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I’ve been seriously looking into checking out a local dungeon as I very badly want to meet some new people especially in an environment that I know they’re into that kinda stuff, I just had a few general questions that weren’t cleared up from the dungeons website as I am a very worrisome person

1. What is normal to wear? Most typical bdsm wear is far from my style so I’m just wondering what other things people wear, do people wear typical nightclub outting clothes? Dresses?

2. Is it normal to go alone? I’d feel much more comfortable going with friends but I’d also like to step out of my comfort zone and also just make it easier for myself scheduling wise by going alone, is that normal for people to do? Am I gonna be the only one there alone and have trouble finding people to talk to?

The film instantly became one of my new favorite and connected to me personally as a kinky lesbian. Not only does it have a romance between a young filmmaker and an older cult classic movie star, but it explores themes like how trauma can shape sexual desire and how things like kink and sexual play can help you process trauma or alleviate yourself from daily stressors. I absolutely loved the film and I’ve never been hotter and more red in the face while watching a movie. If you’ve seen it please share your thoughts, and if you haven’t seen it I’d highly recommend it

This has been a general theme of my sex life, but I’m mostly going to talk about the most recent instance, me and a friend were having sex, we’re both into a lot of kinky shit, I’ve WATCHED her do a lot of kinky shit to other people. Ive got fairly masochistic tendencies and like to be hit (mostly spanked), bit, etc (things I’ve watched the partner do to other people) but no matter how much I tell her that I want that, she’s never up for it, and can never do it. I still enjoy my time with her and I’m never demanding in asking, just reminding her that it’s something I’m interested in. It’s just frustrating not being able to participate in your biggest kink with partners that do the kink with other people, and I’m wondering if I’m failing to consider something or if anyone has experience with similar situations

Some much more outgoing friends of mine were recently recounting the time they had at a local bdsm nightclub, it sounded very fun but I’m unsure of how I’d fare in such an environment, I have social anxiety and general anxiety, but also just have a general timid nature, I’ve been described multiple times as looking like a deer in headlights. I definitely feel like I’d enjoy going to one of those types of places, as I have many very heavy kinks that I haven’t had much opportunity to explore, but I’m just not sure if someone of my disposition would fit in at one of those places, as my friends who go are much more outgoing and bold

My gf is really into the puppy/dog thing (as in being one), I don’t dislike it, but I’ve never put much thought into being on the receiving end of it. I actually do think it’s quite cute and I love her for it, but usually, when I want to tell someone things to fluster them or get them worked up, I’d normally look to things I’d want said to me (within reason) but as I have very little experience of wanting this for myself I’m not sure of how to go about it.

If you don’t mind sharing, what’re some ideas or lines you’ve used or had used you (or would like to have used on you) in a similar “owner/pet” dynamic