Was it for spite, or simply the result of her loss of sexual desire and of looking sexy for me? Up to now, I would masturbate very privately, keeping it hidden from her in this totally sexless, dead bed room marriage we are in. But seeing her cut off her beautiful long hair despite all the compliments if give is the last straw - so from now on I not hiding my need and love of masturbation from her.
Wonder if it's easier for a woman to leave a sexless marriage versus us guys. For me it would definitely be more difficult since an attractive gal like my shapely wife should have it easy compared to Mr. average (me). Hence I stick around as I rather have a female friend/roommate than an empty house. Actually, on second thought it's really an individual matter.
Fist meetings do not have to involve jumping into bed. There's much excitement and pleasure to be had from watching another enjoy touching and feeling up one's wife, or seeing her parade around in lingerie, even yoga pants for a stranger who's commenting on what her likes seeing.
I came out to wife about my bi interests and while she said and appeared NOT to have a big problem over it; I do believe believe it hastened our marriage becoming sexless once she knew. Her ideal man is a macho, big strong male and knowing I was bi and enjoyed wearing women's panties put the kybosh they way she sexually saw me.
edit - this should have read "NOT to" have a big problem....
So I poured a cup coffee for my wife and and upon sipping she exclaimed "this is too hot!", immediately the thought flashed thru my mind, "and you're too cold"! Funny and sad how sex keeps finding it's way into my sexless marriage. Oh well, so be it. At least we had the perfunctory seven years of sex when we started out. Seems like seven years is a magic number in many marriages for how long sex lasts before a wife doesn't find you sexy and you become like room mates.
This happened gradually, over time in steps to where it's now at the point where I am not allowed to even look at her in panties so I can masturbate. She knows I'm too old and too lazy to seek another, so be it.
Oops, edited to explain that by "simple" I meant that there was no jumping into bed, no all-out sex when first meeting. Because of the difficulty in finding someone, we wanted to draw the experience out as much as possible; savoring the excitement afforded by taking small steps - seeing a shapely woman showing off and parading around in lingerie.