u/MoonBaby88811

Ok so I’m new to this and I’ve never been in a dynamic before. Even though I am new, I did/do a lot of research, and I have a good head on my shoulders (aka I use discernment), and am not easily manipulated.

Now this one guy I just started talking to, and to me this is so crazy. We matched on Feeld, he ticked all the initial boxes, plus he’s VERY hot (we did video call and he is real). He’s a pleasure dom, our kinks are compatible, he’s experienced, he’s from my city, he’s older than me. We talked a lot and I was like omg, did I finally find a potential dom that’s actually near me (after connecting with some online/overseas).

Here’s where it gets crazy (to me at least), he wants to talk for 2 weeks, get to know each other, then meet and go on a date - and at the end of the date if we’re both on board he wants to claim me. I must leave 24-48 hours after open, so that he can “claim” me sexually, so that I have no doubt in my mind who my body belongs to, “it is very intense and you need to be able to last” (his words). While I love the idea of being claimed… the first time we meet is crazy to me?!

I voiced this and he said there needs to be a clear line of “before him” and “after him”, so that’s why it needs to be the first time. He said if I don’t like him after the date that’s completely fine and there’s no pressure, but if I do like him/want to keep seeing him then I have to be claimed. But wait there’s more…

He asked when the last time I slept with someone was because I mentioned I had been celibate, when I told him he goes “ok I’m going to be honest… but you won’t last… but hope isn’t lost. But it will require you to be very busy these next two weeks… but there will be ground rules”
He then tells me I’ll need to sleep with many different guys over the next two weeks to “warm up” for him, because he really wants me to last. That it can’t be the same guy twice, and there has to be no feelings involved. And he wants me to take a picture of myself and send it to him before and after each guy.

I’m shocked, does he really expect me to do all that before I’ve even met him, and then be claimed by him on the first date!!! Apparently after I’m claimed we’re exclusive to each other unless he says otherwise…
When I told him that I thought that was crazy for a first date, he goes “it’s obvious you’ve never been with a dom before” 🤣🤣🤣

Yeah so I’m actually speechless. Do people actually do that? Or did he just think he could take advantage of a new/young sub? It’s a shame because everything he said was really hot and I did like his energy (prior lol), and I would like to be claimed… after a few months NOT the first meet…

Edit: I just wanna clarify for everyone that I already ran and blocked him before making this post, so don’t worry thanks guys!! I just wanted to share because of how crazy it was, and I was like maybe there’s people out there who do actually operate like that, so I was more just curious. I’m glad I trusted my judgment- but I mean I’d have to be colourblind not to see those red flags lol

Ok so I’m new to this and I’ve been talking to this dom for well over a month now. I know he’s not MY dom yet, just a dom, but we definitely are establishing a dynamic.

He just texted me and gave me an order for next week (he’s been helping me go to the gym and bettering myself), and it feels right to respond “yes sir” - but we haven’t discussed titles yet.

For context he has called me some pet names before, I got a “good girl” once, and a “kitten” once. And now he teasingly calls me “gym toy” because that’s our latest project . I feigned offence at first and he said it was his new nickname for me, I asked “what should my nickname be for you then?” Hoping he’d tell me, but he responded “that’s your problem to figure out“ lol. But I think he was referring to a silly nickname and not an actual title.

Should I respond with “yes sir” and then ask if it’s ok that I called him that? Or should I wait for him to establish titles? If anything I’d want him to be daddy, but we haven’t talked about that yet. And sir feels right in this moment.
Ahhh I’m definitely overthinking. I’m new to this though, idk how it works 😅

I wanted to share this somewhere because I don’t have friends that would understand!

I’ve always been submissive in bed but it’s only recently (like the last few months) that I’ve really discovered bdsm and my kinks. And omg, it’s like a missing puzzle piece!

After a lot of self discovery, I’ve connected to this guy recently and turns out he is a dom. Now I’ve talked to experienced/older doms already, but this guy is just a regular guy I connected with not through the scene, who just so happens to be sexually compatible with me.
We’re in different countries and it’s online, but we talk on the phone/video call, but it’s safe to say we developed a dynamic pretty quickly, it’s very natural. Now even though I’m new to this all, I have my wits about me, I could never actually do long distance and it hasn’t been long, I haven’t met the guy. BUT -

Omg the way he talks to me makes me melt, it does something to me. When we sext and I go into sub mode it’s like that missing puzzle piece I’ve needed all along. My body has never reacted to anything like this before! In the past I’ve only ever been able to orgasm from clitoral stimulation, I’ve just accepted the fact I’m one of those woman who can’t orgasm through penetration alone. Now literally just from talking to him (it’s not him - it’s the way he talks to me, the dynamic, the sub mode I enter), I can orgasm from penetration just from thinking about him!! I’m not referring to sub space, I haven’t experienced that yet, I mean just being able to tap in to my sub side finally. It does something to my brain, to my body.

I’ve unlocked a whole new side of me and a whole new world now, but I already struggle finding guys worth my time irl - let alone now finding someone sexually compatible! I don’t think I’ll ever be fully satisfied in a vanilla relationship, and it makes so much sense now why I haven’t been (sexually) satisfied in the past, something always felt missing.

I’ve joined Fet but all the guys on there in my city are much older, but I mainly enjoy it for connecting with the community/a safe space to express myself.
But I’m a bit intimidated to go to an event near me alone, I wish I had a friend in the community. I want to integrate this into my actual life and not just online/in fantasy, but im not sure how to start.

Anyway, this is the start of my journey and I understand myself so much better now and it makes so much more sense!

I (F23) am a sub/brat, but I definitely have a dominant side I haven’t got to explore yet. I recently started talking to this guy (M20), we’ve sexted and he’s invited me over a few times but I haven’t come over yet.

When we sext he calls me mommy and likes when I call him good boy, and he’s also asked me to dominate him. I’m excited to explore my dominant side and have my fun with him, I’ve never been with a submissive guy or even a guy younger than me. Even just sexting I was surprised how naturally it came to me lol. He’s really hot as well…

Ive only ever been submissive in bed, so I need some tips and ideas to get me started. I’d love some ideas on how to dominant him, how should I start off the first time? I know there’s a lot of resources but it’s all a lot, and I feel like if I jumped in to full on domme mode straight away I’d feel cringe because it wouldn’t be authentic.

So I (f23) used to live with this guy (m22) last year , and he would always have friends over all the time. So there was always these guys around, and I’d purposely wear really little pj shorts, to the point where my ass cheeks were a bit out. With like an oversized shirt. The roommate had a gf but he would also get weird/jealous about his friends around me. And would always like to show me off, hug me goodnight in front of them, little things. (No this doesn’t even up with me fucking my roommate, before you get excited).

It was the first time I lived out of home, and it was such a fun period of my life, before that the only person I had slept with was my high school boyfriend and I had been celibate for like 2 years). I Could finally have guys over, and had my pick of them. My room also had two mirror wardrobes on both sides of my bed, facing each other, so it was always sooo hot, we could watch ourselves in the mirror from all angles. I remember once a guy came over who was freaked out by it lol, but I loved it.

It would sometimes ruin things if I was seeing a guy and then brought him back to my place for the first time and I live with this guy and there are like 5 other guys over. Yeah… not a great look lol. I got ghosted once because of that, valid.

Once his friend stayed the night on the couch and he texted me that he couldn’t sleep cos he was horny, so I got up and went and bounced on his cock on the couch until he came in like a few minutes, and I went back to my room to sleep without saying anything. Neither of us said anything to his friend/my roommate.

My roommate would always tell me I should do OF (bad I know, I never did it/or will ever, before you get any ideas), and I’d always be like fuck off. And then once on my friends birthday she had a costume party and I was dressed in a slutty costume. I LOVE to dress up, I would love to try role play. But anyway, I wore a choker and thigh high fishnets, and a pleated mini skirt with platform Mary Jane’s. I looked like I belonged in a calendar or something, it was actually funny how hot it was. I have juicy thighs which spilled over the top of the stockings.
I really wanted some good pics, so long story short, roommate and one of his friends, mainly his friend actually, took photos for me. They ended up directing it and it got a bit carried away (I was enjoying it). Nothing too much like I wasn’t naked, no fucking, but I was being so slutty. I was on all fours, fuck me eyes to camera, ass in the air, squatting. You get the point.
Afterwards I “accidentally” airdropped roommate some of them to say thanks (i guess idk why I did that), because they took them on my phone. My roommate and I never talked about it again.
It was even hotter that nothing sexual actually happened, I remember he helped me tie my corset up and you could cut the tension with a knife.

Another time his oldest friend came to visit from overseas, and the first night me and him slept together, it was actually really passionate and romantic, but also rough and sexy. But anyway he was only there for the weekend. The next day I invited this guy I was seeing over (I’m so bad I know) and then his friend came back (I thought he had left), and it was so awkward. Then he stayed for another few days and sort of ignored me, I remember telling him he’d “sleep so much better with me” and he still slept on the couch. Until the last night lol he came back for one more.

I definitely had my fun with the situation to say the least. It was a crazy year but no regrets.

Ok genuine question, but I’ve (f22) only slept with a handful of guys, and I’ve noticed that they usually pick me up and flip me into missionary after not that long of cowgirl. And I’m wondering if that maybe means it’s because I’m bad at it?

I notice guys always love it when I’m on top of them during foreplay/at first, tell me how hot I look etc, but once im riding after a few minutes max they usually take over and change positions.

I prefer being on the receiving end anyway, but I always try and make an effort to put in the work especially on top, because I know guys like that. I know guys don’t want to have to do all the work, so the fact they do this makes me think maybe I’m not good at it?

I don’t want to be a “starfish” and I’m always an enthusiastic and active participant lol, but I find that I usually end up being one…
I always read men saying the worst thing a woman can do in bed is be a starfish / pillow princess - but that’s what I feel like they turn me into. When they are on top I’m so focused on how good it feels that I sort of can’t do anything else.

I love wearing super short skirts and heels, looking sexy as fuck, and then dancing at the club feeling all eyes on me. I love it when guys circle me and they all watch, I love it when I wear them say “fuck” or “wow” and I shock them with the way I’m moving. I love when they come up behind me, I don’t want them to talk to me first, I don’t want them to be shy or apprehensive. I love it when they come up behind me and put their hands on me, I love grinding against them and feeling how hard they are. I love it when they push their whole body against mine and feel me up, squeeze my ass, my boobs, I love how hungry they are. I love kissing them before I even know their name, I love it when they kiss me like they need it and squeeze my ass or put their hands around my neck. I love it when I drive them wild, when they get so excited with lust, when they’re breathing all heavy, when they can’t take it anymore and they need more. I fucking love it. I love how bad they need it, it’s so hot watching it take over. And then I love being a fucking tease, playing all innocent and telling them to behave themself, saying I have to go, or telling them I won’t go home with them “I just met you” as if I didn’t just do all that… *evil laugh . I love teasing them, making them think they’re going to get it and then pulling away, it makes them so crazyyyyy. I give them my number and then they can’t stop thinking of me. Then I go home and I fuck myself thinking about how horny I made them, how I left them there unsatisfied and thirsty for more. Or I’ll text a guy in my phone who I know can fuck good to come over and finish the job. Idk why I do this.