u/PNW_PlayerOne

I have had this before, and since it left my life I have tried to fill the hole it left. She was a very close friend. Desirable. Sensually she and I would have been a fun match. We absolutely opened the door to things happening, set up scenarios where we could have, but always pulled back and behaved.

I think we both wanted a little more of the other person going for it, inviting it, or some other green light. Or, we actually cared about each other, and didn't want to nuke a relationship over desire.

Of course this fed into and probably caused my kink for married women. Wanting to join a couple as their third or let hubby watch. Maybe even just explore as couples...

It would be easier if I could let go of the tempting friend fantasy, or at least have it be more of an act than a complication to life.

The opportunity arises to actually...what? Game night turns into partner swapping? That new friend hubby has is actually a hopeful third for you two?

Mine would be to join a couple. Maybe not even full on sex, but even a nsfw-ish dynamic would be fun. I have had opportunities before, but didn't because of timing or other reasons. Kinda haunts me.

Joining a couple or a friends wife has always been my biggest one. I could see swapping a bit too.

I don't mean like being horny or feeling like you could go for a quick romp. Not something satisfied by porn or a quick jerk.

More like something requiring some effort. A long term fantasy you sometimes indulge but don't follow through with. I'm not sure if that makes sense, but Im coming up short on what it is.

I had a very close and long term friendship with a friends wife. The door to the above fantasy was for sure open, but never lined up in a way that allowed for us to go for it. Either out of respect for the others situation, not wanting to negatively affect one another, or just bad timing.

I thought about it so often. Still do. Its hard not to think about it meeting new people. Making new friends. Wondering if we had a weekend away or the right night of playing board games, drinking, and hot tubing what could be confessed.

The thought is always there.

I like knowing people a little, at least feeling friendly or familiar goes a long way in the fantasy department. The level of comfort with others really makes or breaks things for me. Even when the intention has been just sex, it has never really been just sex in practice.

I like to please physically, but there is this whole other layer of mentally hitting the right moments or desires that I absolutely love. More wholly fulfilling than a physical response to something happening.

I'm married, a bit of a dadbod, and am far too busy day to day to devote much time the the pursuit of new adventurous friends or something similar. When I do have some downtime I hope for the best here. I would love if you were in a similar spot...or at least we can have some common ground.

The specifics of what and how are less important than the lead up to me. Of course there are moments I have fantasized about for a long time, but I'm flexible. The detours can often be more fun than the destination.

I lts a turn on if your married. Joining a couple or entertaining someone's wife has always been a desire, but there are so many things that still sound fun.

Lets see how we click?

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You should expect varying availability that leans late night, sometimes inconsistent response times, and someone who is a little guarded based on previous experience, but also somehow a risk taker.

I am busy with projects, hobbies, parenting, and so much more. A person that relates and gets there can be varying levels of restlessness would be great. I'm not looking to change or affect any situation for anyone, but I do dream of misbehaving at times. *notabot

Clicking right away is amazing. I love when there is that stay up late for just a little longer vibe...but also know some of the best people I have met started off as slow and a bit awkward till we found our footing.

Hope that makes sense.

I feel somewhat broken by this one. There was a time I had an absolutely standing invitation from a friends wife, and I loved thinking about it. When I stayed over I would fantasize about her coming downstairs to the couch after he was securely asleep or passed out. She knew I had an anal kink...I knew she liked to please. We played off each other so well mentally. It was like we wanted a clear green light or initiation from the other...even though there had been plenty.

We were actual close friends and didn't want to wreck a good thing for the other for what was likely a moment in time. I wanted him to be into it. I wanted a mfm...or something else to make it fine. It never lined up, if it did something beyond ourselves held us back.

This went on for years. I still think about it, and have the same exuberance as I did then. The worst part is, I'm far from a dead bedroom situation, and this one act still hangs around as such a strong desire.