u/Whatever1002

My GF's handjobs used to be pretty bad. The biggest issue was that she was always super rough and fast from the get-go. I just accepted it, because I didn't want to hurt her feelings... she's bad at taking criticism. And I was already very grateful when she was willing to pleasure me like that.

Until one day it seemed like she was trying to rip my dick off, and I felt like something needed to be said.

I've started walking her through giving hand jobs and blowjobs and it improved a lot immediately. The massive improvement is that she now starts slowly and teasingly, edges me for a long time, and then goes as rough and fast as she used to do.

But things are going a little too well. Every time she gives me a combined blowjob and handjob, I start to faint around the time she goes rough and fast. I start hyperventilating, cannot think straight anymore, and cannot control my vocalisations or face anymore. It must look and sound pretty dumb and I'm starting to feel pretty self-conscious about it.

The orgasms are amazing though, unlike any I have felt before.

My GF is mainly starting to get concerned about my health in the matter, and of course it's not really fun for her to have a blacked-out boyfriend at the end of a handjob. She says that she wants to be more careful, but I'm enjoying it too much and don't really want that.

Does anybody else have this problem? How can I keep myself from fainting, while maintaining the experience? I don't really want her to slow down

For anybody concerned: I often pass out during panic attacks and have been screened thoroughly. I don't have any heart or blood pressure issues. This experience is similar to a panic attack, but instead of feeling like I'm dying, I feel like heaven.

My GF loves receiving full-body massages from me and it tends to end with her lying on her belly and me rubbing her clit from behind.

At one point when we were doing this routine, she guided my hand to insert my thumb into her vagina, while rubbing her clit, and she went absolutely wild over this.

I developed the technique a bit further since then and have started doing the 'come hither' motion on her G-spot with my thumb, fully curling it in quick repetition. She goes insane over this, and I get a much stronger reaction from her than with PIV, oral, or regular fingering (which she doesn't love, frankly).

She says she absolutely loves this sensation, but we cannot do it too often because it leaves her a bit sore sometimes.

The thing I wanted to ask is: is this 'thumbing' rather than 'fingering' technique something common to do? I'm a huge nerd about sex and I looked up every technique I could find to pleasure a woman before I even got sexual. But I never came across this way of doing it.

And for anybody who does have experience with it, are there ways to make her less sore afterward, or to even further improve the experience for her?

Edit: sorry about the typo in the title! It bothers me but I cannot change it anymore