. Seeing you lose the edge on your emotions, let the perfect and composed mask slip just a little, oh the intoxication. The contrast in real life and the dynamic can be fun, they can be tired from having to have adult conversations and behaving like a responsible person all the time, everyone wants to let loose sometimes, the chance to act like a brat and have fun and tense back and forths can be addictive.

There are many more reasons, the healthy conflict, the genuine struggle to follow selfcare if you dabble in the lifestyle dom dynamic, the feeling of want, that someone would deal with all that to be with them… to literally fight them to be together.

How to Tame?

You can't tame them, give up. The best you can manage is to exhaust them, maybe for a few days, weeks or years depending on how well you can control the leash, and how long it takes them to recover after you rudely put them in their place.

It comes in small increments, you cannot try to change deep rooted habits, even if they are bad for them. Start small, be consistent, be stern but fair. No one likes to be punished without a reason. If you are delaying the punishment for a later date, or accumulating it, write down the reason for it, after the deed is done, make her repeat why she was punished, make sure she knows the misdeeds.

The time must match the crime, didn't finish your water or the self-care task? Oh you done fucked up brat. That calls for punishment, I can't tell you what will work for you, I'm not here to teach you about consent, talking, limits and boundaries. But something like writing lines, time in the corner, getting their chores done, sending them on ANOTHER self care quest. Essentially something they have to do, but hate to do, make them do that as a punishment, it's a win win.

Funishement. Came when they weren't supposed to? Touched themselves without your permission? Now these you can have fun with, making them cum a certain number of times, or not letting them cum at all, leaving them overstimulated, giving them the paddle they have been craving, “making" them service you.

Something that makes them say " I can't believe you have done this, I'm disgusting and aroused, hmph.”

I will end my rambling here for now.

No matter how well your Dom seems to read you, or how well you think you understand your Subs. They won't know your exact needs or what's going on in your mind if you don't communicate.

The silence might feel comfortable, but speaking freely will just make your connection stronger. So have another check in, tell whatevers been on your mind.

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It's been 3 days since my princess ghosted me, although calling her that doesn't sound quite right anymore, curious how something can go from an after thought to a stubble in your throat, in a matter of days.

I was one of the lucky ones, because I found out the reason I was ghosted and could thus, receive a kind of closure, knowing that the whole relationship was built or at least began on a mantle of lies.

The people who had seen my posts here might remember how crazy I was for her, she elevated my love for the kink, although she wasn't interested in the social side of it herself, interacting with other fellow kinksters, reading, observing, learning, growing. Without her the act of which almost feels painful, every post, every anecdote reminding me of my time with her.

I had come here to update my fair, to remove the "(taken)", not because I was ready to look again, but just because I didn't have anyone to claim me anymore. Someone I could call mine.

And it just made me shiver, because everything had seemed so perfect, that I hadn't thought I would have ever needed to remove it from my flair, I reminded me of a few I had talked to who had lost their partner and the sadness I had felt for them, and how I never had imagined I would find myself on its receiving end.

I guess sometimes the game of pleasure and pain can leave a nasty sting.

Ps, May if you ever read this, I know I should be filled with rage and grief at you, idk how long the hollowness will follow me around, but I still hope you do well in your future endeavours, and if you ever look back at our time together it leaves you with a smile.

The reason she had ghosted me, or the reason I had stopped looking or caring for her reason, was that she was already in a year long relationship before talking to me.

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It's been 3 days since my princess ghosted me, although calling her that doesn't sound quite right anymore, curious how something can go from an after thought to a stubble in your throat, in a matter of days.

I was one of the lucky ones, because I found out the reason I was ghosted and could thus, receive a kind of closure, knowing that the whole relationship was built or at least began on a mantle of lies.

The people who had seen my posts here might remember how crazy I was for her, she elevated my love for the kink, although she wasn't interested in the social side of it herself, interacting with other fellow kinksters, reading, observing, learning, growing. Without her the act of which almost feels painful, every post, every anecdote reminding me of my time with her.

I had come here to update my fair, to remove the "(taken)", not because I was ready to look again, but just because I didn't have anyone to claim me anymore. Someone I could call mine.

And it just made me shiver, because everything had seemed so perfect, that I hadn't thought I would have ever needed to remove it from my flair, I reminded me of a few I had talked to who had lost their partner and the sadness I had felt for them, and how I never had imagined I would find myself on its receiving end.

I guess sometimes the game of pleasure and pain can leave a nasty sting.

Ps, May if you ever read this, I know I should be filled with rage and grief at you, idk how long the hollowness will follow me around, but I still hope you do well in your future endeavours, and if you ever look back at our time together it leaves you with a smile.

The reason she had ghosted me, or the reason I had stopped looking or caring for her reason, was that she was already in a year long relationship before talking to me.

It's been 3 days since my princess ghosted me, although calling her that doesn't sound quite right anymore, curious how something can go from an after thought to a stubble in your throat, in a matter of days.

I was one of the lucky ones, because I found out the reason I was ghosted and could thus, receive a kind of closure, knowing that the whole relationship was built or at least began on a mantle of lies.

The people who had seen my posts here might remember how crazy I was for her, she elevated my love for the kink, although she wasn't interested in the social side of it herself, interacting with other fellow kinksters, reading, observing, learning, growing. Without her the act of which almost feels painful, every post, every anecdote reminding me of my time with her.

I had come here to update my fair, to remove the "(taken)", not because I was ready to look again, but just because I didn't have anyone to claim me anymore. Someone I could call mine.

And it just made me shiver, because everything had seemed so perfect, that I hadn't thought I would have ever needed to remove it from my flair, I reminded me of a few I had talked to who had lost their partner and the sadness I had felt for them, and how I never had imagined I would find myself on its receiving end.

I guess sometimes the game of pleasure and pain can leave a nasty sting.

Ps, May if you ever read this, I know I should be filled with rage and grief at you, idk how long the hollowness will follow me around, but I still hope you do well in your future endeavours, and if you ever look back at our time together it leaves you with a smile.

The reason she had ghosted me, or the reason I had stopped looking or caring for her reason, was that she was already in a year long relationship before talking to me.

Exactly as the Title says, if there was an exam to get a Dom License, and you had to submit a question what would it be?

It can be anything a case scenario, a subjective question, a theoretical question, an Mcq question.

(And your answer to it.)