Is there any point in fighting against myself?
Hi, I’m a bloke, I’m 29. It just so happened that from the very start of puberty, when I hadn’t even seen any erotic material yet, I used to fantasise about submission, although at the time I didn’t realise that was exactly what it was. Of course, I grew up, and my preferences became much clearer and I delved deeper into the subject; however, I’ve never found like-minded people, never found anyone I could talk to about this and gain experience (both sexual and relationship-wise).
On top of that, my physical appearance probably adds to the situation: I’m 160 tall, have a baby face and a generally gentle nature.
All my life, all I’ve done is try to fight against this part of myself, trying to force myself to want to dominate, to want to be ‘normal’ – primarily because I’m not sure I’ll be able to find relationships and gain experience if I leave things as they are.
It’s worth mentioning that I used to live in a country where patriarchal attitudes are very strong, as is the general level of ‘traditionalism’; I now live in Germany, but because of the language barrier and the fact that I’m an introvert, this hasn’t changed much for me.
Dear community, what do you think – is there any point at all in fighting against myself, trying to change who I am and at least trying to appear like a ‘normal’ bloke? I’d be grateful for any advice you can offer.