Being called “selfish” and “entitled” for being a side
Side note: I (26M) just find it funny and want to share. This is not normal to me. I’ve been blessed that most people I met on Grindr are fucking nice to me.
I was in Chicago for Lolla and this guy (48?) hit me up on Grindr. He’s a good looking guy. We were chatting about what we’re into. My profile always mentioned that I’m a side and I’d always make sure to point it out again before we talk further. (I ALWAYS DO THIS) Due to our age difference, I fell into the sub role when we were role playing. (I’m a switch btw between dom/sub)
Told him I have this fantasy about being a servant to a dom. (I’m masc, workout, dominant personality in real life) so the contrast turns me on so bad.
Out of no where, He was saying something along the line of that’s hot that he would love to put me in a “jock” and “slide it in” whenever he wants. I was like “slide in” as in penetration(?) and reminded him that I’m not into anal nor penetration. I told him that it hurts me and I don’t enjoy it. Then he was like what if he told me that dick is off the limit? I said then we just don’t match and it’s really that simple.
He then went off about how I’m selfish and only care about what I want blah blah blah then I just blocked him.
Bro is 48 and doesn’t have a concept of boundary or limits or no is no. I could care less about that type of hookup.
But I was just thinking like how common does this happen to our community? Most of the time if it’s a deal breaker for people, they would just politely declined and I’d be totally cool with that and just go on our day.