r/kinky_autism

This is about something that happened a week ago, but I’m still a little worried about it and figured this would be the best place to ask for advice.

So, my partner (NB, 21, peer reviewed autism) has always had submissive interests. This is something we’d discussed very early on, and it works fine for me, since I lean dominant anyways. But they’re also still very new to not just BDSM, but sex in general, since I’m their first partner. And while they’re (understandably) a little reticent to share details, I know they’ve dealt with a lot of shame and self hatred about their kinks and fetishes in the past. I’ve been trying to help them understand it’s totally alright, and have largely been successful? With, apparently, one current exception.

The catch is, when we were playing last week, I noticed them starting to slip into a pretty heavy submissive headspace. We weren’t doing anything particularly unusual, they were just responding very strongly to the usual praise and giving orders. I assumed everything was fine, until a couple days later, they were clearly very embarrassed about it, and asked me to never let them do that again. I pressed a little more, and they said they felt like they degraded themselves for no reason, and they’re scared of feeling like they’re regressing.

I’ve noticed for a while they’re really having a hard time, mental health wise, and while I’ve suggested they talk to their therapist about it, that hasn’t shaken out yet. I’ve been leaving it alone, but I also don’t want them to feel like they need to be afraid of this part of themselves around me. And I also don’t want them to feel like they need to handle all of this alone.

I guess what I wanted to know is, is this a familiar feeling to any of you? And is there anything I can do to help them navigate this?

I moved and now I have a roommate so I can't just jerk off any time I want. Tell me how you'd wait till I'm asleep and convince him to rape me with you. Or maybe you have a different scenario? Anyway, tell me how you'd use and abuse me. I can't touch myself but at least I can be threatened.

Kinks: bondage, humiliation, pain, punishments, degradation, name calling, forced, bdsm, pet play (woof), cnc, objectification

Limits: permanent damage, scaring, breeding, scat, piss, sending pics/vids, feet, public, illegal stuff, misgendering, crossdressing, and I'm not really into anal

For me it has to be incase,dross,reflective desires,glopossum,and fugtrup.

Edit:to clarify,I’m talking about hentai and real life porn.

I have a big oral kink, and I love basically anything that involes using my mouth to please you. The nipples, a penis, a vagina, I love all equally.

But recently I've been thinking a bit more about less conventional and more kinky ways to make use of my tounge.

I really enjoy licking up all the cum dripping down along the shaft and down the balls after you cum. Just slowly and thoroughly licking from the base to the tip until it's all nice and clean. The problem is at that point you've already came and you don't get as much pleasure from it anyome as I want to, and if you're a girl, the consistency is a lot less viscous so I can't even really clean anything up :(

The solution is actually very simple, and very hot at that if you ask me:

You're going to lie down on a big towel. Then, just let me cover large parts of your body with something viscous. Like yoghurt, maybe even melted chocolate. I'll spread it all over you. Not just over your chest, nipples and private parts (for the girls we'd need to avoid the vulva because of the risk of infections), but also in other places like over your tummy, along your neck, all around your thighs, especially the inside... Maybe even a bit on your face, your cheecks, a tiny bit around your ears (I'll nibble on those either way, even uncovered :3)

Then, you could masturbate, or maybe I'll have hand free with a vibrator, and I'm just going to start licking you all over your entire body. Every last drip of the yoghurt right from your nipples and your tummy and your thighs, I'll make sure to be especially thorough around the most sensitive parts. If we used chocolate I'll have to use a lot more pressure with my tounge to get it all off. If there's any on your face I'll be very careful with small, gentle licks.

It's a win win! You get to relax while I pamper you with a toy and feel my tounge caressing your body for a long time, and I get to enjoy doing it while also having a delicious snack :3 Feel free to add a bit more to the mess at any time, I'll be sure to clean that up for you, too...

Does anyone else like this sort of idea? Sorry if this post is a bit weird, but I feel like this is a safe space to post something like this 😭

I've got a cute little redhead next to me, and we know each other's sexuality pretty well.

I was thinking along the lines of "AlphaSub FemDomme" but what do you think?

Throw me some good ideas.

For example, today I went outside with my belly button exposed. When I got home, I realized that the entire time I had some lose hairs in my belly button from when I shaved. That was hot since it could've brought attention to my belly button, but it was also embarrassing since it made me look gross.

I often tell roleplay partners that I “like all things expansion” and when they ask “do you like __?” I’m always like “yup I like everything expansion related.”

Then I get to JOI or something and they’re like “do you want me to make you imagine getting big” (or something), and I, again, repeat “yup, I like everything expansion related.”

Does anyone else find themselves noticing people don’t realize just how kinky they are?

Person I’m seeing has time anxiety and is verrrry scheduled out and such. Saw them for under 3 hours yesterday had a long hiking trip, anyways we chatted, they were sweet, then we started making out and they started feeling me up and make me soooo horny. We were really getting into it in a way we haven’t, it was feeling really passionate, they were driving me crazy and huffing in my ear while fingering me and it was so good, then when I was about to get fully naked they realized it was past the time that they should’ve left and they had to leaveeeee. They told me they hoped my vibration was charged, we exchanged byes and yeahhh, I was so flustered and frustrated and turned on. It was such a hot session. I knew previously that we had a limited amount of time and didn’t even think we would mess around bc I was so sore.
It was so frustrating but it’s also so hot how scheduled they are and serious and also sexy like ugh, I feel like them leaving me like that has just driven me even more crazy for them

As you know if you've read my other posts, I have belly button fetish. So seeing belly buttons turns me on, and showing my own belly button in public also turns me on. So of course seeing women wearing crop tops turns me on. Today since it's hot outside and I was at college, I saw a lot of exposed belly buttons. This did kinda turn me on, but it also made me kinda sad. It made me sad because I thought about how I can't show my belly button in public without being seen as weird as a guy. I'm unable to shave my legs or arms so it's not like I'm androgynous. I grow my belly hair really fast so I have to shave it constantly if I wanna wear crop tops, which I have trouble doing. I also am soft and don't have abs which is how some men get away with wearing crop tops. I also can't wear any actual crop tops because of my home situation. So I have to tie up my shirts to show my belly. Which might seem weird. I really wanna wear crop tops also because when it's hot my stomach gets hot so airing it out would actually make me way more comfortable. Anyone got advice or whatever?

I thought id ask other autistic people im tempted to start a only fans im male 20 and im tempted but theres a lot that could go well cause you know people do well but there also a lot that could go wrong just thinking of all the people who would stare at my cock or videos of me jerking off makes me both nervous and horny so other people who overthink as well I ask what do you think I should do should I start one or?????

I have no one to share this with so adding it for my fellow subby or regressor friends here... im getting my very own cage commissioned and im so so excited. I feel like i dont have a good support system with kink or my pet tendencies but with this cage ill have a place I can just let go and be me. Genuinely so excited to spend the money on this and have a little haven of my own.

Question for all genitals. I have a penis and the thought of eating my cum makes me really horny sometimes, but I never do it. And while my limited reddit research told me that most people struggle to actually taste it, I do think in my case its related to my autism.

And that lead me here. I've obviously seen a lot of porn, and noticed differences in vaginal juices too, which I could imagine to be an issue for autistic people, kinda similar to the semen thing.

So I'm curious whether you guys have any experience regarding this topic.