I can't wait to get home! I have like two hours to myself after work, and I plan on doing a long session for a bit!
I can't do much, as I also have chores and project I have to deal with. But hey, better than nothing!
I just need a lesbian glory hole so I can be at peace.
For those who haven't seen my other recent posts, I am a late-diagnosed pansexual/bisexual autistic male, who enjoys wearing male thongs for sensory reasons. This sensory need also crosses over into a sexual "kink" (a very vanilla one), which I mirror onto others, i.e. I love wearing "sexy" underwear and love other people that also do. In what I believe is a natural extension of this sensory need is that I want/need everyone to keep their underwear/lingerie on for as long as possible during an intimate encounter. From a touch perspective, this allows for a stimulating array of fabrics to be available to brush against when exploring their bodies. From an aesthetic perspective, these garments often accentuate certain body parts, whilst "hiding" others, thus increasing sexual tension. I also love how some of these fabrics react to fluids, whether it be becoming transparent or slippery. For me, the pinnacle of this act is the eventual pulling aside of this thong for whatever flavour of penetrative act is on offer during that encounter. Is this just a me thing or is it a "kink/fetish" that other autistic people share?
Some times when I use my sex toy, I am often in need of someone I can talk deep too about using it, from how I feel, to having them give me encouragement to keep going, or to let go and orgasm. Some where I can trust to be as open as I need to be. Is there any place I can go for that? Or is this subreddit the only zone for it? idk why, but I have felt this really large need to be open and display what I am feeling through text how I feel in the moment of, even someone I can DM and trust to be open. Let me know and thank you.
I'm finding myself masturbating more and more just to calm my brain down. I'm a chronic ruminator and overthinker and was trained to be in a fairly constant state of sexual stimulation in a fast situation.. but now I'm out it's been almost 9 weeks and I feel like the rubbing is a stim that, whilst it does help numb my mind activity, obviously the downside is brain fog and tiredness (I'm yawning all the time, I feel slow - and that's saying something!).
Does anybody else find this and how do you manage to A. stop even if just temporarily (I'm talking about this being a serious habit, my hands go down there any opportunity without thinking sometimes I have to be careful when out).. and B. what soothes a hyperactive mind that gets some very intrusive thoughts when I'm not stimulated?
Usual "yes, of course I have spoken to her but now I want to hear other people's ideas" caveat.
So over the weekend me and my submissive partner of 10 years stumbled across a new fetish of hers - turns out she gets *really* wet when she is asked humiliating questions and then gently teased about the answers as she is asked for more details. We are used to playing in a more DD/LG, soft-dom, good girl kind of way (though we have some sessions that are more impact focused where there isn't really much in the way of "character work", it's more about the beating but it's definitely still D/s play in terms of dynamic).
I don't want this to feel like a police/military style interrogation scene, nor do I want to actually do any real, actual slut shaming. We've discussed what she isn't comfortable with me asking about - specifically some fantasies she has about a person she is in the very early stages of working out if she wants to play with one day and she doesn't want anything where either of us are comparing each other to other partners. Which is all fine, those are broadly my limits too.
People have done these sorts of scenes - what sort of things might you ask and how might you respond? So far, in the once or twice we've played about with it, I've been doing the following:
* Teasing her about how wet she gets when I tell her what I'm going to do to her next and asking if she is looking forward to it
* Reminded her that she can't lie when I ask her if she is enjoying something because I can feel how she is getting
* Asking her about fantasies and then touching her to see how much she is enjoying my responses to them
I'm very interested in hearing other people's experiences even if you usually do these kinds of scenes in a less playful way - I can adapt the ideas, I'm just looking for inspiration! She is open to being asked about things she's done with previous partners but I'm not entirely sure how to work that in, ditto her fantasies and porn habits.
(As you can tell, this isn't a style of play I have much experience with - hence we asking for inspiration)
One of the responses to an earlier post of mine has got me thinking about the dynamics of sexual power play, especially with regards to the autistic mind. In real life, I have to be in control of everything, otherwise I get easily triggered. That is one of my main autistic traits. Whereas for sex, I would probably categorise myself as sub. One of my long running fantasies has been about being used for pleasure by a confident M/F or M/M couple (but not in a degrading or painful way). I think it is the dynamics of the sexual power play in this situation that is the biggest turn-on factor rather than the act itself. Is this at odds with my controlling needs in real life or is it a logical counter-balance? In fact, am I actually still the one effectively in control in this situation? I'd love to hear your thoughts on this and whether sexual power play is important to you.
Each beginning of the summer, I'm horny. It works like a clock. But this time, maybe it's the heat wave I don't know, I'm really horny. Like, I can't think. I can't focus even on sex, as my mind is going absolutely everywhere. Masturbation doesn't make it go away. the sensations in my body are so strong that it becomes painful.
I don't know what to do with this. What would you do if you were me?
I ask because cumming on myself has become extremely sensory and I don’t mean just the orgasm I mean feeling every drop/spray/rope hit me.
This started as a shitpost about X-Men '97 but here me out: if we have specific fetishes for different races, orientations, subcultures in real life (not endorsing all of them) this would mean fictional worlds would naturally have that too right? So for example X-Men right?:
-Does Pornhub exist in the Marvel Universe? Is there a Mutant category?
-Does this mean there are anti-Mutant politicans in the Marvel Universe getting caught watching terabytes of M*tie porn? Are they getting blackmailed with pics of them getting freaky with Mutants?
-Do Mutants have their own Grindr? Does it go down every time the anti-Mutant Friends of Humanity get together for a hate rally?
-are there Mutant Chasers? Am I a Mutant Chaser? It's not my fault they're all hot.
Drop a fictional world and keep it going
I appreciate that not all autistic people have special interests. If you do have a special interest, is it sexual in nature? For me, I have a sensory needs to wear a certain type of underwear. This means that researching, buying, collecting and wearing these garments (predominantly thongs and Brazilian cut briefs made from various fabrics) is one of my slightly expensive special interests. What about you all?
Like, I'm usually pretty reserved but just a couple compliments and I want to spread my legs. Hell, just being called something nice in DM's had me want to sext the other person and hope they reciprocated. Is that slutty? I can't tell and others I've asked sorta just shrug.
I really like silly names for them!
The low hanging fruit
A surprise tool that will help us later
Coin slot
Lightning port
they make me laugh... okay?! loll
I'll start with my own experience to try to exemplify what I am asking.
I have been with my husband for most of ten years, just married this spring, and we had a disconnect related to sex for a very long time. We would have sex sometimes, maybe twice a month, and when we did it was amazing but I was always dying for more. And I told him that. We would go through bad dry spells and they were very painful for us both. The problem had been largely with initiating, often neither one of us feeling like it was "the right time," "we're busy," and honestly my lack of grace in the initiation department. I would be very blunt, abrupt, and/or direct about being horny (very directly related to the way I experience being autistic and being forward with my thoughts). And it would come out of nowhere. I would just spring my desires upon him and expect him to be down with no warning. Now, this would work for some people but my husband is not some people. He was feeling used. This led to me feeling rejected, him feeling inadequate, and both of us being unhappy. I tried to talk about this disconnect with him several times over the years but he didn't have the words to tell me what was happening without feeling shame and sadness for a long time. Almost 7 years into our relationship we finally had a conversation where he told me he couldn't take the pressure most times and wouldn't be able to be interested suddenly. He's a slow burn and doesn't want to get into sex without essentially feeling wooed. He's not just some caricature of an easy guy, he's more complex. He told me exactly what he wanted, and that was essentially for me to chill out and not be so intense so he could ease into it. It was so obvious, and when I found this out I was instantly so aware of how utterly tone-deaf I had been for our whole relationship and had to work through it for several months before I felt better about it. At first I was appalled that he would demand I put so much effort in. Like why couldn't it be more casual and spontaneous? But then I saw that was just not the truth of our life and that he needed more from me to feel fulfilled and I needed to try to do this in a way that worked for both of us and not just me. I had to reroute a couple thought patterns and pre-conceived notions I had about men (he's the only man I have ever really been with and I didn't grow up with men or brothers. Just misandrists for a mom and grandma.) Since that conversation and some essential healing on both sides the change has been incredible. Both of us are now feeling seen and heard and satisfied in brand new ways. We are discovering new things about each other almost every session and it's amazing.
In short, my husband and I endured a long, long time of mostly one sided sex because my autistic bluntness was forcing us into an unhealthy (for us) dynamic. But on the plus side, my autism has also allowed me to logically work through this and evaluate what was happening in a direct way in order for us to recover and now have a very satisfying sex life.
Hi, I am a late diagnosed autistic male who prefers to groom/shave some of my body hair (armpits, groin and ass). I also prefer to wear tight, silky-feeling clothing, including men's thongs. I always believed that these were driven by sexual kinks, but have recently realised that they are largely underpinned by sensory needs, as I dislike the feeling of damp body hair and damp cotton against my skin. That said, I still get sexual pleasure from the smooth sensation that these measures afford me. I guess that also makes sense from an autistic point of view, as the removal of these sensory barriers/inhibitors allows for some kind of sensory euphoria (like slipping between clean bed sheets every night). These sensory needs/sexual kinks also strong influence the type of people that I am attracted to. Gender is unimportant to me, whereas people who mirror my aesthetic is a big turn on for me. I'm not normally big on labels, but apparently this makes me an "aesthetic-driven pansexual". With this new realisation, I wondered whether there were any other autistic people here who experience sensory/sexual crossover and whether mirroring forms a big part of their turn ons?
Guys, it's really stressful being an autistic with a fetish in current times. My government is trying desperately to ban VPNs, restrict content based on moral opinions not actual danger, and implement digital IDs and various kinds of tracking of online data.
Nothing I'm interested in is illegal or even damaging, but they're constantly trying to change that boundary and demonize whatever is viewed as "extreme" or "obscene" which is so subjective. MPs are hipocrits on this, they've had expense fiddling scandals where they've been found to be claiming for household porn subscriptions and things.
I know my online data is already there, but they're trying desperately to strictly monitor and attach it to real identities. Idk... I don't want to be surveilled and assumed to be a bad person or to have criminal intentions just because some wires got crossed and I process sexual desires and fantasies differently.