How do other subs stay disciplined without a dom?
Sorry if this doesn’t belong in this subreddit!!
I’m a submissive currently without a Dominant, and I’ve been struggling a lot with motivation, structure, and self-care. I also deal with depression, and without external accountability/consequences, it’s really hard to stay consistent with things I know I need to do for my health (working out, preparing and eating healthy food, completing chores, following through with routines and self care).
The frustrating part is that I do want to hold myself accountable. I want to improve and I care about these things, but the second I think about actually doing the task, it’s like something in my brain just turns off. The want is still there, but it feels like a mental block stopping me from following through. I just feel stuck in this cycle of wanting to do better but struggling to make myself actually do it.
For other submissives who’ve experienced this, how do you stay disciplined or create structure for yourself when you don’t have a dynamic or someone holding you accountable and can’t build up the motivation to do so yourself? Any advice, coping strategies, or things that helped you would really mean a lot! If anyone else is currently going through this- I’d also be totally willing to be accountability buddies!