u/No_Resort_4594

I’ve been free use for my husband for the past six months or so. I’m currently pregnant with our third baby. My hormones are outrageous and I need him all the time. I try to initiate but always get denied. Our free use is mainly kept to the bedroom but I am able to walk around the house in a t shirt and undies since our kids are still little. When in the bedroom for the night I’m often naked or wearing laced underwear. What else can I do to essentially throw myself at him and let him know that I’m available.

My husband and I have been together for eight years and married almost four years. We have a 3.5 yoa, a 2 yoa and one on the way. He’s a good dad to our kids but can be completely useless. He claims to not know how to cook. Like I’m talking can’t make a box of Mac and cheese, a quesadilla or a grilled cheese. The extent of his cooking abilities is a peanut butter and jelly sandwich. When I leave the house once a week for work i have to make sure all meals are ready for the kids to be thrown in the microwave. His helplessness extends past this as well and into most everything else. A few months ago he needed help setting up a doctor appointment with a new GP and then needed me to call and get prior authorization for said Dr. office. When it comes to household duties i do the cooking and cleaning. Im okay with this most days since he is the only one working full time and providing for the family. When I ask for help he says that love shouldn’t be measured or based on the amount of chores that someone does. He says that because I tell him it feels like he doesn’t love or respect me enough to unload the dishwasher once in a blue moon. I don’t want to (and I don’t) withhold sex from him but damn does his lack of help and self help skills really turn me off at times. Like why would I want to have sex with someone that has the same survival skills as my 3.5 yoa? At least they help me with household chores!

Has anyone else had this roadblock and how did you overcome it?

Am I being petty and just need to get over it since it doesn’t really affect our sex life?

I’m a free use wife to my husband, but not like how porn portrays it. I’m an eager and active participant. We’ve been doing this for about six months now. I’m also two months pregnant with our third baby. Has definitely helped me get out of my comfort zone. AMA!

I posted here awhile back about becoming free use for my husband and his aversion to some cuffs I got. Well we haven’t used the cuffs and I neglected to bring the topic back up but he has made me do quite a few things that were off limits before. Please remember becoming free use was my choice and was never brought up by him prior. Well found out today I’m pregnant 🙈 after the initial shock set in we were talking in bed later. He was saying how excited he was to see me pregnant again (I think he has a pregnancy kink based on comments from my past pregnancies). But then he went on to say that he wants to keep getting me pregnant after this one. So now I’m wondering if he also has a breeding kink 😅 looks like going free use for him did help him explore some desires.

Here’s where I need some advice, in my last pregnancy sex got painful so we ultimately didn’t do it much. I plan to keep being free use to him until the end of time. Anyone have position suggestions or alternative sex option suggestions that worked for them while pregnant?