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I’ve always wondered why some gay men, especially some tops, seem to view bottoms as somehow less masculine or even less of a man. Yet when the conversation is about their own masculinity or manhood, they are very protective of it and say things like, “I would never let anyone take my manhood away.”
But why is it acceptable to treat a bottom like his manhood matters less simply because of his sexual role?
Being a bottom doesn’t make someone less of a man. You can be masculine, feminine, confident, or anything in between and still be a man. I think it’s hypocritical when someone expects their own masculinity to be respected while looking down on another man because he bottoms.

I recently matched with someone on a gay hookup app, and he texted me saying we had hooked up before. He told me he missed me but had lost my number. At first, I was really confused and couldn’t remember him, so I asked him to send me a picture.
When he did, I was honestly shocked and a little emotional. I immediately remembered who he was. He was the guy who took my virginity back in 2022, when I had just turned 20. He was 26 at the time.
I still remember that night because I was so scared to bottom for the first time. We used a condom, and he was incredibly patient, supportive, and calm with me. He took his time, made sure I felt comfortable, and never rushed me. I remember feeling safe the entire time. I even cried afterward, but they were happy tears because the experience was so much better than I had expected.
Now he’s asking if I’d like to meet up again.
The thing is, I don’t think I can. It’s not because he’s a bad person—he was actually really kind to me. I’m just worried that seeing him again would bring back a lot of emotions, and I’m afraid I might become emotionally attached because he was my first.
Has anyone else ever found the person who took their virginity years later? Did you meet up again? If so, how did it go?

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