u/Odd_Demand_2363

Greetings,

After quite a few attempt I have to accept that the dichotomy of the blackmail kink causes me troubles in finding victims partners. For other kinks I usually go for 10~15 minutes of talk with people, double checking their kinks, limits and then moving into more fun activities.

But considering the risk associated with this one, I often want to go more in depth and end up talking more about safety for 30 min than anything. But not doing it feels unfair and dangerous to the people I play with. This result in quite often both parties getting bored and the excitement dying down.

I believe this is all very important to do properly, but I struggle to find a balance between making my future victim comfortable enough and keeping her excited.

To those of you that have had success with this kink, how do you usually handle the onboarding?

I was playing with a sub of mine long distance (like, continental difference, it's 6AM for her) and they suddenly disappeared. I am worried that the toy didn't stop since I was doing a little bit of neglect play (litteraly 5 minutes) and the connection is now off. I'm afraid she passed out and that I can't stop the toy if it hasn't stopped itself.

Greetings ^^

Well, I say soft, but it's mostly a matter of comparison. I have my mean streaks, but ultimately I do it for the fun and I get most of my pleasure from control and trust, so I want to establish something along those line. Figure out what you're comfortable with and how much I can push you around...

If you want an idea of my kinks, I enjoy ENF, exhibitionism, exposure, oral of all sorts and edging. I truly enjoy making my toys desperate and needy. Nothing better than a toy that can no longer think of anything else but obtain release...

Ultimately, I'd be happy to negotiate properly your blackmail fantasy and what you want, I can be rougher, I can be easier, I just want communication to be clear before we start, so I know what the limits are and see how much I can push and tease you for both of our enjoyment.

If you want to know more, I should have the longer version of my kinklist available on my profile and regardless, I wish you a wonderful rest of your day <3