r/RealHookupAdvice

I’ve known this guy since may 2025 and we hookup four times twice may 2025, once in January, and once in June. We had sex in June and every other time was just other stuff. Every time we hang we usually talk a little and a little after but it fades out and I was usually only visiting my home town and going back to school after so it didn’t make much sense to keep in touch. He doesn’t seem like a huge player like he says stuff that makes it seem like he doesn’t do things with girls often and he wasn’t lasting long in bed at all but he always pulls away after we hookup. Obviously it’s a casual situation and I don’t think he wants to date me but I’ve been on delivered for over a week after he reached out after sex yet he sent an insta follow request but undid it right away. Is he just messing with me? Would it be stupid to hit him up in a few weeks to try and run it back? I thought the sex was good and want to do it again but he faded away a lot faster this time.

Yo.. people of reddit.

One lady just offered me for hook up.

I'm virgin.

She is wild as fuck and horny too. Wants to be used like a doormat.

Tell me everything I should know except where the vagina is.

Basically what can I do to perform excellently? My body count isn’t very high, and while I do think I’m pretty dominant in bed I’ve never used toys, drugs other than weed or alcohol, or done anything like bondage. To be clear, I generally like it that way for monogamy.

I may be in a threesome soon and want do it the best way possible. I feel like viagra is a must (where can I get this?); I don’t come particularly quickly but I’d like to be able go (with breaks) for a solid couple hours. Cock rings? Vibrating? The two women are a couple, and I assume they’ll have whatever toys they like. Supplements to produce more semen (good hydration obviously)? I feel like desensitizing cream is probably a no because women don’t want that, and I don’t really want it for myself either if viagra can help with reps/endurance. All advice is welcome.

anyone know how to find escorts on Craigslist?

Good morning people, I wanna ask about, what things I should say and what rules follow with a sex friend, tbh I've never participated in casual sex before, just in relationships.

I know it is still sex, but the after coitus moment is what I wanna ask, idk... should I just leave? put my clothes on and do something else with the person? any advice would be awesome, and sorry for the bothering.

So me and a girl friend of mine were alone at a party and without going into a big backstory which isn't important she had her hands on my cortch and was basically jerking me off through my jogging pants. Led to me and her going to bed together. She is naked and gets on top of me, is riding my boner, through my jocks. I did try a few times to remove it from my underwear but she keeps saying she doesn't want to have sex, and I say fine, lie there as she is grinding on my dick. Eventually she does reach into my underwear and pull out my dick, and grinds her vagina along it. At this point I am asking her to put it in, she is saying no. It was really frustrating, but if a girl is saying no it's no I get it. Every time I start to moan a bit or say anything which shows I'm enjoying it she jumps off me and says eww don't make it weird or whatever. So I lie there as this girl is naked on top of me grinding her wet vagina onto the shaft of my cock, giving me the biggest set of blue balls on the planet. Eventually she gets tired and lies next to me and is jerking me off. I didnt risk touching her at all, as she seemed really weirded out by the whole thing, eventually when I did cum she makes a big thing about it calls it disgusting and I am laughing at her and the situation in general. To be fair some of the cum did spatter her forearm which she immediately went to clean off lol.

The next day we were at uni and I am asking her if she wants to go to the bar after class and she initially says yes, but then asks if she can bring a friend, which is code for "I don't like you enough to want to be alone with you". I did at that point ask her about the previous night and she just says "we were just having fun" which did to be honest hurt me, as I do like this girl strangely. So the three of us are in this bar, I leave to go get some drinks and I can literally hear the two of them cackling with laughter when I'm barely a few meters away. When I get back, the friend literally straight up asks me if I had fun last night, and busts out laughing. So they had been talking about me and the "not sex" I had. So they just seem to think it's hilarious, and I'm a bit sad as I don't know how to get her to take me seriously.

My GF loves receiving full-body massages from me and it tends to end with her lying on her belly and me rubbing her clit from behind.

At one point when we were doing this routine, she guided my hand to insert my thumb into her vagina, while rubbing her clit, and she went absolutely wild over this.

I developed the technique a bit further since then and have started doing the 'come hither' motion on her G-spot with my thumb, fully curling it in quick repetition. She goes insane over this, and I get a much stronger reaction from her than with PIV, oral, or regular fingering (which she doesn't love, frankly).

She says she absolutely loves this sensation, but we cannot do it too often because it leaves her a bit sore sometimes.

The thing I wanted to ask is: is this 'thumbing' rather than 'fingering' technique something common to do? I'm a huge nerd about sex and I looked up every technique I could find to pleasure a woman before I even got sexual. But I never came across this way of doing it.

And for anybody who does have experience with it, are there ways to make her less sore afterward, or to even further improve the experience for her?

Edit: sorry about the typo in the title! It bothers me but I cannot change it anymore

Adult terminology question. Is there a common name for this rear-entry/doggy-style variation: the receiving partner is face-down on the bed with hips raised, and the penetrating partner is standing upright on the bed behind rather than kneeling. Is there a standard name for this? Thank you.

Ok genuine question, but I’ve (f22) only slept with a handful of guys, and I’ve noticed that they usually pick me up and flip me into missionary after not that long of cowgirl. And I’m wondering if that maybe means it’s because I’m bad at it?

I notice guys always love it when I’m on top of them during foreplay/at first, tell me how hot I look etc, but once im riding after a few minutes max they usually take over and change positions.

I prefer being on the receiving end anyway, but I always try and make an effort to put in the work especially on top, because I know guys like that. I know guys don’t want to have to do all the work, so the fact they do this makes me think maybe I’m not good at it?

I don’t want to be a “starfish” and I’m always an enthusiastic and active participant lol, but I find that I usually end up being one…
I always read men saying the worst thing a woman can do in bed is be a starfish / pillow princess - but that’s what I feel like they turn me into. When they are on top I’m so focused on how good it feels that I sort of can’t do anything else.

I've been seeing this guy for a short time. He's really nice, and we share some common interests and world views. I've known him casually for some years now.

Now, each time we've hung out, it's been at my house. I have a very small, cold, and uncomfortable house, a tiny bed, and it's always cluttered and messy because I simply have no space for anything.

He on the other hand lives in an apartment just up the road. I've never even seen it, but I know what it'll look like, as it's a flash area and he's described it, plus he works a very good job so has the money for a nice apartment. Basically, he has a separate garage, and I live in a space the size of half a garage. When I mention going to his house I get ignored.

Today, my house is even more of a wreck than usual as I'm very busy with no time to even do dishes. (I'm writing this during a commute) I told him I'm unsure about having him over because of this, and suggest otherwise... He says he doesnt mind the mess, he'll be over this evening.

Like, am I missing a social que somewhere? Am I not making myself clear enough? Does he live with his parents or a girlfriend? Does he have a wall with framed skinned faces of his exes, or a giant pile of empty wine bottles that he hoards? Is it rude or not rude to simply invite yourself over to someone's messy house despite suggesting they don't?

Edit: No, he doesn't have a wife, unless he's hiding it from the entire gossip-ridden sporting community we both participate in. I've discussed him with others in the community.

Edit 2: since posting this, in a similar manner to my previous strong suggestions to him, said twice "let's go to yours instead as I won't have time to tidy up" the first time he disagreed/protested. The second time he ignored me and changed the subject... Then 10 minutes later insisted again "no need to tidy, we'll make some space, others staying at mine at the moment" oh boy.... I'm definitely guessing a gf unknown to the community, he lives with his mum and sleeps in the same bed as her, or kids from a previous relationship. I've asked him more details about these people, and asked him when they're going to leave. He ignored it. Yup, I'm out of this one

I’m curious I would love my gf to give me a bj but she doesn’t think she’ll like it but we aren’t at that stage yet I’m just curious if women actually enjoy giving a blowjob and if so, why

Two days ago I had what I thought was a very successful second date with a girl from hinge, we have been messaging for about 3.5 weeks now and seem to have a lot in common, both of our dates have been 5-8 hours long and in the last date she was all over me (not in an inappropriate way), and we also made out a couple times. She mentioned (after kissing) how up until a few days ago she hadn’t kissed a guy in four years, I’m not sure what she was trying to do with the comment but I can’t stop thinking about it. Ever since the date she has been a little drier than usual and considering her comment I’m thinking maybe things are going even better with this other guy. I also can’t get the thought out of my head that she is talking to 10 other more desirable guys on hinge rn. How do you mentally not think about other guys, because if I met her irl and she wasn’t on dating apps I probably wouldn’t be thinking that she is talking to so many other more desirable guys rn?

And did things work out the way you wanted?

I have a enormous problem here, I want to try bottoming but I don't like men, there aren't many good looking TS girls in my city. So it must be men but in my hometown, at least on apps I don't know to choose a good, handsome """" man.

Any advice? Or take the first that looks "attractive"?

is there a site to find the confirmed happy ending massage places in the US?

hitting a bit of a dry spell. looking to get one off. i’m pretty chopped and the dating app scene has been horrid. mostly looking to see if there’s sure fire ways of finding an escort or a massage parlor with confirmed “happy endings”. advice?