u/ScAP3Godd355

(I couldn't think of a better title, apologies.)

Hello everyone. I'm posting here because I could really use some advice, and I was hoping you all could help me. So I'm a male sub in my 30s, and all in all things are decent. I've got housing, friends of both genders, and I'm poor but still able to afford bills. Health is good too.

The issue, however, is that I can't seem to be satisfied with these blessings. That's because, ever since my last relationship 5 years ago, I've sort of been hooked to the lifestyle. It helped me feel nurtured, satisfied, safe and comforted in ways I've never experienced before or since, and I can't seem to let go. No matter how much I try to remind myself how lucky I am in general, and how I should be content with life as it is now, my brain keeps obsessing over someday doing scenes again, finding a new dom etc. I know that this isn't healthy (both for me and for my future dating life), but I can't seem to get my brain to stop obsessing over stuff I can't have right now. It's driving me nuts, hence why I'm posting this request for advice.

Has anyone here experienced the same, or have tips and tricks on how to keep this sort of thing under control? Or even how to let it go, so I can go back to being content again instead of obsessing over things I can' have right now? Any and all advice is most welcome. I hope this is the right place to ask.

As the title says, I commissioned a custom audio a month or two ago on another platform from a seller (the seller doesn't sell on Reddit and isn't in this community, while the platform is a niche Dutch community, hence why I'm not sharing names here as it feels superfluous). After a great deal of hassle with contacting the seller as well as their changing the deadline a couple of times), they finally gave me the custom...but at half the agreed upon length (i.e. 5 minutes instead of 9-10). Needless to say, I am not a satisfied customer. At least, not fully.

I'm torn, because on the one hand, I did receive what I asked for, at least sort of. And I don't want to be one of those scummy buyers that demands a refund or a redo for no good reason. But on the other hand, I also feel that the custom being 50% shorter than agreed upon is a valid reason to at least ask for a retake - but I'm not fully certain what the etiquette is in this case. So I thought I'd ask here for opinions.

I hope you all are staying hydrated and cool, and that you all have a lovely week.

Update: I reached out to the seller as per the consensus here, thanked her for the custom and told her I liked it (which was all true), and then mentioned that it was far shorter than agreed upon and asked for a redo or a supplementary audio (whichever was easier) of a few minutes to make up for it. Her response was that it would count as a new custom and would therefore have to be paid for in full.

I'm definitely not doing business with that seller ever again then.