u/RepeatEither6019

After years of huge sleeve sex, severe PE then chastity and denial my wife cucked me last october having the fuck of her life. 1.5hours piv focused rough pounding to 5 times squirting.

It was all too intense so we stopped cuckolding.

Since a month under therapy guidance we are using sensate focus to rediscover intimacy and how we can have good sex with my severe PE.

The rules are 1hr session, no talking, orgasm isnt the target. 1st phase not touching pussy or dick, 2nd its allowed but no piv, 3rd is piv allowed. Loads more details are available.

I'm finally feeling relaxed and no pressure. We have already started 2nd stage and we both loved it. In therapy and to my wife i said id like to stay in this phase as long as posdible i.e no piv.

It felt incredible. Rock hard, not allowed to enter her and no pressure to. She loved it.

For those suffering deadbedrooms, and not pussy free as a kink i highly advise to strengthen your relationship using sensate focus.

In just 10 days after restarting my training I've gone down to 65s OFM. So I've decided lidocaine is the way to go for me.

I train every second day. Set a max time. Stop if I don't cum and wait until the next session. If i cum within the time I reduce the next session target to a lower time. I love the max times and being "punished" if I don't cum. I am wondering what would be a good starting max time?

I'm thinking of 2 or 3minutes but I'm afraid that I will never cum with lidocaine..... Last year during the cuckolding I was denied in chastity for a week or more. I had to uncage, use lidocaine and fuck her. I couldn't feel anything at all and pounded her for 45min, no where near cumming and had to go back into my cage. It was incredible but I'm afraid I won't cum at all with the lidocaine and it will not be good for my training. Maybe a relevant point, my wife has an enormous sloppy bucket cunt so even normally there is no friction.

I'm 51, a lifer prejac, started chastity prejac training with my wife 2 years ago, which led to her cuckolding me. She stopped the cuckolding, but once a cuckold is always a cuckold. My preference by far would be pussyfree and instant orgasm if she strokes or blows.

Back in May i was under 1m ofm after 3 weeks or so.

2 days ago i targeted full hand 1m and i was very close, so i thought why not skip straight to ofm with clothe BB women.

So today target was 2min, damn i was so close. So now i have to wait 2 days. Thats 4 days without orgasm. From my history im 90% sure ill be cumming before 2 min.

I enjoy the anticipation, denial, sensitivity soooo much, im like, why the hell did i stop lol.

Anyway im very curious how quickly ill be ofm sub 2m again.....taking bets. I guess 3 weeks.

Im m51 wife f56 together 24 years. Duri g my life Ive had lots of phases with my PE, sometimes teally bad with embarassing moments and frustrated women, sometimes okayish with stop start and now and again zero PE pussy pounding marathons. Im also a decent 7x5.5 with a strong build.

With my wife years playing around with huge sleeves led to cuckold fantasy with mostly pretty bad PE. Ive neber been able to give intense fucking sessions except for with the sleeves. Those sessions showed me her potential.

In 2023 i told her my cuckold fantasy and she told me hard truths about my pe, her frustration, past amazing sex partners. This hurt a lot andmade my pe much worse, i was cumming in seconds. She started teasing me about it which led us to training me to be faster, chastity and in 2025 she cuckolded me with 3 diffetent guys.

2 were meh but 1 was a 9" alpha 1.5hr incredible best of her life fucking leading 5 squirting orgasms, first time also. We decided to stop the cuckolding.

Now we are working on rebuildibg normal sex again but i am absolutely no way in hell able to even imagine trying to fuck her. The moment ill start thrusting its done, so whats tge point? Im focusing on oral, fisting etc.....yes she is loose and loves stretching.

Like the last few times i spend a lot of time doing oral and when she does me im done very quickly. She seems ok with it. Shes pulked me into her pussy for closeness and i said no thrusting so with her vibe she came.

Im now looking at again training ofm so i can cum instantly during oral and piv and totally focus on her.

Tldr: is Severe PE e.g just a few seconds a good way forward for me to cope with my PE, the psst cuckolding and a way forward for our sexlife?

My wife had never squirted but orgasms easily and can multi orgasn from oral, stretching, fisting, vibrators and piv.

Weve played with cuckoldung and she had her first bull. Beforehand he said he would make her squirt.

So during an intense session, i wasnt there, she said he fucked her for a solid 1.5hrs and made her squirt volumes 5 or 6 times. I went to her afterwards and the bed was crazy wet.

Shes not descriptive at all so i am wondering how this might have been for her. She said she didnt orgasm though, that it was intense but after 6 squirts she was exhausted.

Im 51 and wife is 55, and we are together for 24 years. We were vanilla kids etc and around 11 years ago i introduced large penis sleeves, led to huge, led to pussy stretching to permanently very loose, cuckold fantasy, intense huge penis sleeve pounding, severe PE, PE humiliation, chastity with periods of 5 weeks locked and denied, chastity reverse pegging, and finally solo date cuckolding in october 2025. She got pounded roughly to 5 squirting orgasms by a hung dom bull but not sm. She said she totally surrendered to him and loved it but it scared her how much a slut she became.

Then things went bad when during another date in a swingers club she had a reliving of her child abuse. We are both going to individual therapy and couples. We had no sex at all since april and since last week just restarted oral and petting. Its going well.

I loved being her subby locked and denied but currently she says absolutely no way cuckolding and 100% vanilla because she is afraid of losing herself again. In our playtime now she is leading and i like it. But, i cannot say im looking forward to piv with my pe. I loved denial so im thinking of asking her for now no piv but if she wants penetration we can use, fingers, fisting, dildos and eventually strapons or sleeves. Maybe numbing cream would be a possubility, weve used it before and it anazing to pound her but also be denied.

Im thinking PF is a realistic way forward for us if she also would like it. I cant ever even imagine being able to have normal thrusting piv for more than 10 20 seconds without cumming and i can never give it to her like she prefers.

1/05 timer should have been 99s but i thought 90s. so i set 90s, uncaged, soft, put lube on waited 1min and started.

It felt great and after about 20s i thought this will be easy and i started PNR at about 50s but kept rubbing and the first spurt was at about 58s.

WOW. exactly 1 month since my first timed full hand at 60s and now its even a bit faster with 1 finger.

I spurted a lot and i absolutely love the tase so i ate it all. I washed my cage and myself, still getting shots of pleasure just from washing, was rock hard and put my cage back on on.

Should i stick with the plan of 90s -10% so 81s or actually my current time of 58s - 10% so 52s? This is progressing so easily and it feels so good. Im thinking maybe in between and set 70s.

Im wondering how quickly i will be under 30s or lower. Will i really be able to get under 10s. Will i hit a plateau? Its exciting.

I will eventually switch to through clothes do my wife can make me cum whenever and whereever she wants.

The constant frustration of so little stimulation is also great.

Started April 2nd at 60s full hand, down to 29s thumb plus forefinger on april 22nd. Then switched to OFM 2 days ago 2m45s and today 1m50. My target was 2m30s.

I'm surprised how pleasureable and easy the OFM is. I thought i would jump up to 10min or something but wow. already under 2m.

I uncaged, started soft, lubed and go. I only rub about a cm of my frenelum, pretty gently and not at all fast. After 10s i was rock hard and knew it was going to be easy. I kept thinking how i will blow so quickly in her bucket pussy if this feels so intense.

I had a dressed big boobs video on but i hatdly glanced at it, i was so focused on how good it felt.

By being so consistent how long do you think before i get OFM under 1m, 30s and my dream of 10s? What are typical plateau times.

Or, when should i start using lidocaine or through my underwear?