u/PaceMediocre2163

Usual "yes, of course I have spoken to her but now I want to hear other people's ideas" caveat.

So over the weekend me and my submissive partner of 10 years stumbled across a new fetish of hers - turns out she gets *really* wet when she is asked humiliating questions and then gently teased about the answers as she is asked for more details. We are used to playing in a more DD/LG, soft-dom, good girl kind of way (though we have some sessions that are more impact focused where there isn't really much in the way of "character work", it's more about the beating but it's definitely still D/s play in terms of dynamic).

I don't want this to feel like a police/military style interrogation scene, nor do I want to actually do any real, actual slut shaming. We've discussed what she isn't comfortable with me asking about - specifically some fantasies she has about a person she is in the very early stages of working out if she wants to play with one day and she doesn't want anything where either of us are comparing each other to other partners. Which is all fine, those are broadly my limits too.

People have done these sorts of scenes - what sort of things might you ask and how might you respond? So far, in the once or twice we've played about with it, I've been doing the following:

* Teasing her about how wet she gets when I tell her what I'm going to do to her next and asking if she is looking forward to it

* Reminded her that she can't lie when I ask her if she is enjoying something because I can feel how she is getting

* Asking her about fantasies and then touching her to see how much she is enjoying my responses to them

I'm very interested in hearing other people's experiences even if you usually do these kinds of scenes in a less playful way - I can adapt the ideas, I'm just looking for inspiration! She is open to being asked about things she's done with previous partners but I'm not entirely sure how to work that in, ditto her fantasies and porn habits.

(As you can tell, this isn't a style of play I have much experience with - hence we asking for inspiration)

Usual "yes, of course I have spoken to her but now I want to hear other people's ideas" caveat.

So over the weekend me and my submissive partner of 10 years stumbled across a new fetish of hers - turns out she gets *really* wet when she is asked humiliating questions and then gently teased about the answers as she is asked for more details. We are used to playing in a more DD/LG, soft-dom, good girl kind of way (though we have some sessions that are more impact focused where there isn't really much in the way of "character work", it's more about the beating but it's definitely still D/s play in terms of dynamic).

I don't want this to feel like a police/military style interrogation scene, nor do I want to actually do any real, actual slut shaming. We've discussed what she isn't comfortable with me asking about - specifically some fantasies she has about a person she is in the very early stages of working out if she wants to play with one day and she doesn't want anything where either of us are comparing each other to other partners. Which is all fine, those are broadly my limits too.

People have done these sorts of scenes - what sort of things might you ask and how might you respond? So far, in the once or twice we've played about with it, I've been doing the following:

* Teasing her about how wet she gets when I tell her what I'm going to do to her next and asking if she is looking forward to it

* Reminded her that she can't lie when I ask her if she is enjoying something because I can feel how she is getting

* Asking her about fantasies and then touching her to see how much she is enjoying my responses to them

I'm very interested in hearing other people's experiences even if you usually do these kinds of scenes in a less playful way - I can adapt the ideas, I'm just looking for inspiration! She is open to being asked about things she's done with previous partners but I'm not entirely sure how to work that in, ditto her fantasies and porn habits.

(As you can tell, this isn't a style of play I have much experience with - hence we asking for inspiration)