u/PlasticCraken

My wife is completely on board and loves hearing about my solo sessions. One of her favorite activities is breaking out the strap on and fucking me with it. However I can’t help but feel a little guilty, because I know she wants to give me prostate orgasms, but the most I can manage with the strap on is leaking a bit.

I think the difference is with my solo sessions, it normally takes about 30 minutes of build up before I’m riding waves. I think if we were to start that way it would help. What would she do during this though? About all I can think of is make out and maybe play with my nipples.

Any other suggestions? What do your wives do during the build-up/foreplay where you’re focusing on ramping up your prostate?

My husband and I have watersports sex every once in a while. I mostly do it because I know he enjoys it, but for me it’s more of a neutral thing that doesn’t really do much. During our aftercare we were discussing it and I think my main hang up is as soon as the pee shows up, I feel like I need to shower to get clean. It doesn’t feel hot to be covered in pee, it feels messy and dirty and more takes me out of the moment. It sucks because I can visibly see how much more turned on he gets and I want that too! I WANT to have a more positive reaction for my husband’s sake (and for my own sake because I want to give him his kink until we’re old and wrinkly lol). I want to be able to give him watersports and have the exact same reaction he does to it.

Since I want to like it more (we’re both pro kink conditioning to make sex more enjoyable and he’s already adopted several of my own kinks), I’m just a bit frustrated on the how to get over the aversion and start making it feel hot for me too. I love taboo things, but this one just makes me feel dirty (and not in a good way like I’d like). I want to love it because my husband loves it, and because if I also loved it, then every time we have watersports sex, I’d get to enjoy it too instead of it feeling like I’m doing it out of obligation.

I figured I would come to the pros to see if anyone here used to be in my shoes and were able to navigate through it successfully!