Is there any point in fighting against myself?

Hi, I’m a bloke, I’m 29. It just so happened that from the very start of puberty, when I hadn’t even seen any erotic material yet, I used to fantasise about submission, although at the time I didn’t realise that was exactly what it was. Of course, I grew up, and my preferences became much clearer and I delved deeper into the subject; however, I’ve never found like-minded people, never found anyone I could talk to about this and gain experience (both sexual and relationship-wise).

On top of that, my physical appearance probably adds to the situation: I’m 160 tall, have a baby face and a generally gentle nature.

All my life, all I’ve done is try to fight against this part of myself, trying to force myself to want to dominate, to want to be ‘normal’ – primarily because I’m not sure I’ll be able to find relationships and gain experience if I leave things as they are.

It’s worth mentioning that I used to live in a country where patriarchal attitudes are very strong, as is the general level of ‘traditionalism’; I now live in Germany, but because of the language barrier and the fact that I’m an introvert, this hasn’t changed much for me.

Dear community, what do you think – is there any point at all in fighting against myself, trying to change who I am and at least trying to appear like a ‘normal’ bloke? I’d be grateful for any advice you can offer.

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u/TinyFennya — 10 hours ago

29 [M4F] #Germany #Online - Short good boy 160cm

Hi, I’m a guy, 29 years old. As it happened, right from the start of puberty — when I hadn’t even seen any erotic material yet — I used to fantasise about submission, although at the time I didn’t realise that was exactly what I was thinking about. Of course, I’ve grown up, my preferences have become much clearer, and I’ve explored this topic in greater depth; however, I’ve never found anyone who shares my views, anyone with whom I could talk about this and gain experience (both sexual and relationship-related).

At the same time, ever since then, I’ve constantly had clear doubts about my gender identity; at the very least, I’ve experienced gender dysphoria, and it’s quite likely that I’m transgender. But I haven’t had the chance to discuss this with a psychiatrist — previously because of where I lived, and now because of the language barrier, difficulties in finding psychiatrists, and the fact that they literally aren’t taking on new patients. What’s more, my appearance probably only makes the situation worse: I’m 160 tall, I have a childlike face, and overall I’m a very delicate lad in every sense.

Because of who I am, I am specifically looking for a Mommy. I thrive under structure, and I realize that what I truly need is a dominant woman who wants to take over the reins. I am deeply attracted to a dynamic that involves rules, prohibitions, and strict limitations. I want to feel your control over my life and my body. I am highly interested in things like orgasm control, chastity, having my schedule managed, and not making decisions without your explicit approval. Even rules regarding my appearance or how I dress under your command sound incredibly fulfilling to me.

In terms of dynamic, I am looking for a beautiful balance between a strict, punishing Mommy and a loving, nurturing one. I need real guidance and upbringing. I want to be raised by you. I want to feel the warmth of your praise when I am a good boy and follow your rules perfectly, but I also deeply desire your strictness and proper punishments when I misbehave or fail to meet your standards.

Ideally, I am looking for real, in-person relationships in the long run, though I completely understand that this depends on many factors and chemistry. Because of this, I am more than open to starting with an online format. I want a Mommy who can control and guide me from a distance, setting tasks and keeping me accountable. If you happen to be from Germany, that would be an amazing bonus, as I would also be happy to practise my German with you and hopefully meet up in the future. But if you are from anywhere else in the world, please do not hesitate to reach out—distance is not a barrier for a dedicated sub.

I can guarantee absolute loyalty, complete adoration, and total compliance with your rules. Other specific fetishes and deeper preferences are best discussed in person or in private messages. If you are a Mommy who wants a delicate, submissive boy to shape, discipline, and care for, please send me a message. I can't wait to hear from you.

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u/TinyFennya — 12 hours ago

Is there any point in fighting against myself?

Hi, I’m a bloke, I’m 29. It just so happened that from the very start of puberty, when I hadn’t even seen any erotic material yet, I used to fantasise about submission, although at the time I didn’t realise that was exactly what it was. Of course, I grew up, and my preferences became much clearer and I delved deeper into the subject; however, I’ve never found like-minded people, never found anyone I could talk to about this and gain experience (both sexual and relationship-wise).

On top of that, my physical appearance probably adds to the situation: I’m 160 tall, have a baby face and a generally gentle nature.

All my life, all I’ve done is try to fight against this part of myself, trying to force myself to want to dominate, to want to be ‘normal’ – primarily because I’m not sure I’ll be able to find relationships and gain experience if I leave things as they are.

It’s worth mentioning that I used to live in a country where patriarchal attitudes are very strong, as is the general level of ‘traditionalism’; I now live in Germany, but because of the language barrier and the fact that I’m an introvert, this hasn’t changed much for me.

Dear community, what do you think – is there any point at all in fighting against myself, trying to change who I am and at least trying to appear like a ‘normal’ bloke? I’d be grateful for any advice you can offer.

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u/TinyFennya — 16 hours ago