You spend all day being bulletproof for everybody else. Take the armor off at the door shawty. You dont have to be strong in my hands. Let me break you down the right way. [Anyone can read but specifically this is for Black women]
I see you.
And I ain't gonna hold you its a beautiful sight. Whether you got Them bundles, wearing your natural, a baldy, or even if you got your hair put up in your bonnet right now, i see you.
It's a small thing, you know, being seen. But as somebody who's been overlooked before, it can bring the sunshine through the darkest thunderstorm.
Maybe the thunderclouds are on your mind, though.
You just walked through the front door and I can already see the absolute exhaustion sitting right on your shoulders. You kicked your shoes off, dropped your bag on the floor, you threw your bra halfway across the room. Your pants flew the opposite direction. And you let out a deep, heavy sigh.
Damn near ancestral.
The kind that tells me you spent the entire day dealing with microaggressions at work, managing everybody elses fragile feelings, and pretending like you got it all completely together. Maybe you had to deal with that bitch at the job who’s nosy as hell, and you just don’t like her ass. Maybe a coworker is saying weird shit to you and you're debating if you should even report it or not, because you know the last time somebody tried to report something, HR tried to flip it on her. You don't want to have to deal with that stress on top of everything else you've got going on.
maybe you've adapted. You don't talk to anyone now at work. you keep it strictly business and go about yours, and they mind theirs. They probably think you got a resting bitch face. If anything, you've got resting "damn can a nigga just live" face.
The world demands so much from Black women.
They expect you to be the mule, the therapist, the fixer. the emotional labor people expect from you with nothing in return. The audacity they have to expect that from you. Those types of expectations can gnaw away at your sanity. like you gotta be bulletproof the exact second you step outside your house because nobody is offering you any grace. You spend all your energy pouring into people who only know how to take. and they take so much from us.
They mock the way we speak. They mock our culture and the way we look, trying to make us hate ourselves, and then have the unmitigated gall and fucking audacity to try to emulate us: the way we speak, our features, hell even our hair.
But you are inside now. And Im looking right at you.
Stop moving.
Dont go to the kitchen to start cooking.
I'll handle that.
Dont start picking up around the living room.
Come here.
I got you.
Im pulling you directly into my chest. Im six foot And thick like your favorite weighted blanket, so you can't hurt me. I can take over any burdens you got.
Im wrapping my big heavy arms around you so completely that you literally cant move. I want you to smell my cologne and just sink into me. Feel my heartbeat against your cheek.
Im an immovable object. Even an unstoppable force isn't Strong enough to take me away from you.
I want you to let all that hyper-independent, boss woman energy that they put on you and make you claim just so you can feel a shread of control over the narrative, take it all and just crash right into me and completely shatter.
I'm big and strong I'll hold you up.
Im taking your phone right out of your hand and tossing it on the couch.Fuck the algorithms that keep us angry. Fuck the way they show you upsetting comments that you don't need to see, and fuck the way it tries to make you feel less than when you are more.
Im reaching around your back and slowly scratching your back right where your bra was at. I know it's itchy. I know it'll be bothering you. I want to make sure that you feel some relief.
I just want to be in this moment with you. So we're going to breathe together.
Breathe in very slowly theough your nose.
I want you to imagine your lungs filling up with all the air they can hold.
And breathe out slowly through your mouth.
Exhale away all the bullshit. Everything you've been holding in. Everything that's kept your spine straight. Everything that's kept you on edge today.
Good girl. I'm so proud of you.
Let's do one more. I want you to breathe in like you want to hold every single ounce of air that you can hold in through your nose. So slow, but never stopping until you're full.
I want you to hold it calmly. Don't try to hold it until your face turns blue (well, if our faces could change colors Like that, you know 😂).
But hold it until you feel like you've had enough, and then I want you to exhale so slowly. Just close your eyes and be in that moment with me, because I'm doing it right here along with you.
Imagine you have your hands on my chest, feeling it rise and fall in time with yours, leading you, letting you know when to inhale and when to exhale.
You don't gotta make any decisions right now.
I got you.
If you got a wig on, take it off. If you got braids or locs, Im sliding my fingers in and massaging your scalp right between the parts. Im rubbing the tension right out of your edges. ill even get the oil later for a real scalp massage
"You dont have to be strong in here."
Im whispering it right into your ear so my deep voice vibrates straight down your spine.
Im going to pick you up.
I dont care if you think you are heavy, I can squat a defensive lineman, you aint shit to me.
You are light as a feather.
Im carrying you straight to the bathroom because I already ran the hot water. You see, a forward-thinking nigga like me already planned out the whole evening. I've thought of everything. You ain't got to make no decisions; you gotta just exist and be.
Im going to strip those clothes off your gorgeous brown skin and sit you down in the tub. I've already got your favorite playlist playing, and candles light up the whole bathroom. I also got your favorite kind of candy, ready for you when you're hungry.
But for now, let me pamper you.
Let's wash away today's stress.
My heavy hands covered in suds, tracing the curve of your back, working the deep knots out of your neck and massaging your thighs. I am washing the stress of the day right down the drain. You are just going to sit there and let me pamper you because you deserve to be served For once.
"People are not a monolith. We are diverse and full of multitudes."
I'm a scholar, but even I don't know who to attribute this quote to. I heard it a long time ago and I've always loved it, because I think about myself in moments like these; I always think about it.
There's this caretaker part of me who dotes over you and makes sure your wants and needs are taken care of. I might have to ask once but after that I got you. You won't have to have the fatigue of explaining something over and over again..
Then there's this dominant side to me. He's More stern, he's so certain and he makes sure his instructions are followed to the letter. He can be demanding because he believes in you so thoroughly. He always believes you will rise to the occasion as much as he believes the sun will rise tomorrow.
Suffice to say, niggas have multitudes within us.
I just lifted you out of that hot bath and wrapped you in a thick towel. You are completely clean and smelling like heaven.
Im laying you down gently on the edge of the mattress. Im grabbing that bottle of warm body oil and shea butter lotion off the nightstand and pouring the oil into my palms.
Im rubbing my big heavy hands together to get it nice and hot, and Im massaging it all over your beautiful brown skin. I am making sure you are glowing from head to toe, rubbing that good shea butter lotion deep into your knees and elbows because Im absolutely not letting my babygirl go to sleep ashy lmao.
Im keeping you soft, hydrated, and perfect.
If youre reading this in your bed rightnow, I want you to follow along. Let my words guide your hands. if you're not alone just imagine this is a movie in your mind.
Since I am massaging that warm oil into your thighs, I want you to take your own hands and slowly rub up and down your thighs. Feel how soft your skin is. Imagine the heavy weight of my hands pressing down on you, working the deep tension out of your muscles.
Im going to kiss every single inch of you. I want to completely erase that damn job from your memory. I want to make you forget about the emails, the microaggressions, the bills, the family drama, all of it.
Tonight your only job is to receive. I am going to worship you until you forget your own name.
Slide your hand up and slip it under your panties for me. Take your middle and ring finger and coat them in your own wetness. Im parting your legs and Im burying my face right between your thighs. You taste like absolute perfection and Im going to consume you like Im starving.
Start making slow gentle circles around your clit. I want you to match the exact rhythm of my tongue. As you read this, imagine my mouth sliding over your wetness, coating my tongue . its your ultimate expression of just how Good I'm making you feel.
Im gripping your hips with my big hands to hold you securely in place. No need to Even try to run.
Speed those circles up just alittle bit. You can handle it I believe in you Just go a little bit faster for me. Press down a little harder.
I want you to feel that heavy throb building up in the pit of your stomach. When you try to squirm away because the pleasure is getting entirely too intense, Im taking one hand and pinning both of your wrists above your head. You dont have to be strong rightnow shawty.
Resist The urge
You are completely safe in my grip, but you are completely out of control. That juxtaposition is crazy but I know you're getting closer.
Closer still.
Bring yourself right up to the absolute edge. I want your toes curling and your breath hitching.Because that's exactly how I'm going to do you.
Imagine my tongue is going as fast as your fingers.
Imagine how good it will be to finally get that relief, to finally come for me: to put an exclamation point on this entire orgasmic experience.
When you feel like you are about to explode
Stop.
Stop right now.
Pull your hand away completely.
Im pulling my mouth back and just breathing slow cool air against your throbbing clit. I want you whining and begging me to put my mouth back on you. I want to hear how desperate you are.
Then Im diving right back in.
Put your hand back and rub faster this time. Im not just making you cum once tonight. A Goddess deserves more than that. Im going to edge you and break you down until you are shaking and crying from the pleasure. Im going to make you cum over and over again until your brain is nothing but pure blinding white light.
Push yourself over the edge for me rightnow.
Let it go.
Squeeze your thighs together and just melt into the mattress while you orgasm. Im swallowing every single drop of your release, humming against you while you ride out the waves.
And as soon as you catch your breath, Im going right back to work on your clit to build up orgasm number two. hell maybe three
When you are finally completely exhausted and you have given me everything,Im pulling your body right onto my chest.
Im slipping your silk bonnet onto your head so your hair stays perfect while you sleep. Im going to pull the covers up, roll us a blunt, order whatever you want to eat on DoorDash, and hold you tight.
You are safe here beloved.
You are wanted here.
The world can wait outside the door.
Let us make a home here in this moment.
Tomorrow can wait.