u/OkNarwhal715

I’m PIV free for 10 months. My wife and I have been together for 5 years. PIV does very little for her and she doesn’t really enjoy it. If I ask her how see feels about PIV she will say it is for conceiving a baby and thats all. Her sex drive is high but she wants oral or vibrators. Meanwhile I would sometimes struggle with erections or stamina. Being PIV free has been great for me since I dont have any worries/pressure anymore and great for her because she simply doesn’t want it. On top of it she has me in chastity which also played a big role in eliminating PIV. Despite no PIV and chastity we are still very active and intimate in bed.

After reading a similar post I thought to share my current situation and chastity dynamic. I have been doing chastity play for 7 years now. My wife 30F and I 33M are family planning and it may lead to a bigger chastity commitment for me. Currently I’m let out for a release once a month and we’ve mostly stuck to that for a couple years now. At times she has floated the idea of extending the interval but it hasn’t really happened yet but it’s what she’s wanting because she wants me to stay motivated to please her and doesn’t like my reduced motivation that happens for a few days after release. She mostly just releases me to give me some relief. Further, last month she said “you know this doesn’t really benefit me” when letting me out. She doesn’t enjoy PIV and wants oral only. I haven’t been inside her in almost a year. But anyways, now that we are thinking about starting a family she is getting new ideas and she’s plotting to keep me locked much longer. 

Basically she will release me once a month as usual for the sole purpose of breeding. I mentioned about how the internet says to ejaculate beforehand to get fresh sperm but she said “hard no” to letting me do that. We will just try once a month when she’s fertile. The big challenge will be getting me hard enough to penetrate without releasing first. I suggested we could try getting a pump to assist with the erection and she likes that idea. Normally when I'm let out its for a handjob which lasts 15-20 seconds and I explode often only while partially erect. She never gives oral and PIV is only back in play because of the baby.

But once she’s pregnant everything changes. In our conversation she went on about all the symptoms she may have to go through plus all the sacrifices she will have to make to carry the baby. So she said “I want you to carry your own baby along with me”. My baby being my sperm. I’m not surprised by the statement at all though. She has said that I get monthly releases because she wants me to be on a monthly cycle just like her.

Anyways, wife wants me locked for the duration of the pregnancy as an act of solidarity and she wants me to be as attentive as possible to her. This will probably extend to her recovery after delivery as well. Of course I couldn’t say no to her. She decides everything in the bedroom but I did voice concerns that this would be a big step and I was worried I would struggle. At first she wasn’t happy saying that I will have it easy compared to what she will go through but afterward she was more understanding realizing that it was indeed a big change. Her reassurance to me was that I’ll be just fine since I will have a wet dream if it’s truly needed. I can get them but they’re rare and she doesnt like it. She wont unlock me for another month if one happens but now suddenly she’s good with it haha.

Meanwhile I was due to be released 3 days ago and she still hasn’t done it. This has only happened before when we are extremely busy, traveling, or something along those lines where it gets delayed a day or two. In this case there’s no reason like that. This morning I asked about it wondering if she had just forgotten what time of the month it was and she just said she will let me out soon whenever she decides so she’s doing this on purpose. I didnt press any further as I always trust she knows what’s best but now I’m thinking she’s going to keep me locked until she’s in her next fertile window.

Whats yet to be seen is how will it be after the pregnancy. Maybe she keeps me locked until she’s ready for the next baby.